Fifty Shades Of Pink By Immortal0phelia

a guide to take back your power ‧₊˚🦢✩

do what you want and don't be afraid to do it alone. if no one else wants to go with you somewhere, or do something with you, learn to have that ability to do it alone. and obviously i don't mean illegal or bad stuff, but i mean if you've been meaning to try out a new activity but no one else seems interested, go do it on your own! when you start doing this it'll show people that whether they join you or not, you will still go and do things that make you happy.

say no. just say no. its not that scary once you start saying it often. you don't wanna do something? say no. you don't wanna give something? say no. you don't need to have a reason.

get a life outside of them or get a life outside of whats draining you. when your whole life is primarily centred around maybe a toxic friend, a job that drains you, something that makes you feel very anxious, then of course you'd be on survival mode 24/7. because all you're thinking and stressing about is that thing. so instead maybe after a long day of school or work, go home and do something you love. because remember, your life doesnt stop after school/ work okay?? you can go and actually DO STUFF to take your mind off things. you don't even need to go out of your house, you could have a cozy night in with yummy food and your fav movie, pick up a hobby or if you do wanna go outside your house, meet up with some friends, learn a sport, join a club, go paragliding or something- anything that makes you feel happy!!

refuse embarrassment. because you can. because torturing yourself over what happened in the past is doing you absolutely no good right now. just learn and move onnn- LEARN AND MOVE ON! if learning takes time, so be it but make sure that you're focussing on learning, on why you did that, and not beating yourself up for making a mistake. and also because when you show people you're not embarrassed about something, they'll realise that they cannot hold that over your head. now you have the power.

when you say you're gonna do something, DO IT. don't be all talk and no walk, people will lose respect and trust in you. don't say anything unless you are confident that you will actually do it. "do what you say but do not say what you do"- keep up to your promises you've made to others & yourself, but also keep private. what people don't know, they can't ruin.

* ੈ✩‧₊˚ The B.A.P Handbook 🔱🌸🐆 by Kayln Johnson , Tracy Lewis,Karla Lightfoot ೃ࿔*:･

The Acronym (B.A.P) A ㅤㅤ𝓑͟lack american 𝓟rincess a set of black women archetypes built off the Mindest that emphasizes Respect,Consideration,Humility and the way one carries herself from a young age and upbringing from privilege of young black women while remaining humble and generous of their Blessings

The Acronym most notable known from the Halle Berry & Natalie Desselle 1997 Comedy B.A.P.S it combines are set of three Archetypes of “Bapitude”

The Betty

A BAP of birthright she carries herself with an unshakeable belif that she is meant to be and have the best of the best with amazing achievements,manners and Amazing Style who is a perfectionist in everything she does and maintain classy,humble and Flawless !

The Boho

A Quirky,free spirited, Funky BAP by Birthright shes born into a high social and economic environment that embraces tradition but she moves to the beat of her own drum with and unorthodox lifestyle she’s an openminded free thinker who prioritizes her happiness and expression herself despite societies standards and a social conscious presence

The Butterfly

The Butterfly is not a BAP by birthright but one who is from modest beginnings through her lifes as adapted and cultivated her BAPITUDE through the guidance and mindset of a betty and a boho and her metamorphosis truly makes her blossom by her resilience

The Bogus

The Bogus is not a bap by birthright or a bap truly all her bapitude is all in her head because she lacks the true understanding of what it means to be a bap and defines herself and her worth solely based on appearance and material possessions with no true substance to her while romanticizing negative stereotypes about herself

- 𝓐 Thanks for tuning in my pretties i hope ive helped you learn something new with this blog post also credit to @ebonyarchival on tiktok for the inspiration to post this and @anitalenia for the banner up top bye bye!!! 🫶🏼

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SELF CARE DAY FOR LOW ENERGY DAYS

it’s important to have different routines ready to match your mood and energy level. which is why I believe preparing for self care days for when you’re just not feeling your best is essential and a great way to look out for yourself. here’s my guide to self care days for low energy.

✧ 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓

despite your low energy, it’s important you still get your daily movement. however, exercise doesn’t always have to be intense.

try doing one of these

— 2 minutes of touching/trying to touch your toes

— 5-7 minutes of full body stretching

— 10 minutes of yoga

or maybe just stretch your neck, roll your shoulders, and take a few deep breaths. whatever you’re ready to do :)

links to short low energy workouts:

5 minute morning yoga

11 minute stress relief yoga

10 minute lazy girl workout

8 minute good morning pilates

✧𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐃

do something for your mind. journal, get your thoughts out, meditate, read five pages of an inspiring book. do something that you will love and that your mind will thank you for. whether it’s sitting in silence for a few minutes or playing a game that’ll challenge your brain.

journaling prompts <3

++ what’s been draining your energy recently?

++ what’s been giving you positive energy recently?

++ what’s your focus been on lately?

++ what are three things you’re happy are in your life?

++ how is my environment impacting my energy?

if your energy is low I really recommend writing about it. what’s making you tired? reflect on it and go easy on yourself.

✧𝐓𝐎 𝐃𝐎 𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓

the last thing you want to do is give your mind the responsibility of remembering your tasks. i don’t care how little you have on your schedule, write a to do list. on a low energy day, it’s important we’re easy on ourselves. getting everything out of our head and onto a piece of paper will not only make tasks seem more manageable but will also make our minds feel a bit lighter.

write everything. I mean it. even the small and seemingly insignificant tasks. even the parts of your routine that you do everyday anyways, write it all down.

✧𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐒

even though we’re a little bit down, that doesn’t mean we can cheat on the promises and boundaries we made with ourselves.

a low energy day doesn’t mean you can jump right back into your old habits. you’ll only feel worse if you do. it can be comforting to spend the whole day in bed, liking relatable TikToks and having a 7 hour screen time. but that’s not real rest. do something that’ll nourish you while also making you feel relaxed and comfortable. whether that’s watching an episode of your comfort show, rereading a chapter of your favorite book, or listening to your all time favorite songs while you just relax.

low energy is not a reason to practice unhealthy bad habits.

✧𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐈𝐓𝐘

how do we enjoy a low energy self care day besides the usual rest and relaxation? by doing some activities!!

things you can do on a low energy self care day:

++paint

++do your own nails

++movie marathon of your fave genre

++install and try out different cute & cozy games on your device

++bubble bath

++make a Pinterest board or Moodboard that will inspire you to be the best version of yourself

thank you for reading, take care!! ♡

— messyoungie

⋆.˚ ᡣ𐭩 .𖥔˚

Take Care Of Yourself.

Levelling up means becoming the best, healthiest, most successful version of yourself. Here's some ways to do that:

Read books (education, flow state, calms and slows the mind)

Daily exercise (30 mins or more)

Listen to positive, uplifting music

Have creative hobbies (painting, pottery, sewing, etc)

Get rid of negative/toxic friends

Choose healthy, beneficial relationships

Therapy

Learn new languages

Meditate

Go outside and into nature

Spend time with animals (calming)

Positive affirmations

Keep your living space clean and tidy

Drink lots of water

Daily stretching

Prayer, gratitude, journaling, etc

Eat a healthy, nutritious diet

Reduce internet time and start physical hobbies (e.g. art, dance, surfing, gardening, etc)

Get 8 hours of sleep

Always take care of yourself first.

Mia.

Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.

If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.

If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment.

Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.