Pov: Mav Gets Ignored At The Dinner Party

darkstar mav 👀

a word of positivity for my fellow men (and nonbinary ftnbs) who want bottom surgery

you don't have to live with bottom dysphoria all your life. go get that surgery. post-op dick is so cool. don't feel like you aren't allowed to get it, it's your body.

some media recommendations

I haven't read it myself, but I saw this recommended here: Hung Jury by Trystan T. Cotten. It’s a collection of testimonials from FtMs who have had bottom surgery, including their reasons, details about some of their procedures, and individual satisfaction ratings, and it includes testimonials from several trans men of color!

on Tumblr I know the user virgo-cocks posts about their bottom surgery.

on YouTube I know Jammidoger posts about his bottom surgery (and other trans stuff)

subreddits: r/EverythingPhallo and r/ftm_phallo

if anyone has any other recommendations please add on

(not verified by me), suggestions:

@ Answersfromtheshadows, dedicated to answering questions about their phallo

FinnThelnfinncible (Finlaygames) has a series of videos about his experience with phallo over the years

edit 2: another suggestion

finlay games wrote a book about his experience getting phallo titled "top to bottom"

edit 3:

r/Metoidioplasty is another great subreddit about bottom surgery!

edit 4:

tumblr user nyo-hoho is also post-op and accepting questions

edit 5:

r/phallo is apparently back up!

edit 6:

I just remembered phallo dot net and metoidioplasty dot net exist

random snippets of Old trans FTM newsletters

Tony Rome and Ron Nichols (Airman and The Sailor), Los Angeles, c. 1971

Photography by Bob Mizer

- Silas Denver Melvin @sweatermuppet, Grit Poetry Collection

icemav wedding

An (almost) no touch night, where they still make it work because the world didn’t end when they were in college

Feat. King Fluffkins and Sir Fat Cat McCatson

I’m actually kind of amazed how many people do not understand this concept

trans people who are anti t4t make me so sad. because beyond just not knowing what being t4t means, the fact that they believe that t4t is just being a chaser is indicative of a deeper issue, being that cis people have ingrained the idea that we are unfuckable and unloveable, disgusting by nature, and that anybody who would voice attraction to us, a step further, ONLY CHOOSE TO DATE TRANS PEOPLE, would be a pervert with a disgusting fetish who wont see them as equal.

thats not what t4t is.

t4t is the rejection of the idea that we are inherently disgusting, just because we are in the eyes of a cisnormative society.

t4t is the understanding that we are safer and stronger together as a community than apart.

t4t is seeing your trans boyfriend try on clothes from your old boy wardrobe that you hated growing up but now your least favorite shirt is your favorite because its the perfect shade of red that brings out his eyes.

t4t is teaching your trans girlfriend that has been scared to do her own makeup how youve learned from other trans women, who learned from other trans women, who learned from other trans women.

t4t is doing your testosterone shots together and kissing each others sticks after you put the bandaid on.

t4t is holding the door for your trans girlfriend and showing her the chivalry she didn't get from her dad growing up, but its ok because you can show her now.

t4t is being on the phone with your partner who just came out as trans/nonbinary after seeing you, YOU, live your truth, and them asking you to help them find a new name, the perfect name for them, and you hope theyll carry that part of you forever.

you are trans and that is beautiful. your transness is beautiful. trans love is beautiful. dont let ANYBODY make you feel unworthy of sex or love. THATS what being t4t means.