What Is Autistic Burnout?

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Is it an autistic thing to get really attached to people and want to be their friend even if they don’t really like you

I was thinking about one time I was really annoyed that someone kept talking to me and confused because I didn’t know them but they were probably nd and Infodumping, but it was about my special interest at the time so idk why I would have been annoyed

Then I remembered I was talking to someone I really wanted to be my friend, and I started thinking about how sometimes I’ll really want someone to be my friend and resent it when other people want to talk to me when I’m trying to talk to that person

Is that an autistic thing or am I just really weird?

This could be related to your autism, mainly because we can struggle with understanding the correct pathway to friendship.

This can lead to several erroneous thought patterns, including:

Anyone who is nice to me is a friend

Anyone who I deem a friend is a friend

Taking over a game/conversation etc is how I make them my friend

They are not allowed other friends or should not include them when they're with me

And many other bad thought patterns that come from logical thinking of how we think friendship should work. This nuanced dance around is not logical, so is ignored or bypassed.

Unfortunately, this can lead to us being labelled weird, bossy, rude, freak, r* word, and being ostracized before the ability to form a friendship can even occur.

I think people need to learn that managing tasks on our own is a task in itself

"Put it in a diary" thats a task

"Use this app!" thats a task

"Make a list" thats also a task

Its why we start great with it but then stop after a while

list of cognitive distortions

Cognitive distortions are biased and negative thinking patterns not based on fact or reality. They impact how we see ourselves/others and are usually associated with depression, anxiety, or trauma. (Note: this list was given to me by my therapist and is not my original writing.)

All-or-nothing thinking — You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.

Overgeneralization — You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

Mental filter — You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker of water.

Disqualifying the positive — You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.

Jumping to conclusions — You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. A) Mind reading: You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to check this out. B) Fortune telling: You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already-established fact.

Magnification (catastrophizing) or minimization — You exaggerate the importance of things (such as a goof-up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or other people’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick.”

Emotional reasoning — You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are. “I feel it, therefore it must be true.”

Should statements — You try to motivate yourself with should and shouldn’t, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequences are guilt. When you direct “should” statements towards others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.

Labeling and mislabeling — This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself. “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to them. Mislabeling involved describing an event with language that is emotionally loaded.

Personalization — You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event, which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.

that feeling when *goes nonverbal*

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