When you were born, you didn’t come with an owner’s manual. Here are some guidelines make life easier.
“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.”
(Helen Keller)
1. You will receive a body – Where you love it or hate it, It’s yours for life.
2. You will learn lessons – Life is a constant learning experience, in which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more.
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons – Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgement of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine, it’s also ‘the act of erasing an emotional debt’.
4. A lesson is repeated until it is learned – Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons. They will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you.
5. Learning lessons does not end – While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the ‘rhythm of life’, don’t struggle against it. Be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to.
7. Others are merely mirrors of you – You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings.
8. What you make of your life is up to you – You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don’t get angry about things.
9. The answers lie inside you – Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration.
Lastly you will forget all this at birth as we are all born with all of these capabilities. Our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit.
Adaptations of this list have been widely-circulated online as the 9 Rules for Being Human (Handed Down from Ancient Sanskrit) however the original source is actually Chérie Carter-Scott, a corporate trainer and consultant, who composed the list which she named “The Ten Rules for Being Human” for or one of her workshops several years ago.
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Woo, I’ve got a lot of reading to do…
If you’ve read any of these books please share your perspectives on them - or add recommendations of your own not seen here!
Some particularly potent (and sometimes painful…looking at you The Color Purple) reads I personally recommend from the list:
The Color Purple by Alice Walker
The Autobiography Of Malcolm X
Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe
Akata Witch by Nnedi Okorafor
Also, Mod Alice loves and recommends all things Octavia E. Butler.
-Mod Colette, WWC
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Just guess how much I love this job
I use to hate myself Till I met myself I’m still getting to know myself But I’m falling in love 💕 This has been the year of awakening The year of truth and honesty 🌞 I’ve developed a small obsession with myself. I have become very curious of the body I posses. I take a billion selfies because I like to explore the trillions of different angles that I use to hate. I don’t shave because I want to understand and embrace my natural body I don’t wear bras because I want to embrace my natural being and understand my bodies natural self. I don’t wear make up most days because I want to embrace and understand my natural face. 💕 I use to hate me because I wasn’t happy with how other people saw me. I use to hate me because I tried to live freely but I couldn’t because freedom comes with a love that I truly did not understand. 🌞 If God is Love And love is love is love Then I must know the God in me to share my God with you I must love myself to love someone else I must be love to share love I must know love to be love I must know love to share love If love is love is love To be loved is to love To love, you must know what Love is If love is love and God is love Then I Love the God that Loved me I love the God that loves I love the Love that told me it was okay to love I love the love that said “hey buddy you don’t need someone to make you smile , you got me, God, Me, Love, You got me here inside you. Just look and see.” 🖤 I’m looking I’m seeing I dig
All I want
All we want
Is to be heard, seen, and accepted
I understand that we all cannot be perfect. I understand that we all may not get along.
Lifestyles are different and I respect that
I am constantly respecting and understanding everyone else
But I ..
I still don’t feel accepted or understood.
I hear you when you say this is you
But hear me when I say this is me
I will not stop loving
I will not stop understanding
I will not stop
But one day I hope I don’t have to feel alone
One day I hope to be surrounded with energy that matches mine
One day I want to be surrounded by energy that wants to give as equally as it receives
I want to live in a light love
One that matches, and/or, amplifies the light and love that I do my best to put out
And when the burden of love breaks
I want to be understood why it broke , how I ended up here.
Forgive me for the one mistake I made when 90% of the time I am the complete opposite
I pray to one day be understood
I pray to one day live happily in a grace of bliss
One where I am unbothered by the burden of loving.
I love to love but sometimes when it’s not received it hurts and that’s the truth.
I can’t expect people to see or understand why I want to be there and be a light for them. But when they don’t understand I also can’t be upset that they didn’t accept it. I can’t expect people to see the light.
All I can do is continue to love and not worry
It’ll be received
They will be blessed
I will be blessed
Gods got me
I need to keep living
I need to keep loving
Weither it was asked for or not I should do everything with the utmost love and kindness in my heart.
That is the only way to love and the only way to make it
I have to keep doing it because that’s me, I can’t stop being myself.
I can’t hate myself for others not getting me, I can’t hate myself for putting myself out there and being rejected. I can’t hate myself for having a loving spirit. That’s not something that’s wrong.
I am not alone, I am loved.
Gods got me
I am a caterpillar who cocoons every other season.
Sure I change
Sure I transform
But never just once
She
They
Ze
Bri
Nova
Greene
Gause
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Jesus
I just want to be who you called me to be
Speak to those who you need to hear just from me
I have a purpose and a calling and I move from person to person
From moment to moment
Picking up what I can and need so I can help someone else in need
Universe
I don’t know why but I’ve been thinking about my self as a mother.
I always have.
Since I was a baby
I assumed I was everyone’s mom
I would baby kids my age
As I grew I continued to care for kids my age,
younger,
And then older.
I always dreamed about the hobbies they’d have,
The summer vacations,
I wanted a happy family
I wanted to raise kids to be free to express themselves
Free enough to come to me with anything
Free enough to explore their own lives
And free enough to share their greatness with the world
I’ve always done good hoping to lead by example
And I wanted to raise children who would do the same
I wanted boys who knew how to act and treat women
And girls who would love themselves and help others find that love inside as well
I wanted them to be beautifully contagious
I wanted to raise boys first who knew the meaning of brotherhood
And family
To be strong and selfless
I wanted girls who knew how to be little sisters.
Following under their big brothers footsteps enough to know how to be tough and yet step up to be their own leaders.
I’ve been thinkning about being pregnant
And what it would be like to carry a creation to its grand entrance into This life
I’ve been watching my husband
I watch him interact with babies and his nieces and nephews
And it puts me at peace
I watch him talk to them
Play with them
Teach them the meaning of words
I watch him dance like a dad and I know well be fine
He’s not yet ready to be someone’s husband
As I’m not yet ready to be a wife
But I know that together well be okay
I see him yearning to set an example as a father
And I know well be okay
I see myself watching children
Just trying to figure out what they need and how to make sure they know they’re loved
And I know my children will be alright
I’m not ready for diapers and rashes
But I know past that
Are futures
Dreams
Plans
And it’ll be my job to support them
That I’m excited for