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Eternal Flame: Chestnut Ridge County Park | Orchard Park, NY. (2018)

Reading tip for when you’re reading something educational (self growth, skill based etc)

When you start your self development journey / want to take it even higher, most of us turn to reading books or articles. We take notes and highlight the areas that we found impactful, we remember those points for a couple of days and then boom - we forget.

books are such a wealth of information but it’s not possible to read every single book you’ve read once multiple times.

you might find it frustrating that you can’t seem to remember all that information when you need to, or you keep racking your brains trying to remember exactly where you had read that particular insight.

here’s a method to help you out.

If you have a kindle / read online, make a Word doc/ pages doc of all the things you’ve highlighted. Copy the highlighted areas, which would be areas that you found hopefully/ intriguing/ interesting, and paste them on the word doc. Use only one document for all your notes of different books and every month or so, take about 30 minutes to rapidly go through them. if you read physical books, take a photo of the sentence/ paragraph that you liked, crop it out so that the other stuff isn’t there, and put that photo in the document.

this allows for a couple of things - information isn’t lost when you finish reading the book. Sometimes we find the solution to a problem too early and when the problem crops up, we don’t remember that we had already found the answer. Two, it allows for revision and three, you may see that with time, the way you understood that particular point changes.

this is not for fictional or fantasy books - this is for books that talk about self development, marketing, sales, technical know how, etc. Stuff that you should remember and would impact your progress positively.

💗Masterlist💗

💋WTF is going on? general

💋WTF is going on? love edition

💋What makes you sexually attractive?

💋Who’s jealous of you + why?

💋What’s their sexual fantasies?

💋How can you bring in more abundance?

💋What is being hidden from you?

💋What do you need to heal?

💋Whats your vibe?

💋What’s your sex appeal?

💋How does your person feel about you vs. the 3rd party?

💋Who’s stalking you?

💋How are you elevating in life?

💋Who wants to be your valentine?

💋Who is obsessed with you?

💋What’s your next accomplishment?

💋What’s the gossip about you?

💋What will your next friendship be like?

💋How do men view you?

💋How do women view you?

💋Why are you successful?

💋Your next sexual encounter

💋What’s blocking your success?

💋Why do you trigger others?

💋What do people say when you leave the room?

💋What is their karma for hurting you?

💋What have the angels been trying to tell you?

💋How do people view you in the bedroom?

💋How will April be for you?

💋How will summer be for you?

💋What’s the tea on your haters?

💋How would your celebrity crush react upon meeting you?

💋How does your crush feel about you?

💋What about you turns people on?

💋Why are people scared of you?

💋What will your sex life with your future spouse be like?

💋How can you improve your finances?

💋What shadow work do you need to do?

💋What do they think of your voice?

Happy Early Summer 💗🌸☀️👙🌤️🐬

Marilyn Monroe photographed in 1957.

Rihanna celebrating her birthday with a blunt and hot cocoa while basking in a jacuzzi in Aspen, Colorado (2014)

Who is SHE?

→ journal out who you want to be in 2025:

1. What does she look like? (Physical appearance, style)

2. How does she dress on a typical day?

3. What does she like ?

4. What doesn't she like?

5. What is her behavior like in different situations?

6. (Social interactions, demeanor)

7. How does she prefer to be treated by others? (Expectations from relationships)

8. How does she treat people around her? (Interpersonal relationships, kindness)

9. What does her daily routine entail? (Activities, schedule)

10. At what time does she usually go to bed? (Sleeping habits)

11. When does she wake up in the morning? (Morning routine)

12. What are her hobbies and interests? (Leisure activities)

13. What is her profession or occupation? (Career, job responsibilities)

14. What are her long-term goals and aspirations? (Career ambitions, personal achievements)

15. How does she handle stress or challenges? (Coping mechanisms, problem-solving approach)

16. What type of books does she enjoy? (Cultural preferences)

17. How does she maintain her physical and mental well-being? (Health and self-care routines)

18. Does she have any specific dietary preferences or restrictions? (Food choices)

19. Who are her closest friends, and what are her relationships like with them?(Friendship dynamics)

20. How does she navigate conflicts or disagreements? (Communication style, conflict resolution)

21. What values and principles guide her decision-making? (Personal ethics)

22. How does she spend her leisure time on weekends? (Weekend activities, relaxation methods)

a reminder, that you in fact do not have to believe your affirmations. you have to persist and keep a mental diet, that is it. you can feel like your affirmation are bullshit and still manifest your shit.

What kind of youtube videos should you start watching? PAC

choose the image that feels like the feeling you want to feel when watching youtube

some examples of feelings >entertained >enlightened >relaxed >seen/felt/heard/connected topic of images: shows i loved as a kid

Pile One : Hannah Montana

gaming videos let go of your high expectations. embrace authenticity and nothingness. you could use a community of different minded people.

some recommendations : sykkuno, quarterjade ,xchocobars disguisedtoast, plumbella, quackity, fuslie

Pile Two: Little Bill

old youtube content

watch an old youtuber you used to love . watch someone who lets you into their life (in their way) Live in a world that doesn't exist anymore so you can really get away. having someone you can look up to would be beneficial.

some recommendations: dan and phil, zoella and alphi, rclbeauty, pat vs. jen, niki and gabi

Pile Three : Wow Wow Wubzy

deep dives

information on random subjects. research your favorite subjects. you are on a steady path in life so what you find interesting will benefit you. Continue to grow by learning from your mistakes.

some recommendations: Kaz Rowe, Ashley Norton, Kurtis Conner, mila tequila, athena p

Pile Four: The Backyardigans

mystery

watch some mysteries and search up your randomest questions. it would be good for you to be exposed to the darker and realer parts of life.

some recommendations: the watcher, missmangobutt, bailey sarian, kendall rae, try guys

Pile Five: Gullah Gullah Island

mukbangs and asmr be young at heart. connect with someone. make space to relax and love.

some recommendations: latteasmr, stories with kina, lofiluvasmr, sas-asmr, gracev

Pile Six: The Fresh Beat Band

educational

watch content related to the courses you're taking or your job. learn a new skill. get serious about life.

some recommendations: ted talks, news channels, science channels, history channels