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HunnySenpaii here with Solaire, reminding everyone to be sure to have their full hours of sleep! Tired kitties are cute and all, but happy, energetic kitties are best kitties!

The days may feel long, and times will be tough, but know that you’re doing your best and I am so proud of you. You’re a strong individual, you’re amazing and you are loved.

Please take care of yourself, even a cat nap is alright.

You’re very important, and Solaire and I support you in everything you do!!

This. If I can get this into my head, that would be great

self-improvement should be because you want to improve your quality of life, not because you feel or think you *need* to be better in order to be loved or allowed to live. there's no end goal with self-improvement, it's easy to dig yourself a grave when you don't realize that you're not on a ticking clock to be the 'best version of yourself'. all you need to strive to do is be the version of yourself you are the most happy with. find out what values you find important, what kind of friend do you want to be, how do you want to react to things. what are things that would improve the way you go about life? what would make life easier, better and more enjoyable for you?

This.

Suicide prevention week

Look, not my normal post but this is important.

This month I lost someone I used to work with from suicide, and a friend of mines almost succeeded. 5 years ago my then best friend almost succeeded as well

You may think you don’t matter, you may think people will be happy without you but you’re wrong. I understand some people are in abusive situations where they are told they aren’t important, that they don’t matter. They’re lying to you. They may not care but other people you pass by, that person you have small talk with, someone cares

I have been there, I know how helpless you can feel, I understand. But I also know what it’s like to be on the other side, to see someone you care about come out of that. To know that they’re gone/you almost lost them to something you swear you could have stopped

If you are struggling I beg you to reach out, I am begging you. Please please please reach out. I know it’s hard, I know it’s scary, but you have to fight for yourself. Being alive is worth it please. Even if you have to find “stupid” things to keep going. I used my pets to push me through, that helped me personally to have someone to anchor myself to

If it is keeping you alive then it is not stupid

I know I’m rambling and no I’m not editing this. Please stay alive. Please

http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

https://www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines

https://www.suicidestop.com/call_a_hotline.html

That is SO true. ☝🏻 My family does this all the time, and I hate it. 😞

Don’t ever let anyone get you down (too much or for too long,) and don’t let it define your worth. ❤️‍🔥 YOU ARE ENOUGH.

Don’t listen to the lies.

Some reposts from Insta because it’s not easy rn

Stay safe, take your meds, and don’t forget to eat and drink water.

GUYS GUYS GUYS I NEED YOU TO KNOW THIS

Hating yourself is NOT a contained practice. It ALWAYS impacts other people either directly or indirectly. So LET IT GO because not only is it mean to you, it's harmful to everyone in the environment around you.

There is no way to hate without hurting others. Even if you think it's just yourself.

Hating yourself is harming others. Like, almost always. Even if you don’t mean it to.

Loving yourself enough to take care of yourself and be kind to yourself is what makes you more capable of helping others and doing good.

You’re not going to shame and hate yourself into being a better friend, a better spouse, better parent, better person, better service to the world. That’s done through love and gentleness. I promise.

And I know it’s work! There is no switch to flip that takes you magically from self-hatred, self-denial, insecurity, and depression to self-love, self care, gentleness, and joy! It takes work and, for many people, seeking outside help! But it’s worth it worth it worth it, not just for you, but for everyone around you.

y'know what? fuck it! shout out to all my fellow "stereotypes!"

shoutout to my fellow autists who do feel like a kid in an adult’s body because their mind works differently. shoutout to my fellow systems who have alters that lash out, and/or alters of fictives from popular media. shoutout to my fellow bpd folks who get clingy and have abandonment issues. shoutout to the autists who act "robotic" and love trains or dinosaurs. shoutout to the people with OCD/OCPD who do get obsessions with cleanliness and orderliness, who do wash their hands over and over, who do lock and unlock the doors a specific number of times. shoutout to the people struggling with intrusive thoughts that do get the violent ones and the sexual ones, not just the self-injurious ones.

shoutout to my fellow flamboyant gays. shoutout to the lesbians who wear flannel and have buzzcuts. shoutout to the aces who like space and cake and dragons. shoutout to the aces who are stoic and don't have an interest in bonding with people even non-romantically. shoutout to the nbs with neopronouns and names like "star." shoutout to the queers(or otherwise lgbt+ folk if you don't use that term for yourself) who have dyed and cut hair, wear a shitload of pronoun pins, wear a rainbow binder that can be seen, and love talking about how much they love being part of the community.

shoutout to my fellow activists who yell and get mad. shoutout to my fellow activists who bring up the problems in things, even if it means "always making it political." shoutout to the feminists who don't wear bras or shave, and don't get along with men.

shoutout to the men who struggle with emotions. shoutout to the men who love blue and camo and trucks and fixing things and sports and hunting. shoutout to the women who cry easily. shoutout to the women who take hours getting ready. shoutout to the women who love pink and shopping and shoes and cooking and taking care of kids and cleaning.

i'm very white so i'll summarize the next one: shoutout to all the BIPOC fitting into "stereotypes" as well. if anyone who is BIPOC wants to give specific shout outs, go for it!

to anyone who fits these or any other "stereotypes":

You are not a stereotype. You are a person with traits and qualities. You are not doing anything wrong by being true to yourself, whether that means fitting expectations or not.

Anyone who hates whatever group you are in for these "stereotypes" would hate your group regardless; anyone who accuses you of "giving your group a bad name" is deflecting the hate onto you because it's easier to pretend that it's nothing they are doing that gets that hatred; the truth is, bigots are bigots and they will always find a "reason" to be hateful. You trying to avoid "stereotypes" will never change that.

(do not fucking clown on this post. you will not get a debate from me, you will get blocked.)

Just a reminder ˚.⁺⊹

You are valuable. You are important. You are needed. You are loved.

The world is not a better place without you. No one is better off without you, even if sometimes it feels that way.

There is a person in this world who admires you. There is a person who thinks you are beautiful. There is a person who thinks you are interesting. There is a person who thinks you are perfect. There is a person who adores your smile. There is a person you saved without even knowing it. There is a person who is in love with you.

You do enough. You try hard enough. Even if sometimes it feels like you don't.

*･｡ﾟ☆ﾟ.*･｡ﾟ*･｡ﾟ☆ﾟ.*･｡ﾟ*･｡ﾟ☆ﾟ.*･｡ﾟ*･｡ﾟ☆*･

I am proud of you and I am glad you are still in this world. Take care of yourself ♡

no matter what happened today, you:

are loved

deserve to eat

are needed & valued

should take care of yourself

have a future

will be okay

Just a reminder to all the people self sabotaging themselves

Growing up is actually all about realizing people don’t inherently dislike you and it’s a bit odd to assume they do

Weren’t we the stars in heaven? Weren’t we the salt in the sea?

hey, thanks for checking in! But I am doing more than okay, so you ain't gotta worry about me!

And I know you want to help out your moots, which is very appreciated. But make sure to take time for yourself too. Don't let other overwhelm you too much, okay?

You matter!

Also sorry for answering this super late. Finally catching up with my inbox. Oops!

Happy Valentine’s Day y’all! Y’all matter!!! Take care!

no one will come to save you but some will offer you their hand to hold when life gets tough and those are the ppl that matter

When you see this on your dash...

Listen, please, to what I have to say.

To anyone who reads this, have a great day. I mean it too. I might not know you, but you can do amazing things, even if you don’t think so, you can do whatever you want in life.

I was thinking deeply about this, and everything. I have met people in my life, a lot come, a lot go. A lot of them suffer, they think they aren’t good enough, they think they can’t do anything right. It sickens me, that people that I’ve known, and people around the world, get bullied, harassed, and abused, and a lot of people soon enough get mentally impacted too much, and believe anything anyone says. I try and help them, I want them to know they’re important, and so are you.

It’s scary, of how many girls and boys have eating disorders, it’s scary to know people starve themselves, and throw up, to be “pretty.” It’s scary that people have to hide who they really are, to be accepted, it’s scary when I hear someone I know, or heard of, has self harmed or committed suicide, because of what others have done to them. I’ve lost friends in the past due to suicide. It’s scary, and heartbreaking.

I know a lot of people who have abusive parents/siblings. I know people who are outcasts in schools, I know people who can’t be accepted by anyone, no matter who they meet. I know people who get rejected to prom or by their crushes, because they aren’t “good enough” to the other person they have feelings for.

I can’t even accept myself at times, because of what others say or do. My current friends have problems too, one of them just lost his grandmother, even, but I stay and try my best to be a good friend to them, I really don’t wanna lose them.

To everyone who reads this;

You are beautiful, very very beautiful, I mean it. Don’t listen to what anyone says, to me you’re perfect and gorgeous, your size doesn’t make a difference, your sexuality doesn’t make a difference, even your gender identity doesn’t make a difference. You. Are. Perfect. The. Way. You. Are. Don’t listen to what others say, they just wanna get a reaction outta you. There’s a point in life where they won’t matter to you, you’ll be away from the pain soon enough. I promise you that.

Keep doing what you love. Keep doing the things that make you happy, keep being yourself, there’s no point in changing for anybody, you’re great the way you are. I love you for who you are, even if we never met, or if I know you personally, I still love you for you. Don’t give up, don’t weigh yourselves down. You’re the best. I love every single one of you.

Have a great day. And thank you.

-Lauren/Corey