By The Way You Say This, Have You Tried Gathering All The Nothing In A Room And Throwing It At Something?

I tend to focus on hair... If I've not known someone for a few years well, I'll most likely need to be reintroduced if they change their hairstyle beyond a regular set.

Whenever I'm talking to someone I rarely actually look them in the eye. My eyes usually focus on the eye brows and nose bridge. Those are close enough to the eyes that people think I'm looking them in the eye.

I'm always confused by y in pronunciation guides, and questions like this, as I recall being taught it can make any of the other vowel sounds. If it's an official format, I can go look it up, but this sort of splitting gets odd. I'm not entirely sure I pronounce the y in day at all. The two syllable da-ee does sound the most logical way to add it back in, but...

A wiz, pronounced the exact same way, I'm pretty sure.

Yo Danny Fenton he was just 14 and he never learned how to fucking dodge so instead he just RIPS HIS BODY IN HALF

... How else would you say it, honestly. Like, sure, you could've just said computers or for the switch, but, like, that doesn't make it come across as less kinky anyways.

Nintendo literally made an official tf animation of their own product and I've seen barely anyone get weird about it

I've been blocked for making an annoying comment before, and, like - that is Always a fundamental issue between the way we communicate, but, like, on a platform that has one button for preventing someone from having a meaningful interaction and for preventing someone from seeing your blog at all, the opportunity to negotiate that sort of thing Exactly Once with folk central to a community your on the edge of makes sense! And it's not as if Tumblr can tell who is or isn't central... Rather hard to engage with a fandom when an important person has blocked you.

we need block appeal on this site i need to be able to argue my merit to people who hate me for one (1) thing i said so that i can reblog their good posts

Is this not, rather, a measure of fucked upedness? For instance, surely Skitter/Weaver/Khepri is a poor little meow meow, despite being the third best person in canon (beat only by Vista and Dragon)?

people need to realise that a poor little meow meow must be a character who has committed atrocities you cannot poor little meow meow a good guy that's not how this works

OH you know what? let's do controversial mental health/psychiatry opinions.

• forcibly institutionalizing psychotic people in times of crisis can not only worsen the situation but create lifelong trauma and further distrust in medical professionals and medication. it should not be a go-to option. believe it or not we still have human feelings despite a disconnect from reality.

• children should not be identified as 'sociopaths' both because antisocial behavior in childhood can be treated and because it's often a sign the child is being abused or neglected.

• people should be able to admit they're suicidal and/or self harming without fear of being institutionalized. with threat of institutionalization they won't get better, they'll just hide it more.

• not wanting to take certain medication does not make you hopeless and 'anti recovery', there are valid reasons why someone may be apprehensive towards medication as treatment and it doesn't make you delusional.

• everyone deserves autonomy in treatment, including psychotic people

• can you tell this post is partially personal rage

• oh well i'm still right about everything

2024 tumblr: yea im jackin it to this clown vore video but im only into these kinks ironically

PSA: Please don’t ask participants to do grounding/mindful/somatic/etc practices at your events

Grounding exercises should not be an activity in large group settings, especially unsolicited and without warning, especially if you’re not aware of every single person in the space’s mental health conditions, physical health conditions, and personal relationship to their body.

Practices such as mindfulness, grounding, somatic exercises, breathing techniques, body scans, etc. are very helpful therapeutic tools to help manage stress. They can (and do!) help plenty of people– when taught safely and used effectively!

HOWEVER for people with conditions that cause psychosis and/or dissociative conditions such as depersonalization/derealization, these techniques are contraindicated and can make their symptoms significantly worse. They should only be used with guidance from their mental health team and adapted to their needs. For people with conditions like anxiety and PTSD, being aware of breathing can trigger a trauma response or anxiety attacks.

And for people with conditions that cause chronic pain or other uncomfortable bodily sensations, becoming re-centered with their bodies can cause more awareness of the pain they are in, which a level of (ideally functional) dissociation is actually helpful. For people in wheelchairs and powerchairs, touching the ground beneath their feet isn’t always an option. For people with cardiac and pulmonary conditions, deep breathing can be impossible or can trigger asthma attacks. For disabled people in general, doing body scans can be impossible due to paralysis or limb differences. They can bring awareness to things the person wasn’t aware were wrong to begin with (which is helpful in certain spaces, but not a great ice breaker at a retreat!)

And for trans people, binders and other garments can restrict breathing, and taking repeated deep breaths while binding can cause rib damage (which is why you shouldn't bind at night, while coughing from sickness, while exercising, etc). Becoming centered in a body that makes you dysphoric can be deeply distressing, again, a level of functional dissociation helps.

This also goes for plenty of other people in marginalized bodies, such as people of color, people who use substances, queer people, and more. Becoming grounded in your own marginalized body can be a heavy weight to carry, and needs appropriate and individualized care to be a beneficial experience.

As an alternative, I suggest doing a round of gratitudes instead, it allows for people to choose their level of vulnerability in spaces, while not being generally contraindicated for many people. Doing fun (and appropriate to the setting) icebreakers are great. Ask what brings someone to the space. Check-ins about basic needs such as if people need to use the restroom, eat, drink water, are rested, etc. can be more appropriate body check-ins for folks to do.

I don’t recommend doing these exercises even with a warning beforehand. If I'm in the room while someone is leading a breathing exercise, even if I try to ignore it, I (and most people) would automatically become aware of my breathing. The same goes for any other techniques. These techniques can cause real, life-threatening levels of harm for some people, and can even just be deeply uncomfortable or distressing for others. Dissociation is not inherently evil or bad or harmful. It is the way the body and mind naturally respond to adverse experiences (note: it can also cause distress and at higher levels, can be disordered) it is best to allow people to exist as they are in communal spaces. Let people show up as they are.

Most spaces are not equipped or appropriate to respond to emergencies, difficult feelings, and all the varied responses that can come from folks doing mindfulness in group settings.

I personally do some things before large gatherings and events to feel centered on the activity I’ll be doing, and afterward, I decompress. Encourage participants to lean on their natural supports and offer suggestions for it! Be creative in your caring!

This also doesn’t mean to discourage these practices! If you see someone doing deep breathing, check in with them, offer a space for them to decompress, care for them! Worksheets or posters on techniques like square breathing and 5 senses check-ins are great for a quiet room or spaces where participants can decide if they want/are able to engage with those tools. It should be a fully consensual opt-in, rather than being forced to opt-out. Having to leave a room when a group leader says “We’re going to start a mindful breathing meditation, please feel free to leave if you have psychosis, chronic pain, or are trans” is obviously othering and outs people.

Sincerely, someone who has psychotic symptoms, dissociation, chronic pain, is trans and whose body is marginalized in many ways and is really tired from trying to explain this at every event I go to