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NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME!

ANYTHING I DESIRE,DESIRES ME MORE!

I DON'T CHASE,I RECEIVE!

“Hero Complex”

So I realize a lot of people apparently don’t know this, but the term “hero complex” seems to be getting thrown around more and more in this phandom and it is literally driving me insane.

Danny does not have hero syndrome.

He does not have a hero complex. He does not have a savior complex. (All terms frequently conflated and used with the same intention, though they also have different meanings in different fields.) Danny tries to help people out of a responsibility to protect them, which does not fit with hero syndrome.

Hero syndrome is the presence of a subconscious need to be needed and appreciated taken to an unhealthy extreme. People with hero syndrome frequently CREATE horrible situations so that they can ‘save’ everyone and receive adulation. A firefighter with hero syndrome, for example, would likely start fires just so they could run in and ‘rescue’ the victims themself.

In less extreme examples, they are also people who drop everything in their lives in order to help others (which often evolves into more deviant acts over time) and end up overexerting themselves to point of total exhaustion because they lack the ability to set healthy boundaries and extend the same care to themselves.

The important difference in these cases is that it still stems from a psychological need, which Danny does not exhibit. He protects people, yes, but not the extent of dropping everything in his life to do that full time even in situations where his help is not needed. He takes breaks, he chooses not to resolve every issue he encounters, and it is impossible to imagine him purposefully causing a crisis for any kind of adulation.

Danny does not have hero syndrome, and it’s honestly a bit insulting to his character to imply that he does.

It’s an interesting topic, and if anyone is interested in learning more, this article has a fairly useful overview and history of the term to get you started.

(Sorry for the rant, but this has been driving me crazy and I wanted to help clear it up for anyone who might not know the actual meaning of the term.)

Jane Austen was really out there 200 years ago writing lines like “If I loved you less, I might be able to talk about it more” that to this day are still so swoon-worthy.

1959 "Cigarette Psychology" article explains 9 ways people hold cigarettes & what it says about you

and maybe real success looks like

a regulated nervous system.

not comparing yourself to others.

a kind inner dialogue.

being able to show up for yourself.

being able to let go.

knowing your own worth.

having authentic connections.

having good boundaries.

living a life that makes sense to you.

Here's a tip for anyone wavering,

Remember that at any moment in your doubt, you have the CHOICE to choose which reality you want, that's really what manifesting is all about- deciding something and persisting in the choice that you have it,So always dare to choose the one which favours you and your desire,

not against it.

I can imagine what I want, and therefore it is possible for me.

—Abraham Hicks

EIYPO

“Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live. Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are. Revalue yourself and they will confirm the change.”

– Neville Goddard, ‘Your Faith Is Your Fortune’

https://youtu.be/buRw5n4FKHE

One of the best videos I’ve ever watched