- Silas Denver Melvin @sweatermuppet, Grit Poetry Collection

Remembering the time in college when I had thought the girl I was hooking up with was aware of my trans status

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collection of posts for a very specific dynamic

An article written by Delisa Newton for Sepia Publishing (1966)

Slimav for the soul

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How to choose clothing/shoe sizes during transition - clothing on smaller feet and frames

Formal Wear - how to dress formally during transition.

Need to speak to someone? Do you need help with your legal name change? Please click here. Translifeline.org

USA Safe States for Trans-People (Constantly Updated by the website Owner)

What to Update After Legal Name Change

Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) Testosterone - storage, travel, and injection advice

Facial Hair Information- Tips and Tricks on How to Shave (HRT)

Frequently Asked Questions about Phalloplasty - My [personal] Experiences

How can one ejaculate after phalloplasty procedure? -ask answered.

Common Phalloplasty Misconceptions- Article

Male Mannerisms- help to know male gestures, wording, and attitude- (ask)

Beginning testosterone, testosterone hormone therapy

Testosterone Experiences That Caught Me Off Guard - (Ask)

Safe Binding and Packing - Articles Purchase Sites Also

Staying Stealth During Surgeries, Explaing Scarring - advice (ask)

Top Surgery (both ftm & mtf), procedures, and approximate costs.

Can I have top surgery and be overweight?

Keyhole Top Surgery Procdure- Outline and what qualifies you as a potential candidate

Finding a Top Surgeron in North America

So You Just Had Surgery (Top)- Advice on the best way to heal after surgery/ minimize scarring.

Is more time on the operating table really better? Operating time and infection information.

Metoidioplasty FAQ

My arm and upper thigh after about a decade after phalloplasty.

My Personal Surgeon and Their Clinic

Interview with Dr. Chen about Bottom Surgery

Penile/ Phalloplasty Erectile Devices

Expectations- Personal Advice on Setting Expectations

Urethra lengthening Procedure Information- Self written article.

Importance of Uriologist

Phalloplasty Website - Includes Parents Guide

Urethra Lengthening Procedure

General Surgical Risks

Plus Sized Surgery Risks

List of Phalloplasty Surgerons in the USA

Vaginal-Perservering Phalloplasty Procedure

Graft SiteCare for Forearm -Free Flap Phalloplasty

What Happens if Erectile Device Breaks?

Image of My Phalloplasty (wearing underwear) Educational Purposes Only

Phalloplasty Procedure Outline by GRS Montreal - (Link to Webpage)

First Every Phalloplasty Procedure - Surgeon

Michael Dillon- Trans Pioneer (First phalloplasty patient)

How to Find Proper Sources of Information in a World of False Information/ Online Safety

Why certain terms can be hurtful. Please respect my/others views.

Tattooing over your forearm skin graft -ask

Testosterone and Hair Loss Information

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Do we ever stop needing domestic fluff? Trusted sources point to 'no'. It's Ice's pyamas (gag gift from Slider that Ice became unexpectedly fond of) and then Mav saw them and went 'OUR pyamas'

*in the fading light*

[ID: A digital illustration of a gay trans couple sharing an intimate moment , drawn in two panels. The top panel features the couple cropped close, just showing them kissing, with a transparent starburst around their mouths. The second larger panel is cropped from the shoulders to the thigh. One figure is in the center, sprawled back as their partner touches their stomach and kisses their shoulder. They are both shirtless with top surgery scars, and the center figure has boxers on. There is a third narrow panel on the left side, showing a simple skyscape of a orange star falling through clouds. The whole illustration is done in a restricted palette of soft warm green and teal, with pops of orange. /. End ID]

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I spent 3 years in the army and was stationed in Bavaria for that whole time. And I think it’s funny how military characters are portrayed in fiction 90% of the time. Half of that is unfamiliarity on the part of creators(no matter how many military consultants they bring on) and half of that is the front soldiers put on to civilians. A few things that might not have been made clear so far, in case anyone is writing characters who are or were soldiers and are looking for more insight: 

They’re not all hard-asses- mostly soldiers are just kids(the main age group the military advertises to and targets in recruitment) not unlike college kids. The difference is they have a 24 hour job and some handle it differently than others. Suicide and depression are huge issues in the military and once people leave. You spend a minimum of 3 years(unless booted or chaptered out for medical reasons) in a completely different world living by completely different rules. It’s jarring for some and sometimes 14 weeks of basic training, which is designed to basically indoctrinate you- break you down and build you back up again into what the military calls for, is not enough to get a kid suited for that kind of life. It’s not for everybody and unfortunately, some don’t find that out until it’s too late. You can’t just quit the Army obviously, so you have to spend 3 years in misery until you’re set loose(me).

Guys who have been in for 1-5 years are pretty normal, usually. A military base is pretty much a microcosm of regular society, except Monday through Friday, 0600 to 1700, we’re all doing jobs geared to one purpose. They’re not all consulate cardboard professionals. Soldiers like the same movies, they like the same video games, there’s nerds who play D&D or LARP on the weekend, there’s guys who do photography in their spare time for couples and families on base. A buddy of mine is in the process of getting his first novel(first in a fantasy series) published. I’m proud of you Davis! 

I can only say this about the Army because that’s where I was, but… The Army is filled with the gayest straight guys you’ll ever meet lmao. Seriously though, 70-80% of guys in the military, especially the younger ones who grew up in the late 90s to early 2000s, are hyper comfortable with their sexuality. Sometimes it goes overboard. I mean, we spent every day together at work, all day. We did a bunch of stupid, senseless shit together and complained about it together. On the weekends, in which we were cut loose, we all lived in the same barracks buildings and saw each other if we weren’t already hanging out anyways. I’ve seen some of the most homoerotic behavior in the military. Gay chicken was a thing. Two guys would lean in and kiss to see who would back out first. But when neither one is scared, gay chicken turns into two guys damn near making out, or taking a bite of food the other guy had in his teeth. We cuddled together in the cold during training exercises, jokingly held hands in morning formation just to get a reaction from our leadership(usually just for them to roll their eyes and ask if we were done). 

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