Had A Dream Last Night That I Was A Knight And This Bigger Scarier Knight Had Me On The Ground And Right

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Watching polycules form in real time is like watching an earthquake and a tsunami strike at the same location

You ever think about how weird hippos are ecologically speaking?

There's literally no other megafauna on earth that spends the entire day lounging around in water, mostly just socializing, only to come onto land to feed at night.

I remember when I used to do education programs on hippos, most people assumed they ate aquatic plants, and that that's the whole reason they were in water. Meanwhile, hippos are basically just giant nocturnal cows that eat only grass.

Having any mildly popular post is fun because you get to see people in your notifications having insane and wildly off-topic conversations in the reblogs and it’s so hard to not pop in and be like “hey what the fuck are you talking about”

What can baleen whales even DO about orca whales. Like can they even fight back. Imagine being a huge fat floating mass of delicious meat living in an open void with no shelter to retreat to and there are these mouth torpedos that might just decide to show up and rip you open just whenever.

really not sure when it happened or why but personally I'm pissed that the queer community at large seems to have given up ground on the "people with penises/vulvas/testes/ovaries" language to sex & gender essentialists in exchange for the much less precise, much more demeaning "AGAB" language.

is it because you're scared of the word vulva? of acknowledging out loud that some people have penises? of recognising that many many people, including but certainly not limited to trans people, have mixed sex characteristics that cannot be accurately summarised by "afab/amab" as shorthand for "female/male"?

"in [GENITAL RELATED] situation AFABs will need to do X and AMABs will need to do Y" there are "afabs" with penises and "amabs" with vulvas. Saying this shit makes you look so unserious & honestly transphobic (given the ongoing erasure of post-op trans people within broader community). Intersex people and GRS have both existed for long enough (fucking forever and, decades, respectively) that we should well past making this basic fucking mistake.

quit referring to people by a vague & often violent event that happened at their birth as though it defines ANYTHING about how they & their body currently operate, and start using precise language so you at least look like you know what you're fucking talking about.

probably not applicable to some, but getting on grindr honestly. i'm never going to be someone who is able to leave the house regularly without knowing what might happen (as you might need to in irl cruising spaces or sex/kink parties) but grindr has been incredibly accessible for just having people desire me. i know the common advice is to not rely on other people for self validation, and i'm not suggesting to base your self-worth on it but in terms of knowing that i can be a hot man (when i was never desired when i was perceived as a black woman) grindr has been very useful for me. i learned how to claim my own space from being bombarded by cis men some of whom turn transphobic when they don't immediately get what they want. and the separation provided by a screen was helpful too.

I completely cosign this. Hopping on Grindr was a massive shot in the arm for my self-confidence during the dissolution of my long-term straight partnership. My ego was RAVAGED with insecurity over my changing body, societal transphobia about what those changes supposedly meant for my attractiveness, and my partner's cooling interest. I also feared that no gay men would ever accept me. But the moment I hopped on Grindr (with a trashy-sexy abs-and-peek-of-underboob profile photo) i was so inundated with enthusiastic responses that my phone overheated and shut off. There were guys foaming at the mouth trying to fuck me literally 50 feet away! (i lived in a many-unit apartment building so this was not as terrifying as it might sound to some).

Getting validation from other people is completely legitimate tbh. We are social beings and we find belonging and interpretation of who we are socially! Getting a ton of attention from dudes on Grindr gave me the confidence to go into cruisy gay bars, to waltz around tiddies-out at the sauna, and put more of my energy into dating in a more intentional way. People want to feel sexy, they want love and touch! Nothing wrong with trying to get it. And to this day, I find it easier to negotiate a hookup via text than irl, too.