best advice you’d give a girl ?
Sometimes, as women, we’re pressured to always put others before ourselves and give with little to nothing in return. Being giving is a beautiful quality to have, however, it shouldn’t be at the expense of your personal autonomy. If you keep giving and giving without getting anything in return, it’s easy to become used to the feeling of scarcity. Know that you deserve the goodness you give other people too. Iyanla Vanzant once said, “My cup runneth over.’ What comes out of the cup is for you. What’s in the cup is mine. But I’ve got to keep my cup full.” Pour into yourself too. When you make sure you’re good, you’ll be able to better help others.
With that being said, the best advice I can give is to focus on yourself. Do your best to make sure you’re balanced on all levels—mental, physical, spiritual and emotional. Avoid being distracted by the opinions of others and wasting time on significant others who aren’t sure about you. Avoid seeking other people and things to fulfill you. Be one of your own sources of fulfillment so you don’t have to look outside of yourself for it. Believe you’re enough. Know your worth and what you want in life and allow it to flow to you. Be like a cup—receptive to the flow of abundance. In the meantime, invest in your joy, your goals, your well-being and your health. Fill yourself up with peace and joy that comes from within. Be giving but don’t let other people take advantage of you. You are the longest relationship you’ll ever have. Make sure the relationship you have with yourself is compassionate and healthy.
God taught me this through tears, pain, arguments and sleepless nights. Crack open proverbs and you'll discover how to be kind and generous whilst still maintaining your character.
People will take you for a fool if you try to be nice to everyone. In this life you need to learn to put your foot down and be decisive about the things you won't tolerate in your life, regardless of who likes it or not. Trying to be a people pleaser will only leave you drained and taken advantage of. Once you uphold an image of someone of malliable character it's much easier for others to expect certain things from you without having in consideration your integrity and beliefs, to treat you any kind of way they desire and take advantage of your weak demeanor. Trying to people please is peasant behavior, you don't owe such treatment to anyone who doesn't deserve it, don't lower yourself to that. To hell what they think of you, they aren't paying your rent or bills.
“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.”
— Sensei Ogui, Zen Shin Talks (via philosophyquotes)
The biggest accolade I can receive is being called a woman of God.
if you’re at a low point in life right now, consider THIS:
new people are coming your way with love
a huge success may be waiting around the corner
the possibilities are endless
you can always change your habits
“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be.Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.”
— Osho (via quotemadness)
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