♡ Black Girl Summer ♡

THINGS TO REMEMBER 🩷

Hi girls!! Here are some friendly reminders that we often forget to tell ourselves in moments of despair/worry.

1. It’s okay to fail

Failing is a part of life, and unfortunately, no matter how hard we try to fight it, is ultimately inevitable. Embrace your failures and learn from them.

2. You don’t have to be a superhero

Don’t force yourself to do things for others when you don’t want to. If your friendships and relationships are solely based on what you offer them in terms of services, that is not a relationship you want to keep.

3. Bad days will happen

It doesn’t mean that you’re experiencing a bad day that you are “cursed” or “unlucky”. Bad days are bound to happen for everyone, don’t let them affect you too profoundly. Try to find positivity in those moments of negativity.

4. You know yourself better than anyone

You should trust your gut 100000% of the time. If something feels off, it most likely is. Never feel sorry for trusting your instincts and what your body is telling you.

5. Don’t let anyone tell you what you can/can’t do

This one parallels with my previous point, but do not let anyone, and i mean anyone, tell you what you can or cannot achieve. If you want to do something, do it. If they say you can’t, prove them damn wrong.

Sending you love,

A girl unfiltered 💋

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hiii ! i love your post about being audacious 🩷 do you have any tips about improving people skills/ being more charismatic? thank youuuu 🤭

Hello girlll!!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the audacious post. It's one of my fav tbh I literally came up with it while I was cooking. So coming to your question let me see how I can help you out tbh I share my opinions and what has worked for me so far. So practice discernment and take everything with a pinch of salt✨✨

Tips to improve People Skills/ Being more Charismatic:

1) Find your USP:

USP means Unique Selling Proposition. What makes you unique and I mean it in a personality sense more here. You can extend it to your looks but start from a personality trait cause it will be forever and very personal to you. Even if someone copies it, it will always be a cheap one.

I will elaborate on this with an example:

One of my ex colleagues was really good at socializing. He was 27 years old but I kid you not he looked like a 20 year old or even younger at times. He had a boyish charm and he used it to his full advantage. He literally had a child's energy and would jump here and there in the office, act like a literal child when not working. He had a refreshing energy to him the type that reminds you of your childhood days. Heck after a meeting with the CEO he used to watch cartoons to destress and made us watch it too so we could also relax but when it came to work he was smart, efficient and knew how to use his easy going socializing energy to generate sales. So you get my point right?? Find what attracts people to you or what value you can offer to them.

2) Knowledge. Education.

I personally swear by this. Be as disgustingly educated as possible. Know about various topics at least the basics of current trends or what's hot and some off topics. This adds dimension to your personality and helps you to hold a conversation with anyone. Plus you never run out of topics to speak on.

3) Confidence. No elaboration needed.

4)Sense of humour.

Why bore people to death by reciting the merciless nature of Julius Caesar when you could present it as a joke when something relatable comes up??? People are more likely to find you charismatic if you can make them laugh.

5) Master the art of Storytelling

This!!! Right here is a cheat code I tell you. You don't have much knowledge to speak on for now? Fine as you gradually work on it hold conversations by sharing bits of your life in a colorful way. Engage people with your life stories. Make them fun and a little dramatic. I am not advising you to lie. There's always a way you can convey something in an entertaining manner. Master it. I personally use it a lot and it's fun to connect with people cause they too loosen up and share their stories and then you link it up with your sense of humour by adding a nice comment or comeback.

Warning : Never share details that are very personal to you. Only share funny incidents and situations that won't bring you in trouble if gossiped about. Practice with discernment.

6) Learn positive body language and develop empathy. Empathy truly helps you in connecting with people on a deeper level and creating a bond based on trust and emotions.

7) Smile. Don't grin like a fool but when you see someone you know make a note to address them. Wish them good morning ,etc . Pass a genuine smile towards them. Be polite.

8) Be genuinely interested in other people but not in a nosy way instead in a healthy way. Help them out if you can. A good deed never goes to waste.

9) Have a positive outlook on everything. No one wants a pessimistic person around them. Even on days you can't. You know the mantra ," Fake it till you make it".

10) Support people. Be kind. Soft spoken. Know your place. Don't downplay yourself in front of people who are clearly not at your level and don't overestimate yourself in front of people who are professionals in those fields. Get a grip on how to act with whom. You won't know it until and unless you won't do it. Have a strong sense of self, be opinionated, confident and be witty. It's fun that way. Push your limits and don't be afraid to network with new people and talk to strangers. Who knows what will happen??

Possibilities are endless.

I hope this helps you out✨✨

no one:

not a soul:

me: WE CAN'T BE FRIENDS, BUT I'D LIKE TO JUST PRE-TEND, YOU CLING TO YOUR PAPERS AND PENS WAIT UNTIL YOU LIKE ME AGAIN (WAIT FOR YOUR LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE)

You will experience different types of love but the healthiest love will come when you have a healthy relationship with yourself.