You Can Be The Nicest Person In The World, And There Will Still Be People Who Hate You.

What a healthy, secure relationship looks like

He communicates consistently and clearly. Replies promptly, doesn't leave you on seen, checks up on you throughout the day/week according to his schedule and in agreement with your needs as well.

He pays attention to your needs and desires and quirks, and makes your life better using said details. Ie. buys your favorite kind of flowers, makes your favorite tea in the morning, remembers your food allergies when having dinner dates, etc.

Disagreements may still appear even in health relationships, and it's ok, as communication is essentual for a healthy dynamic. However, his approach to disagreements is a secure one: each will share their perspective, and if feelings were hurt or mistakes were made, he takes accountability for his side, and makes genuine apologies followed by reparations and direct actions (ie. "I'm sorry I did x, I didn't mean to hurt you. I will be/do y in the future", and then does as he promised).

Promises are kept. His actions are in alignment with his words, and he keeps his words. If he says he'll call you after work, he does. If he says he needs to cool off during an argument and will reopen the conversation in 1h, he does indeed return in 1h to continue the topic.

If you're anxious, he will reassure you and work through it. He doesn't run away or avoid the topic (as an avoidantly attached person would).

If you come forward communicating your needs, or sharing complaints or grievances, he will hear you out and actively seek a way to improve things. He won't freak out, or get angry or run away in response to you having needs or communicating your thoughts; these are normal relationship things you're entitled to, and a securely attached man knows this.

A man that is well-rounded, with a secure attachment style, will have a rich life of his own: hobbies, interests, circles of friends, activities, etc. He will enjoy having his independence and space, and will respect your need for your own. He is not co-dependent, nor gets in the way of you having your own life outside of him. He knows having individually rich lives is important for a healthy relationship. To expand on this, he encourages you to enjoy your selfcare time, your girl's night out, or whatever other activities nourish you.

stop ignoring yourself. fix your posture, get a fresh haircut, drink water, take care of your skin, eat food that gives you energy, declutter your space, take time to rest, workout, do mindful meditation, fix your sleep schedule. when you feel/look good, you do good. invest in yourself, put the effort you deserve.

PSA: do NOT be ashamed of the culture u are from!!!!! Even if you are living in a foreign country!!! Embrace your roots, your language, your culture, your culture’s art and poetry and traditional music, food, language, song, dance, rituals etc etc… keeping in touch with your culture adds to your personality and it is unbelievably attractive!!!!!

r.i.p. shelley duvall you will always be an icon ♡

Ever since I've mastered detachment and boundaries, I've never regretted letting go of things. Those people, opportunities or situations were never meant for me anyway. The universe will never make you bloom in soil you're not meant to grow roots in.

everything

you can't want something you already have.

think about it. if you already had everything you ever wanted, would you still be thinking about "how" or "when" you're gonna get it? or worse, "am i going to get it?" it doesn't make sense at all.

that's also why so many loa bloggers have been repeatedly saying that if you are in the state of the wish fulfilled, you would literally NOT be concerned about the 3d or anything else. you focus entirely ONLY on your imagination and fulfil yourself there. regardless of what you see in the 3d, you won't be fazed at all because you KNOW that imagination is the only reality, so the 3d has to INEVITABLY morph and reshuffle to reflect your imagination.

if you already have your desires, you WOULDN'T be:

asking if you're gonna get it

asking where is it

asking when and how you're gonna get it

constantly dwelling upon the LACK of your desires

accepting the 3d as final

May I ask you why you don’t believe in astrology?

No particular reason. It just never stuck with me and I think that over time it’s become a way for people to justify stupid actions and bad behaviour. “Oh im such a Gemini I told the whole world about your issues with XYZ hehe” I can’t take such people seriously at all. i also feel that it’s a label that is absolutely unnecessary. A lot of the times I genuinely feel that your traits and your zodiac’s traits don’t line up but people want to be like their zodiac signs so badly that they’ll act like lunatics.

MILEY CYRUS — Performing ‘Flowers’ after winning “Best Pop Performance” at the 66th Annual Grammy Awards