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my take on shipping aromantic characters is that if you're aro you get to do whatever you want and if you're not you have to write me a three page essay 12 pt font times new roman double spaced explaining in detail why you believe entering a romantic relationship would be an interesting and worthwhile storyline for the character and how you believe their aromanticism would affect the way they experience said relationship

Can I ask for a hyperspecific microlabel?

If so, I'd like a narcissistic loveless aro flag, since I believe I am aromantic and incapable of/uninterested in any sort of traditional love due to my narcissism and the stereotypes surrounding it. The loveless aro flag would do just fine for me, but I feel like my experience is made very different because of my NPD.

Thx in advance!!

- Latte ☕

I completely understand this.

Narcissistic Loveless Aromantic Flag

The flag is a mash of the NPD flag by npdsafe, and the loveless aro flag by aro-punkwave, the symbol is from a alt flag with no known creator.

narcaro - a romantic orientation on the aro spectrum where NPD affects how you experience romantic attraction. for example, you may only be attracted to people who prioritize you over others or praise you consistently, or people you view as an equal. it could also mean pursuing romantic interests as a way of seeking validation through being desired, without necessarily actually being in love. anyone with npd or who suspects they may have npd or its symptoms can use this label regardless of how they feel they identify with it

colors are the browns from the npd flag and the greens from the aro flag

[ID: a horizontal flag with 6 stripes. from top to bottom: dark reddish brown, light brown, dark mossy green, a medium yellow-green, light yellowish gray and eggshell. end ID]

narc abuse believers and anti-npd truthers PLEASE leave this post alone

lusiromantic | lusirose | lusisexual lusirose version 2 | lusiqueerplatonic lusiaesthetic | lusiplatonic lusisensual | lusialterous

lusiromantic: someone who is fully or mostly aromantic, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s romantic attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to recipromantic, but rather than a lusiromantic person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

lusirose/lusiaroace: someone who is fully or mostly aroace, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s romantic and sexual attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to reciprose/reciparoace, but rather than a lusirose/lusiaroace person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

lusisexual: someone who is fully or mostly asexual, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s sexual attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to reciprosexual, but rather than a lusisexual person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

lusiqueerplatonic/lusiquasiplatonic: someone who is fully or mostly aqueerplatonic/aquasiplatonic, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s queerplatonic/quasiplatonic attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to recipqueerplatonic/recipquasiplatonic, but rather than a lusiqueerplatonic/lusiquasiplatonic person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

lusiaesthetic: someone who is fully or mostly a-aesthetic, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s aesthetic attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to reciproaesthetic, but rather than a lusiaesthetic person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

lusiplatonic: someone who is fully or mostly aplatonic, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s platonic attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to reciproplatonic, but rather than a lusiplatonic person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

lusisensual: someone who is fully or mostly asensual, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s sensual attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to reciprosensual, but rather than a lusisensual person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

lusialterous: someone who is fully or mostly analterous, but tricks themselves into believing that they reciprocate another’s alterous attraction for some time after that person expresses their attraction. similar to reciproalterous, but rather than a lusialterous person actually reciprocating those feelings, they only believe that they do.

more revamps of old terms and flags of mine! i both didn’t fully express the definition of the terms and didn’t like my flags, so i wanted to refresh them.

the flags use the top stripe of the recipro- flags to represent the fabricated attraction, white/grey/black to represent the grey areas of these orientations and the confusion they cause, and the bottom stripe (or two stripes) represents the actual lack of attraction being experienced.

the prefix ‘lusi-’ is a reference to the word ‘illusion’, since the attraction a lusi- person believes they feel is not real. also, for me, the experience of this term is inherently linked to my anxiety, but i decided to leave mentions of mental health out of the definitions because i don’t feel that these should be exclusive to mentally ill or neurodivergent people.

dni transcript here

NPD Resources Masterlist

The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.

Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.

Diagnostic criteria

NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it

Official diagnostic criteria

An explanation of the diagnostic criteria

Recovery resources FOR the narcissist

NPD recovery resources

How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist

Narcissist supply

What is narc supply?

Things that can give a narcissist supply

NPD stigma

The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them

Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)

A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)

Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive

Debunking common myths on NPD

Common disproven myths about NPD

Miscellaneous

How to support someone with NPD

NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)

Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response

NPD terminology (do's and dont's)

NPD safe blogs

@empath-abuse-awareness

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@narcissisticpdcultureis

@nicepersondisorder

@theegosystem

@mischiefmanifold

NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever

Happy NPD appreciation day

Positivity for systems with NPD

Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love

NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)

Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful

Positivity for narcissists who like sex

I love my narcissists

Aromantic narcissists are amazing

Narcissists I love you

Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think <3)

Narcissists deserve to be loved

As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)

Kimchi Bokkeumbap / 김치볶음밥 / Kimchi Fried Rice

I just wanted to drop in with some links to some now-deleted but still very good articles on Transmasc Comphet (which is a term I think needs to be spread around more when discussing Transmlm social pressures)

"Transmasc Comphet (and the road to faggotry)" the original article - web (dot) archive (dot) org/web/20210109231028/https:// medium (dot ) com/@neilklein/transmasc-comphet-and-the-road-to-faggotry-62ed750f391f

"Transmasc Comphet — the Followup" - web (dot) archive (dot) org/web/20210124071417/https://medium (dot) com/@neilklein/transmasc-comphet-the-followup-46fddbda7c4

I think a lot of it is stuff you and others who discuss anti-transmasculinity already touch on but I think it's another piece of language we really should be using (even though I know someone is going to find some reason to hate us more over it). Thanks so much for everything you do on the blog my guy

Every gay trans man on the planet needs to read this.

In all my many years of being alive, there has not ever been one other article that I have read that has resonated with me even close to the way that these two have. I used to think I was either a lesbian or a bi woman and would pretend to myself that I'm attracted to women when I am now, and also was at the time, repulsed by the idea of being romantically involved with women. I remember for a while I called myself a butch lesbian because it felt like the closest thing to what I thought I was (a masculine woman).

But something still wasn't right, because I'm not a masculine woman, and it didn't feel correct even at the time. I brushed it off and kept going on with my life as one does. For a long time after that, I thought I just had a fetish of myself as a man. But I think that accepting myself as a gay trans man was inevitable after I got really invested in the FOB fandom. Now, I am a gay trans man, and I feel so much better than when I identified as bi or a lesbian because this is who I really am.

Talking to a lot of other transmasc MLM has made me realize that my story is not unique. So many baby trans men identify as bi or straight for this reason before realizing that they are actually gay. And that's not to invalidate straight trans men—they exist—but I am saying that so many of us are convinced that we're straight because as men, that's what society pushes onto us. And even before we know that we're men, we subconsciously know that we are in some sort of societal role where we should love women, which is why, I think, so many gay transmascs identify as lesbian or bi before even realizing that we're trans.

One other thing that I resonate with that Klein brought up is the fact that it's impossible to separate my homosexuality from my transness because sexuality and gender don't exist in a void separate from each other. This is the main reason that I identify as nonbinary and am uncomfortable describing my gender as a man unless I'm making it clear that I'm oversimplifying my actual experience. By saying that my gender is male without elaborating, what I'm saying is that I'm like other men in some way, and that my experience of gender is similar to other men.

But that just isn't the case for me. I tend to think of myself internally as a third gender, separate from male and female, largely due to my experiences with being gay. In the framework of maleness, I'm GNC, femme, or whatever else you want to call me that basically means the same thing. The simplest way to describe my gender identity, and in my opinion the most accurate, is that I'm gay. I am like others who are gay, and I fit into that community. My expression, then, is built around a framework of being gay.

Often when cis people talk about people like me, they tend to put our transness first, and think of our homosexuality as being something that exists because of our transness while in my experience transness and homosexuality are equally important parts of my identity that can't be separated. I am not me if I am not trans and gay. To put it in simpler terms, there might be an alternate universe where I am female due to my transness being something innate to my being that I feel would still exist even if I was amab, but there is no universe in which I am not exclusively attracted to men.

guardian angel blinkies

With crosses, pentacles, void crosses (personal symbol), and wings.

[This post has no DNI other than not to involve it in discourse, mockery, or other harassment]

Aplatonic (apl for short) flags part 1 :3 ⭐️ (This set uses yellow, there's another set that uses green+blue+purple for apl instead.) (Due to the image limit, this is split into 4 posts.)

I noticed some a-spec flags were missing tertiary counterparts, so I made some. Some of these flags have already been made before, so they're not all original (I still wanted to have all the flags together in a set, and all in the same res).

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greyplatonic | demiplatonic | aegoplatonic

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non sam apl (1) | non sam apl (2) | neu apl

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aplvoid | aplflux | aplspike (1)

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aplspike (2) | apljump | dark greyplatonic

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light greyplatonic | atomoplatonic | delloplatonic

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fictoplatonic | cupioplatonic | bellusplatonic

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reciproplatonic | lithoplatonic (1) | lithoplatonic (2)

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frayplatonic (1) | frayplatonic (2) | apothiplatonic

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orchidplatonic | myrplatonic | aplflexible

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I'll also note that some of these terms can have multiple names, with the "platonic", "aplatonic", & "apl" part being interchangeable. This isn't applicable to every term though. I also chose not to list everything to try to keep it brief. So for example, greyplatonic can also be called greyaplatonic and greyapl.

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[A-spec flag sets masterpost]

Winereddic is a xenogender and colorgender in which your gender connects to shades of red that are seen in wine. Your gender and/or aspects of it may be wine red, or you may just want to incorporate the colors into your gender. The first flag has no meaning, while the second flag has overlaid colors. The first and second stripe have black, representing a lack of gender. The third has purple, representing xenogenders. The fourth has blue, representing masculinity. The fifth has green, representing again the lack of gender or being agender. The sixth has pink, representing femininity. The seventh has white, representing androgyny.

Circuitgender

a xenogender and kingender made up of the electrical pathways on a circuitboard - the dozens of funny patterns of lines and pads allowing electricity to flow

[Image ID: A five stripe pride flag. The outer stripes are forest green, followed by a yellow, then a big brighter green stripe. On the middle stripe are yellow lines resembling that of a circuit board. / End ID]

XENOGENDER JUST DROPPED - CATSTORM

a gender related to cats and thunderstorms, either a cat in a storm, or the cat is part of the storm. this can be a normal cat, or a cat magically related to the storm. the cat could even be controlling said storm.

credits for the gender and the flag are ME!!! please don't repost without credit!! :}

anyone can use!!

⸝⸝ FROSTMASC

(frost + masculine)

frostmasc ; a masculine and / or male gender related to wintercore & winter-related themes. masculine version of frostfem by cinnamogai.

coined by div ! original gender, flag & graphic by cinnamogai !

(alt id ; two side-by-side flags. they are identical aside from the left flag having a heart symbol with two snowflakes on it. the flags have six equal stripes. the stripes are the following colours, from top to bottom: dusky blue, slate blue, faded blue, porcelain, pale blue lily, periwinkle.)

NEW XENOGENDER !!

Thundergender ^

Thundergender is a xenogender where you feel connected to the chaos of a storm. The heavy rain, the loud thunder, the crashes of lightning- and find comfort and familiarity in it.

credits: me !! :}

drop pronoun ideas !!

Techainick.

»»--► A non-xenine gender related to robots, AI, computers, and machines and technology in general.

»»--► Tech (from 'technology') + ai (from 'AI') + nick

»»--► Coined by us. Requested by anon.

traitblur

a label for being unable to differentiate your identity from your interests, due to neurodivergency or other reasons.

examples of this include but arent limited to: being felinekin because you like cats, liking dogs because you are pupgender, your interests affecting your vesility, not being able to differentiate gender euphoria from general happiness, and more I havent mentioned/thought of! as long as you feel this label fits you, then it fits you

not exclusive to neurodivergent people, just made with them (aka me) in mind :D

[image ID: there are two 6 striped flags, the colors are in order from top to bottom. for the first one its dark blue, slightly lighter blue, lavender, off-white, pink and dark blue, the second flag is identical except the dark blues are replaced with black and the lavender is now a greyish pink. end ID]

[image ID: a rainbow glitter text that reads "please do not reupload anywhere unless credited and informed. end ID]

Techaelic

A gender related to being an eldritch horror trapped inside your computer.

Cybercatgender

Cybercatgender~ a xenogender influenced by and connected to cats and all or any things cyber such as tech like computers or cyber related aesthetics

coined by yours truly ^_^

﹫ANTiTHEGiRL  —  [ an - tith - uh - girl ]

A term for someone whos gender is the antithesis of being a girl or being feminine, so powerfully that describing oneself as a boy / nonbinary / etc terms is not enough, you are the antithesis of girlhood and / or femininity && this is intrinsically tied into your gender.

[ iMAGE iD ] two images of a seven-lined flag. the colors are in the following order: medium orchid, warm purple, royal purple, black, royal purple, warm purple, medium orchid. the second image has an image of the male/mars symbol in the middle.

SOLISDEUSIC (latin — eclipse god):

A xenogender related to the overwhelming eldritch influence of the solar eclipse, feeling as if — through the beauty of the darkening glow cast down through the moon and sun — there is a larger power manifesting. It enwraps its ascendancy over the world, wordlessly dragging you in as your vision blackens and begins to shake. It has come to descend upon those who look up.

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[ FLAG ID: A gradient flag, merging from a bright orange to a pitch black as it moves down. There is a slight vignette effect overlaying it. In the middle, a black .png icon of a solar eclipse, with the suns rays spiking outward and the moon trapped in the middle. ]

Solariemgender is a xenogender associated with a deep emotional connection to the sun. This gender identity is rooted in the concept of being influenced, defined, or experiencing a profound connection to the sun and its symbolism. Just as the sun radiates warmth, light, and energy, Solariemgender individuals may feel a similar radiant and empowering essence within their own gender identity.

Solreveric

Solreveric- A gender relating to the worship of a sun god, sun gods, or some sort of other divine sun being.

COINED BY: @neo-arboretum

sunavoi

for when your gender is related to avoiding the sun (for any of many reasons)

for day 25 of @epikulupu 's coining event

Theosolic

Theosolic- A gender connected to the sun, suns, gods, gods of the sun, or sun gods.

COINED BY: @neo-arboretum

Hypersun

A gender that is more then 100% conected to the sun. Coined by me.

[ID: From the top to the bottom. A light orange-ish grey, a even lighter orange-ish grey, a red-orange, a very dark orange stripe that looks like black, a red-orange, a light orange-ish grey, a darker light orange-ish grey. ID end]

SUNDEPECTIC

a gender related to depictions of the sun and being the sun,, but not quite,, like how paintings are only a representation of the sun and not the real thing !!

robot catgender 👾

Catgender + Robot!

♡♡♡

⁽ᶜᵒⁱⁿᵉᵈ ᵇʸ ᵐᵉ ᶠˡᵃᵍ ᶜʳᵉᵃᵗᵉᵈ ᵇʸ ᵐᵉ⁾

There is no wrong or right way to identify with this label !!! ♡

くコ:ミ — FACASLIPIC

a gender that related to lying impulsively about everything about you and soon forgetting your true identity. day 07 of @epikulupus event.

! INITISTELLIC !

»»--► A gender related to the creation of a protostar ; a gender related to the birth of a star.

»»--► An example of this gender may be that the gender may feel like it's pulling in other genders and causing them to "clump" together and form one thing, but there are several ways to identify with this gender.

»»--► Initi + stell + ic

»»--► Coined by us. For @epikulupu's coining event ; Day 1 - Beginning