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overcome self-doubt

Self-doubt is one of factors that prevents your from chasing your passion. When you overthink about setbacks of your idea, you immediate decrease your chance of success. Don’t let self-doubt takes over your goals and instead, love yourself. 

“In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.” — Anonymous

how to deal with mental fatigue

Hi, it’s werelivingarts! Exam season is coming so soon, and some of us might deal with a lot of stress and mental fatigue while preparing for the exams. 

Here are some tips on how to prevent and deal with mental fatigue (before it becomes too serious and leads to burnout). Exams are just ways to test your knowledge and understanding, so please do not expect too high and take care of your health! 🌿

Hope that we would all do well! 😊

self-discovery journal prompts

I’m really struggling with finding my real life and identity. Journaling not only helps me to discover myself and reflect on my personal beliefs and values, but also teaches me to embrace my flaws and improve my esteem. So hop on to one-month journaling prompt to explore and find your true self.

What am I most proud of?

How would I describe myself to someone I have never met before?

What would I look like in 10 years?

What are you are really good at?

What are my weaknesses?

Describe yourself positively in 10 words.

What is my background? How can it affect my beliefs?

What do I love about myself?

What am I passionate about?

What are my hobbies? What roles do they play in my identity?

Who or what motivates and inspires me?

What are my 3 biggest goals?

Describe your ideal version of your dream life.

What do I need to let go?

What are flaws that you accept and how can you looks at these flaws in a positive way?

What do I feel like my life is missing and how can I get more of what I need?

What areas that I can improve on?

What are 5 simple things that make you smile? Describe them.

When am I the happiest version of me?

If I could be anything in the world, what would I be?

If you could make 1 wish come true, what would it be?

If I already know that everything I want is coming, how would I show up differently?

If I could travel anywhere in the world, where would I go?  

How did someone change my day for the better?

How can I change someone else’s day for the better?

What doubts do I currently have? How can I ease them?

What can I do to nurture and mind, body, and soul more?

What are things that no one can understand about you? How can you express them?  

What is your life motto? Describe.

Write yourself a thank you letter.

This was probably the greatest thing I’ve seen all day!!!

good emotional skills to know 4 college but also in general

this is stuff that i’ve found helpful and am in the process of working on. they may not be achievable for you without help and may not work for your specific circumstance, but this is a list of suggestions that you might be able to think about. i am also not a mental health professional so please do feel free to contradict me!!

self soothing.  having a toolbox to take care of yourself by yourself. bc sometimes nobody else is available and you just gotta put some lotion on, listen to a tune, and go to bed early. 

checking in. checking in with yourself to see if you’re okay. knowing how to alter your strategies when your strategies aren’t working. knowing when your strategies aren’t working. this is just taking some time every day to reflect on what goals you didn’t meet and why and what you can do to fix that.

there’s nothing you “should” be doing. if you get caught up thinking “i should be doing x” that’s false! stop that! “should” be doing better implies that you have some obligation to do whatever it is that you “should” be doing. you don’t owe anybody except yourself. analyze why you think you should be doing that thing and change that into…. “i want to be doing x because…” or “doing x will make me happier, because…”. overall, more productive and less self-shamey. 

disconnecting from the crowd. eating in a crowded dining hall can be stressful! knowing how to be alone in a crowd and stay calm is helpful

being okay with being alone.  tbh college is kind of… being alone a lot, in my experience. even though you’re surrounded by people, a lot of time is spent alone. making friends is hard. your friends have different schedules. you’re busy. shit sucks. we make the best of it.

knowing yourself. this relates to a lot of what i’ve already said but like. knowing your emotional state and knowing what helps trick the monkey brain is helpful. stop repressing your feelings, friends.

talking to strangers. ordering from a menu! paying library fines. going to office hours. asking for a cashier at the register if there isn’t one. ya this is hard. ya you gotta expose yourself. sometimes i just try playing a persona. like this isn’t me ordering a sandwich. this is a cool me who knows how to talk to people who is ordering a sandwich.

you don’t have to be friends with your roommates. you just have to live together in a way that doesn’t make you two hate each other. ideally, you two will coexist in a way that doesn’t interfere with the other’s daily life.

give and taking. on the topic of roommates, sometimes your roommate can be a shitty person, but sometimes you are the shitty person! give a little but if they’re negatively impacting your life, communicate.

communicating during disagreements. explain what your emotions are instead of blaming them. “i feel hurt when you…” or “i feel frustrated when” or “i feel unappreciated when.” if things get heated, ask if you both can take a ten minute break and then come back. and don’t bring up disagreements when the other party is preoccupied or going somewhere. you can legitimately schedule a discussion.

it’s okay to apologize. learning to swallow your pride gets easier each time.

knowing that people work differently than you. some people are not gonna click with you and it’s gonna seem like they have this whole brain process up there that is totally unlike yours. and yeah! that’s how it is. and that’s chill if they aren’t hurting anyone else. work with them and be flexible!! 

comforting people. you will probably/definitely see someone cry! hell if i know how to comfort people. someone please help. but some things i’ve learned are: 1) different people need different things. different people need different things! 2) people need different things at different times. 3) you can ask them what they want and it won’t be weird. 4) apparently a lot of people like hugs? but ask. and it’s okay to not want a hug. 5) just show that you care in some way if you don’t know what they need. i used to think that if somebody needed to tell me what they needed it was a sign that i just didn’t know them well enough and we weren’t compatible or i wasn’t being a good friend. that’s fake! friendship isn’t based off of fitting naturally in every way and making an effort to be good for them is important.

knowing it’s okay to not be liked by everyone. it’s okay if strangers think you’re dumb because you said something dumb in public. you know you’re not dumb. it’s okay if not everybody you meet likes you. it’s okay if you do something cringey. everybody has their own shit to deal with and you will not shatter their world.  grow and move on!

forgiving yourself. i’m trying this new thing where when i feel embarrassed about something i say. out loud. “i forgive myself.” and then i just try to grow from that and move on without getting caught in a spiral of shame.

knowing what you need vs what you want and what is better at the time. what you need: a shower. what you want: to not do that. solution: take a shower! or maybe what you actually need is to go to sleep? but guess what. you probably know what is good for you. the hard part is actually doing it.

realize that building habits is less work than discipline. emotional effort is expended every time you have to make yourself do something. just make it part of your routine and you’ll just think it’s normal to do all the good things! like, for example, i’m trying to make it a habit to eat structured meals instead of a “eat when i’m hungry” thing because i know that makes me skip meals, which is bad!

you won’t be able to do everything. forgive yourself for that. write down  things that are top priority and focus on them. everything else is not important right now and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for not being able to do them.

your health is important. i’m not saying health will solve all your problems. it won’t! but health will cause a lot of your problems to go away. because let’s face it. not sleeping causes a lot of problems. 

it’s okay to ask for help. we say this a lot but it’s hard to internalize it. here’s a thought: there’s so much shame and hesitation about asking for help so by doing that you’re actually being proactive (which is respectable) and mature, and therefore… not weak or stupid. ask for help even before you need it! most people love to help others. and especially take advantage of people who are OFFERING help. for example: counselors at school or TAs. it’s literally their job. they want to do it. and if you don’t want to talk to anybody in real life, my inbox is always open.

What a legend. Carrie Fisher is deeply missed.

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Yesssssss

#don’t be a penis

Don’t be a pussy

There are so many study methods and techniques to try out that it can be a bit overwhelming sometimes. Luckily, there are many expalantions online about these methods. Here are some resources to find your perfect study method(s).

Types of learners + methods

Types of learners + methods

4 types of learners

Learning styles

Learning styles quiz

Types of learners info sheet

Study methods for auditory learners

Study technique - multiple intelligences

Some study methods masterposts

study methods @letsget-downtobusiness

study methods @etudiance

study methods @prettylittlestudies

study methods @studiyng

study methods @moleskinestudies

study methods @thegrangersapprentice

revision methods @studydiaryofamedstudent

13 study methods

five study methods

study methods + purposes

study methods infographic

Top 40 study methods

different ways to study

Some well known study methods to try out

mindmaps

note taking

teaching others

flashcards

discussing the topic

mnemomics

watching videos on the topic

highlighting

sticky notes

practice questions

recite out loud

Some less known methods to try out

Sqr3

ADEPT

QDASC

Snowball method

Journey method

Dominic system

Flip tips

Alternative to flashcards

Creating a memory palace

Feynman technique

Imply your study methods

study sessions

study guide

pre-studying

active studying

study moods

resources + methods

3 days study plan

3 - 2 - 1 hour system

My other masterposts

study skills

scheduling studying

study problems

acing vocabulary lists

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