We Uplift Queens 👸🏾 We Don’t Degrade Them!

best advice you’d give a girl ?

Sometimes, as women, we’re pressured to always put others before ourselves and give with little to nothing in return. Being giving is a beautiful quality to have, however, it shouldn’t be at the expense of your personal autonomy. If you keep giving and giving without getting anything in return, it’s easy to become used to the feeling of scarcity. Know that you deserve the goodness you give other people too. Iyanla Vanzant once said, “My cup runneth over.’ What comes out of the cup is for you. What’s in the cup is mine. But I’ve got to keep my cup full.” Pour into yourself too. When you make sure you’re good, you’ll be able to better help others.

With that being said, the best advice I can give is to focus on yourself. Do your best to make sure you’re balanced on all levels—mental, physical, spiritual and emotional. Avoid being distracted by the opinions of others and wasting time on significant others who aren’t sure about you. Avoid seeking other people and things to fulfill you. Be one of your own sources of fulfillment so you don’t have to look outside of yourself for it. Believe you’re enough. Know your worth and what you want in life and allow it to flow to you. Be like a cup—receptive to the flow of abundance. In the meantime, invest in your joy, your goals, your well-being and your health. Fill yourself up with peace and joy that comes from within. Be giving but don’t let other people take advantage of you. You are the longest relationship you’ll ever have. Make sure the relationship you have with yourself is compassionate and healthy.

stop waiting on men to validate you. you’re pretty. you’re smart. you’re interesting. you’re worth time & effort. you deserve to be loved. you need to know these things and truly believe them. don’t wait on some man to come along and tell you.

““I hope that one day someone will make flowers grow in even the saddest parts of you.””

— vacants (via thoughtkick)

I aspire to be a woman who loves to wakes up early in the morning and loves what she does for a living everyday. Travels often, spiritually secured, and financially stable.

“The refusal seems so selfish. Why won’t they lend oil to the foolish bridesmaids? The point is this: Some things cannot be borrowed. A relationship with God cannot be borrowed. Character cannot be borrowed. Deeds done out of love and obedience to Jesus cannot be borrowed. Faith cannot be borrowed. A life cannot be borrowed. Each of us alone is responsible before God for what we decide to do with our one and only life. Each of us is responsible for our relationship with God.”

-T. Hughes

(positivity message) What accomplishments are you most proud of?

Cancelling my pity party and taking full responsibility for my life.

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the sad thing is, everyone thinks they’re so forgettable, or they don’t mean anything to anyone. but you don’t see your high school friend, smiling to themselves, when they think about your quirks or how dramatic you used to be whenever you got a crush. you don’t see the person who saw you around a lot but was always too shy to talk to you. you don’t remember the person you helped, and maybe you didn’t do much for them, but you didn’t know that they were having a shitty month and you sparked their first real smile in weeks. you don’t see the person that secretly loved you too, who never forgot the soft words that you said, or the way you smiled whenever you saw them, or how you reminded them of sunshine and flowers; and how the thought of you pops into their mind more than you will ever know and in the randomest of places. you will never know that a soft song or strawberries or a sunset will remind someone of you. they will go to the beach and think of you for some reason, until they remember that the last time they saw a color as beautiful and as profound as the ocean was when they looked in your eyes. no one knows their impact on people, or their worth. no one thinks they will be missed when they leave, but they don’t know that once you go into someone’s life, even for a fleeting moment, you stay forever, and you take up a soft place that no one else could ever replace.

The thinness of my skin and bones when we are alone. Easy as water breaks, to Your love I am sold.

So much deeper, so much weaker. I am willing. Take me further and hereafter. I am willing.

I imagine life without it’s ripples and no one running. On softer ground will You still me. I’m sorting out all things that might be scary, but what I really want is for You to hold me.

So much slower, so much calmer. I am willing. Take me further and hereafter. Come and see me.