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(Thoughts) I been thinking about this for a little bit now
I’ve been looking at my oc’s and... I just been thinking about doing something that I’ve been wanting to do for a while now...
I want to completely DELETE ALL MY OC’S and REBOOT EVERYTHING. From scratch.
(Except for Fuyu which will get a little reboot background but will stay the same character)
I want to do this because I have a cool little project in my mind that will help ME because I needed to do something like this. I felt like my oc’s are just... rushed to say the least. I just don’t know if I should go through with this. Comment on your thoughts.
I hate how everyone seems to have such high expectations for me, but the second I want something a little out of the ordinary for my life they act like I've lost my mind....
Sigh.
MAKING MOVES
See what I’ve been up to in my latest post. Time to get unstuck!
https://stylishcreativeyou.com/uncategorized/making-moves
In one condition of the experiment, six flavors of jam were available for tasting: peach, black cherry, red currant, marmalade, kiwi, and lemon curd. In another condition, twenty-four flavors of jam were featured: the six flavors just mentioned plus eighteen others. In both conditions, customers who tasted the jam could then use a coupon to buy a jar at lower cost.
The key finding in the study was that the twenty-four-flavor table attracted more attention yet it resulted in fewer buyers. Shoppers flocked to the exciting array, yet most became overwhelmed and dropped out of buying jam altogether. Only 3 percent of those who visited the twenty-four-flavor table went on to buy jam. In contrast, shoppers who visited the six-flavor table were more able to decide which jar was right for them, with about 30 percent leaving the store with jam in hand.
The next week, I told Ian about the jam experiment and wondered aloud about whether he felt too overwhelmed by life’s purported possibilities to pick something.
“I do feel overwhelmed by the idea that I could do anything with my life,” he said.
“Then let’s get concrete. Let’s talk about choosing jam,” I offered.
“Am I at the six-flavor table or the twenty-four-flavor table?” he asked.
“That is an excellent question. I think part of making any decision in your twenties is realizing there is no twenty-four-flavor table. It’s a myth.”
“Why is it a myth?”
“Twentysomethings hear they are standing in front of a boundless array of choices. Being told you can do anything or go anywhere is like being in the ocean you described. It’s like standing in front of the twenty-four-flavor table. But I have yet to meet a twentysomething who has twenty-four truly viable options. Each person is choosing from his or her own six-flavor table, at best.”
Ian looked at me blankly, so I went on.
“You’ve spent more than two decades shaping who you are. You have experiences, interests, strengths, weaknesses, diplomas, hang-ups, priorities. You didn’t just this moment drop onto the planet or, as you put it, into the ocean. The past twenty-five years are relevant. You’re standing in front of six flavors of jam and you know something about whether you prefer kiwi or black cherry.”
- The Defining Decade by Meg Jay, PhD
“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” - Tony Robbins
"Where to begin?
- that was the question, at what point to make the first mark? One line placed on the canvas committed her to innumerable risks, to frequent and irrevocable decisions. All that in idea seemed simple became in practice immediately complex; as the waves shape themselves symmetrically from the cliff top, but to the swimmer among them are divided by steep gulfs, and foaming crests. Still the risk must be run; the mark made."
From "To the Lighthouse" by Virginia Woolf
Decision
Choose a road,
walk a path,
pick a way.
Go ahead,
flow steady,
never stray.
Phosphor! What a blazing beauty! Skeletons running screaming, with remains of skin and limbs illuminating the darkest shadows of our minds. Where we find our deepest dreams and desires. Wonderful phosphor! Bonemarrow, fried in 1000 degrees, are simple calculation: Just like Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Which lives are most valuable? When will it never be ours? Phosphor, enlighting death to a real bye-bye party. Let the skeletons rattle in joy! Let them! #phosphor #lifevalues #whateverittakes #war #priceoflife #decision #logic #party #math #casualties #survival #dance #skeletons #thisisjustapicturenotevenfromarealphosphorbombbuttrytoimaginetakingthedecisiontouseit (...Usual one-off hashtag) #udenfilter #mantelmomento #laurieandthestoryof (-will get to that, and the world will be self-ignited phosphor...) (her: Gellerup, Arhus, Denmark)
Quand une femme prend la décision d’abandonner la souffrance, le mensonge et la soumission. Quand une femme dit du fond de son cœur: “Assez, me-voilà.” Ni mille armées d’ego ni tous les pièges de l’illusion ne peuvent l’arrêter dans la recherche de sa propre vérité.
Là, les portes de sa propre âme s’ouvrent et le processus de guérison commence. Le processus qui va progressivement la ramener à elle-même, à sa vraie vie. Et personne n’a dit que ce chemin est facile, mais c’est la “voie”. Cette décision elle-même ouvre une ligne directe avec sa nature sauvage et c’est là que le vrai miracle commence...
Clarissa Pinkola Estés