How I Get Whatever I Want.

Hi, do u have any tips for building a thicker skin and not getting hurt easily? I've only just realized recently that I'm very sensitive, if someone talks a little rudely to me or says something rude to me, I get hurt and anxious. It's so weird because I usually do not care about what other people do or think about me. But I can't handle being treated rudely or criticism. I just have the urge to stop talking, runaway or leave if a person is even a tiny bit rude to me. help.

Hi love! I would say it's all about cultivating emotional resilience. Like any muscle, you need to train your mind to remain calmer under pressure or stressful situations. Here are some ways I think are helpful to build this skillset:

Step into difficult conversations as two people vs. a project/problem/situation. Depersonalize any criticism by objectifying the criticism of a certain behavior, action, etc. Think of it as its own entity – like an object that can float away in the wind.

Internalize that a lot of criticism/rudeness is a form of projection and says more about the other person's inner turmoil than your demeanor or character. Offering non-constructive criticism is self-destructive. Case closed.

Look inward and make it a priority to truly get to know yourself. What are your core values? Desires? Goals? How do you want to present yourself to the world? What are your likes? Dislikes? Fears? Self-knowledge gives you a blueprint of how to move forward.

Reverse your "what ifs." Instead of wondering what could go wrong by leaning into criticism and difficult situations, consider "what's the worst that can happen?" Once you ask yourself and answer this question honestly, you realize that most of the time your fear is disproportional to the likely outcome.

Consider learning to sit/be present in the discomfort to be an act of self-care. You're becoming emotionally stronger and proving to yourself that you can hold your own in any situation. Stick up for yourself but know when to silently bow out for your own sake vs run away due to perceived personal incompetence.

Hope this helps xx

Daily check in – Day 8

Workout:

Played handball in p.e (25 mins)

Thursday is my rest day:33

Steps: 10 156

Eating:

breakfast: yogurt bowl with chia seeds, blueberries, kiwi and coconut

snack: apple, ⅓ of a sandwich

lunch: a lottt of fish with broccoli, peas and carrots + ½ protein cookie, 2 chocolate brownies

dinner: baked pumpkin, a lot of whipped cream, vanilla protein pudding, greek yogurt, almonds

Water intake: 2.5 liters

Sleep: 8h and 10 minutes

Studying:

2 hours of maths tutoring

did some homework

revised for physics test (tomorrow)

read 40 pages!!!!

Screen time: really low

Self care:

NOT in the mood kinda skipped important skincare steps

Emotion of the day:

Stress and anger, I have so much to do 24/7 and the work just keeps piling up and I also got into multiple arguments today

Totally NOT happy with myself

Thougths for tomorrow:

Actually allow myself to have chocolate and not eat it while feeling guilty

I hope I do well on the physics test

skills that will never stop serving you☆ . °🪷

the ability to sell/negotiate

listening and learning from others

ability to speak in front of people

staying positive/optimistic

persisting and continuing to try regardless of failure

understanding other people’s feelings

ability to say no

making smart decisions that have a high ROI (return on investment)

managing ur own time and money

how to adapt, improvise, and overcome struggles and obstacles

asking for help

conveying what u think and feel

staying consistent (discipline)

Biggest form of self love…

Choosing yourselfೃ࿔*:･

• Set boundaries and stick with them, girl. Allowing someone to cross your boundaries and hurt you, THEN FORGIVING THEM?? No. That is like the ultimate act of anti-self love.

It can be good to give second chances and be forgiving, but you have to cut out toxic people if you want the best for yourself.

• Say ‘no’ without feeling bad. YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON. Do what YOU want to do.

• Be caring and loving towards yourself. Never neglect or hurt yourself. You are the most important person in your life, seriously.

Be kind to others while still putting yourself first.

• Push yourself a bit! Try new things, set goals, and work to improve yourself.

Sometimes self love can mean getting out of your comfort zone and growing a bit. Find new ways to be your best self.

• Relax. Pushing yourself is great, but stretching yourself out too thin is no good. Sometimes you need to rest, relax, and pamper yourself, after all you deserve it.

I love to treat myself.

Go for a peaceful walk. Take a long bath/shower. Lay in bed. Make a warming beverage. Watch your fav show/movie/Youtuber/etc. Make yourself a cute snack or a nice filling meal. Do whatever makes you feel good. <333

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1) TheWizardLiz ( Self improvement)

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2) Song Jia ( Beauty , Fashion , Self Care )

She is the ORIGINAL IT GIRL. Her vlogs always motivate to take care of oneself & have hobbies. She also posts counseling sessions , fashion & make up video too.

3) Tam kaur (Self Improvement )

She is underrated , she has really great advice . She gives affirmations & homework ( to improve oneself) Too !!

4) Lavendaire ( Self Improvement , Self care & Self love )

She is so underrated . She has self care vlogs & tips , self love tips , guided meditations , Journaling tips etc .

5) Feminine Renaissance ( Femininity)

This channel explains the feminine & masculine energy really well . They have made four videos on Song Jia analysing her behavior and mindset , they are really helpful !

6) Dear Peachie ( Beauty )

This channel is a life saver . It gives tips on styling , make up & upgrading your natural beauty .

7) Dasha Taran ( Self care & Beauty )

She posts self care vlogs - Hair care , working out , skincare etc . She also posts make up tutorials.

8) Fayefilms ( Academics )

This channel really helped me when it comes to studying. She has studying tips & solution for every problem !

🎀🧁Consume content that makes you feel better & helps you become best version of yourself . Please avoid videos which spread rumors /drama/ gossip or hate & negativity in the name of " opinion " . Protect your energy 🎀🧁

⭐Vitamin Cheat Sheet⭐

Vitamin A: Vision, immune system, skin health.

Vitamin B1 (Thiamine): Energy metabolism, nerve function.

Vitamin B2 (Riboflavin): Energy production, skin health.

Vitamin B3 (Niacin): Cellular energy production, skin health.

Vitamin B5 (Pantothenic Acid): Metabolism, hormone production.

Vitamin B6: Brain function, mood regulation.

Vitamin B7 (Biotin): Healthy hair, skin, and nails.

Vitamin B9 (Folate): Cell division, DNA synthesis.

Vitamin B12: Nervous system, red blood cells.

Vitamin C: Immune system, collagen synthesis.

Vitamin D: Bone health, immune function.

Vitamin E: Antioxidant, skin health.

Vitamin K: Blood clotting, bone health.

Calcium: Bone and teeth health, muscle function.

Iron: Oxygen transport, energy production.

Magnesium: Nerve function, muscle relaxation.

Zinc: Immune system, wound healing.

Potassium: Fluid balance, nerve function.

Iodine: Thyroid function, metabolism.

Selenium: Antioxidant, thyroid health.

all about mobility

what is mobility & how is it different from flexibility?

mobility is the ability of the joints to move through their full range of motion, while flexibility is the ability of the muscles to temporarily stretch.

why do mobility training?

there are many different benefits of mobility training, including:

increased flexibility

reduced risk of injury

improving joint & muscle health

improving range of motion

improving posture

gaining muscle strength

balance & stability

reducing pain & stiffness in the body

when should i start?

now! there’s a common misconception that you shouldn’t need mobility training until you are in your later years and your mobility starts to decline, but mobility training is useful no matter your age. in fact, the sooner you start, the less mobility & joint problems you will experience as you age.

how often should i train mobility?

mobility training is safe and beneficial to do daily, but ideally, you should try to train mobility at least 5 times per week for at least 5-10 minutes each time.

routines:

10 minute mobility workout by growingannanas

10 minute mobility for neglected joints by julia.reppel

15 minute daily mobility routine by julia.reppel

15 minute mobility stretch by growingannanas

20 minute slow mobility & stretch by julia.reppel

20 minute full body mobility warm up by leanbeefpatty

20 minute spinal mobility by julia.reppel

20 minute mobility workout by julia.reppel

20 minute rest day mobility flow by julia.reppel

20 minute pilates x mobility by julia.reppel

20 minute full body mobility by julia.reppel

25 minute full body stretch & mobility by madfit

25 minute mobility workout by julia.reppel

25 minute yoga for mobility by jess yoga

25 minute rest day mobility by julia.reppel

25 minute low impact mobility workout by julia.reppel

25 minute mobility workout by marie steffen

30 minute full body primal mobility by julia.reppel

30 minute primal mobility workout by julia.reppel

30 minute mobility yoga for athletes by charlie follows

30 minute beginner-friendly mobility flow by julia.reppel

30 minute mobility workout by fitness__kaykay

30 minute active recovery workout by heather robertson

30 minute core strength & shoulder mobility by heather robertson

35 minute yoga fusion workout by heather robertson

40 minute mobility & dynamic stretching by heather robertson

40 minute abs & hip mobility by heather robertson

40 minute core strength & back mobility by heather robertson

40 minute core strength & mobility by heather robertson

40 minute core & shoulder mobility by heather robertson

40 minute abs & mobility by heather robertson

44 minute core & full body mobility by heather robertson

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applying the law˚₊‧꒰ა ☆🫧໒꒱ ‧₊˚

so if yk about the law of assumption or if ur active in the loa community at all, you know that its not enough to consume loa content but you must APPLY. in this post i'll tell u what that means.

"all that is required of you to manifest ur desire is for you to have a fixed attention on the fulfillment of it"

u need to be aware of where ur attention is and to be conscious of who you are BEING at any given moment. not for 5 minutes, or 5 hours but DOMINANTLY. discipline urself to pay attention and keep ur thoughts and state in check.

with the use of affirmations and imagination you'll build a stable feeling that u can tap into whenever u want. go back to ur imagination and familiarize yourself with the state of having what u desire, if u can't maintain that state for more than a couple seconds your not familiar enough with it.

sustain the feeling.

20 NIGHT JOURNAL PROMPTS TO CLEAR YOUR MIND BEFORE BEDTIME

1. what's on my mind right now?

2. how am i feeling right now?

3. write down one word to describe my day (calm or hectic, productive or unproductive, etc.) and write a sentence about it (today was calm because i did my morning routine and that helped me stay in the present moment)

4. what am i grateful for today?

5. emotions i felt today include...

6. what did i do today to make myself proud?

7. what did i learn about myself today?

8. what is something I accomplished today, big or small, and how did it make me feel?

9. something that bothered me today was...

10. how did I handle any stress or anxiety that came up today?

11. have i done anything to make someone else happy today?

12. write one thing that made me feel loved today.

13. what do i want to take from today into tomorrow?

14. what's my word for tomorrow?

15. what would i like tomorrow to bring me?

16. if i could change one thing about my behavior today, what would it be?

17. what is a meaningful conversation I had today and why did it stand out?

18. what are my top three priorities for tomorrow?

19. what's one thing I can do to improve tomorrow based on today's experiences?

20. how do i want to feel when i wake up tomorrow morning?