With a million things to do, where do we find the time? Sometimes it can be so easy to just procrastinate, not do your work and keep pushing it back till it's too late. Let's not do that anymore.
5-minute rule - start small. If you've been putting something off for a long time, trying to commit 1 hour to it can be challenging. You can't do a marathon without a warm-up first! Could you set a timer for 5 minutes to do that task? After 5 minutes if you want to continue, go for it; if you don't, that's okay, because at least you've done 5 minutes today, which is better than 0. Tomorrow or later in the day, try to challenge yourself to do 7 minutes this time, then 10, then 15, and you will get into that rhythm.
Eliminate distractions - it's all because of that damn phone 🙄 but seriously, tech and social media can have such a tight grip over our productivity and our attention. If you cannot control your usage, set app timers that lock the app after you use it for a certain amount of time or delete the app. I've been using a minimalist phone launcher called 'OLauncher' that removes all my icons and makes me manually have to type and search for the app. In the time it takes me to search for the app, I get to ask myself, "What am I looking for? Do I need to use it for something specific or do I just want to scroll?"
Schedule properly - note down all your commitments and non-negotiables in an app like Google Calendar and make sure all your big events are displayed there. Some people can fall into the habit of planning every second of their day, but I instead delegate a few tasks to each day and give myself any time within the day to complete them, the important thing being not when I do them, but that I do them in the end.
Write to-do lists - now this doesn't just mean in-app lists, which are very useful. Physically write them out. I use a scrap piece of paper and I write: "Today I WILL..." and then list all the things I want to get done. Having it written down helps me commit to it more and the feeling of ticking it is so satisfying.
Know your WHY - Why are you doing this? Why do you want to be more productive? Why do you want to study more? Always look at the bigger picture. Where do you want to be and how will your productivity help you get there?
Celebrate your wins - whether you completed all the things on your to-do list or just one, be proud of it. Some days, you will feel super motivated and fly through all your tasks, and other days you just want to stay in bed and do nothing. Making an effort is the first step to your success.
No matter whether your goal is to complete a project, get good grades, get into the school of your dreams, or just get your work out of the way so you can focus on other things, tackle it little by little. Just 20 minutes every day for a week is better than trying to do 140 minutes worth of work on the last day.
10 of my favorite easy glow up tips! 𐙚 ‧₊˚ ⋅
get a gua sha!! not expensive at all and made such a difference in my face shape and carving out my cheek bones and jawline. there’s lots of good tutorials on tiktok or youtube!
tea in the morning/night! there’s so many teas to help with different things but my favorite’s are spearmint tea for clearing skin and green tea for reducing bloating.
ice your face! helps SO much with de-puffing and closing up your pores! dipping your face in a bowl with ice water can reduce inflammation, help with acne and reduce oily skin!
make sure to get enough sleep! It’s so easy to stay up scrolling on tumblr until the sun comes up but getting enough sleep is so important mentally and physically!
find a skincare routine that works for you and remember too much skincare can be bad for your skin! my skin was breaking out the worst when i was using a bunch of skincare and It’s cleared so much since i simplified my routine.
use a lash/brow serum! my favorite brand is grande lash and it’s a little pricey but using castor oil works as well and it’s super affordable.
going on walks! I’ve never been a fan of intense exercises and I’m a chronic bed rotter but putting on my favorite hot girl playlist and strutting on the treadmill/sidewalk is genuinely so fun!
rosemary oil for hair growth! my holy grail of hair growth products along with a scalp massager. my whole life my hair grew so slow and since using rosemary oil i have to trim my bangs twice a month sometimes!
i cannot stress this one enough..wear what YOU want! don’t let new trends or judgment from others stop you from embracing your true style. we look our best when we feel most confident!
most importantly ~ take care of yourself! make sure you’re eating enough, drinking water, listening to your body and being gentle with yourself always. improving ourselves can be so fun but make sure it’s not at the expense of your mental health <3
fictional study icons guide, part 2: elle woods
relentlessly chase your goals
similar to rory, elle set her sights on harvard law and let nothing get in her way. people doubted her, she had no background in law, and nevertheless she made it happen. having a goal and wanting something is one thing, but you have to make it happen. elle spoke with an academic counselor, created a plan for herself, and meticulously checked off all the requirements. you can’t just sit around and hope you get what you want! determine the end goal, outline all the steps that you need to take to get there, and get to it.
have faith in yourself
throughout the process of getting into and attending harvard law, elle dealt with so many people who doubted her, were mean, and underestimated her. if she listened to all those people, she never would have applied or stayed in law school. no one knows you like you know yourself, so do not let strangers’ negative opinions of you rule your life. people assumed elle was unintelligent and not fit for law school, but she knew that she could succeed and she did. no one decides what you can or can’t do but you. tune out any criticism that isn’t constructive, focus on your strengths, and seek your goals.
let your personality shine
elle always had a strong sense of self. even when she started going to law school, in a totally new environment from her previous college, she stayed true to her personality. she continued dressing in pink outfits, getting her hair & nails done, and got school supplies to match her girly aesthetic. when you go to class, let your personality show through your outfits, accessories, school supplies - find little ways to bring yourself happiness through self- expression. especially when school and classes might seem to rule your life, these small personal touches will help keep you positive.
study with others
elle used the tactic of studying with others to help stay focused & accountable. when she was studying for the lsat, she had one of her sorority sisters keep her on track & practice with her. for some, it can be helpful to “body double,” or to have someone else with you while you study/ work to keep you on task. it might also help to have a study buddy to quiz you and work through problems together. at harvard she also tries to join a study group, which shows she generally thrives when studying/ working in a group setting. if this is something that works for you, find a classmate or group of classmates willing to meet up & body double or study together!
stay active
nowadays, a lot of schooling requires you to either sit at a laptop or hunch over notes for countless hours of your day. being seated for so long with questionable posture is not good for you, humans are meant to be active! elle is shown walking on a treadmill while she studies, and combining physical activity with schoolwork can be really effective for some. engaging your body while engaging your mind might help you focus better. otherwise, try to get some daily movement to give your body a break from being stiff & seated. find physical activity that you enjoy - going for walks outdoors, taking a sports class, hitting the gym, doing a youtube workout video, playing music & dancing like a maniac - move your body and have fun with it! in the words of elle, “exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy.”
pet therapy!
elle woods is always accompanied by her beloved chihuahua bruiser. spending time with animals is a great way to boost your mood & relieve stress. if you have a pet, spending time with them, petting them, having them in your lap or nearby are all ways you can take advantage of their presence to feel happier & more relaxed.
that’s all! elle is such an inspiration to me tbh. she really embodies that being true to yourself & being kind to others are the keys to success. good luck in your studies! 🩷
How do I stop obsessing over the past and move forward?
ALLOW YOURSELF TO DWELL. There is a reason why you are stuck in the past, and you’re only going to find out by actually processing what happened. Maybe you have unanswered questions, owe or owed an apology or you miss how things are and wonder how things can go back.
That being said, as soon as you fulfil the missing puzzle in the past, you need to cut off that clinginess.
IDENTIFY THOUGHTS AND FACTS. This is a grounding technique, as soon as you start thinking of the past and how things could’ve gone if maybe this happened; Go through your thoughts and sort them out as wishful or regretful thinking and what happened or is going to happen. This helps to bring us back to the present moment and to be aware of it.
IS IT A PROBLEM? Is your past catching up to you and forcing you into the past, or are you just imagining what might happen? One is an actual problematic circumstance, and the other is just your imagination/mindset.
PUT IT INTO PERSPECTIVE, usually from a third person's POV. If they witnessed what happened, without knowing all the extra details, would they consider it a big deal? This does even apply to a happy past, like would they see that the friends that you grew out to be a big deal, as you can always make new friends?
TURN YOUR PASTS INTO LESSONS. Not all lessons stem from bad events by the way. You have to start seeing your past as a tool, as something that can help you grow and reinvent yourself to be better as ever, not a burden on you that you want to erase.
JOURNAL. Document what happened, either vaguely, or in great detail, then just throw it away as a symbol that it is now in the past and it will no longer have a hold on you.
MEDITATE. Another grounding technique, but there are great guided meditations on YouTube that help with managing things from the past and learning how to look forward to the present.
IDENTIFY TRIGGERS. When you are put in a similar circumstance or around similar people, do you start thinking about the past again? If so, I want you to process and heal from it, then train yourself to dissociate from what happened with that environment.
DISTRACT YOURSELF WITH THE PRESENT. Start doing things that are scary and you are forced to just focus on that one scary thing instead of the past. This is a quick fix though.
Hii
Do you have any advice on how to not get anxious or control anxiety....becoz after some time of persisting i get anxious what if it doesn't happen
regulating ur nervous system is an amazing way to calm anxieties that might come with manifesting something.
something that helps me in regulating my nervous system is deep breathing and coming back to what ik to be true:
that im the creator of my reality
that im in control
that everything in life is here to help me
that there's nothing i can possibly do to fail
failure doesn't exist
that im doing everything right
me
90% of communication is body language, the mind is connected to the body. body language is so important to how u perceive urself and how others perceive you <3
DISCLAIMER : everything in this post is things i've noticed, and other girls have too, its little tips and tricks on how to be more feminine with ur body language if u wanna apply then do you but if this doesn't resonate with u then u dont have to take it~
UR WALK :
ur walk is what ppl see when u walk into a room, and when u walk with confidence you literally FEEL confident. the most feminine thing to do when walking is walking with ur hips.
the best way for it to become natural is with practice and repetition ofc. practice walking in front of ur mirror, the point of this is to have open hips. if ur hips r open, then walking with ur hips will be easy peasy.
the more flexible u are, the more naturally and organically walking with ur hips will be, i recommend yoga and hip mobility exercises.
POSTURE :
envision that u have a string attached to the head of ur spine and its pulling u up, kind of like a puppet lol. walk with ur back straight and ur chin parallel to the floor. also, keep ur shoulders back and ur chest out.
some ways to help practice posture is by using back trainers, pilates, and ofc yoga
WHAT NOT TO DO :
dont ever walk into a room with ur head down
HAND GESTURES :
a feminine thing to do is talking with ur hands, using hand or bodily gestures to express urself while communicating, is literally scientifically proven to add emphasis and structure when u talk.
the main thing i've learned about when researching feminine hand gestures is tilting ur head when ur listening or thinking, touching ur arms or neck etc.
movements should always be SLOW, dont be rushed, slow down ur speaking, walking, bodily gestures, etc. take ur time and collect ur thoughts, dont be in a rush and dont let ur thoughts be all over the place. its all about control.
OBVIOUSLY dont over-do it but u get my point right?
EYE CONTACT :
practice eye contact, ik its a bit weird if ur not used to it but genuinely give it a try if u want <3
You don’t need motivation, you need self discipline.
1.Start small,Focus on one discipline building habit at a time to avoid getting overwhelmed and end up not following through.
Gradually increase your commitments little by little. They will soon become part of your routine instead of it being "work".
2.Get rid of distractions that hinder your focus (e.g., unhealthy relationships,social media).
3. HAVE SOME SELF CONTROL!! delay instant gratification, when you don’t feel like doing something, do little more than you want, commit to showing up for YOURSELF even when you don’t feel like it.
4. Create a daily schedule that prioritizes most important items on the list. Keep it consistent to form habits over time.
5. last but not least, stay consistent. Discipline is built by sticking to your commitments daily,and give yourself kudos for your gains and failures without judgement , it takes time and effort so be nice to yourself.
It's about you; you are the main character of your life.
Sometimes you need to get uncomfortable to get comfortable.
People who get angry at you for putting yourself first are the same people who benefit from you putting yourself last
You are allowed to say, "Nah, that's not good enough."
Stop wasting energy that you can use to become your best version.
Becoming selfish is the best thing I ever did.
I can make myself fulfilled, and whatever he gives me is just an extra.
Start now with what you have.
Enough crying, enough being sad, enough saying "tomorrow".
Sometimes you lose people that are not meant to be with the highest version of yourself, and you have to let those people go.
You vs. you, honey.
Some people just don't deserve you. Not mentally, physically or spiritually.
I don't argue with people because most of them are stupid.
People don't really care what happened to you or what you went through. They really care about what you can do for them.
Only here to impress myself.
When a Queen does not like her situation, she plans her exit.
Manifesting is a lifestyle.
The best revenge is creating a better life for yourself.
I started prioritising my own needs and wants; whatever I want goes first. That's it; I do not care anymore.
I could honestly go on forever since Liz has so many great things to say, so let me know in the comments if I should make a part 2! <3
✩‧₊*:・love ya ・:*₊‧✩
take care of yourself
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Explore art:
Tap into your creative side with painting, drawing, or sculpting. Art is not only therapeutic but also a fantastic way to express yourself and even decorate your space.
Reading:
Join a book club or set a personal reading challenge. From classic literature to modern thrillers, reading can expand your horizons and provide endless inspiration.
Get into gardening:
Whether you have a big backyard or just a small apartment balcony, gardening can be a relaxing and fulfilling hobby.Grow your own herbs, flowers, or vegetables!
Experiment with cooking:
Take on new recipes and cooking techniques. From baking bread to mastering the art of sushi, cooking can be both a practical skill and a creative outlet.
Try photography:
Capture the beauty around you and tell your story through the lens. Experiment with different styles, like portrait or landscape photography, and maybe even start a photo blog.
Practice yoga or meditation:
Incorporate mindfulness into your routine to reduce stress and enhance your overall well-being.
Learn to code:
Dive into the world of programming and build your own apps or websites. Coding is a valuable skill that can open up career opportunities and enhance your problem-solving abilities.
Challenge yourself with puzzles:
Engage your brain with jigsaw puzzles, crosswords, or brain teasers. It's a great way to relax and keep your mind sharp.
Try acting or improv:
Step out of your comfort zone and explore your theatrical side. Acting classes or improv groups can boost your confidence and creativity.
Travel and explore:
If possible, travel to new places, even if it's just a nearby town.Experiencing new cultures and environments can broaden your perspective and inspire new passions.
Try pottery:
Get your hands dirty and create beautiful, functional pieces with pottery. It's a relaxing and creative way to express yourself, and you'll end up with unique, handmade items.
Play games:
Board games,video games, or strategy games can be a great way to unwind and bond with friends.
Learn a new language:
Expand your horizons by learning a new language.It opens up opportunities for travel, cultural exchange, and even new career prospects. Plus, it's a fun and challenging way to keep your brain active.
Start a YouTube Channel or blog:
Share your passions, knowledge, or daily life through videos or written content. It's a creative outlet and a way to connect with like-minded individuals.