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“The worst pain in the world is shame. I spend a lot of time trying to not do anything bad to anyone, but you can’t live your life and not hurt people. Pretty recently, I did something that I’m really not proud of, and it shocked me. I thought, “I’m a really fucking bad person.” But I realized that something good came out of it because now I have to be a lot less judgmental of others. Everything can make you a more compassionate person if you use it that way.”

— Fiona Apple for Pitchfork, JUNE 4 2012

some gifs that are too precious not to share,,, i'm so in love with them being in love

when john makes paul laugh-

shy boyfriends

john just wanted to give you a massage, paul, don't be mean

this one... just melts my heart

paul being a wife and john looking at paul like he always does... *sigh*

Mid-June?, 1972: John talks to Sandra Shevey about having a partner who fulfills both creative and romantic aspirations, and the disorienting experience of working with Yoko for the first time as competitive equals in the recording studio on Some Time In New York City. (Note: @sweating-cobwebs, consider this is my gift to you.)

JOHN: It’s a plus, it’s not a minus. The plus is that your best friend, also, can hold you without… I mean, I’m not a homosexual, or we could have had a homosexual relationship and maybe that would have satisfied it, with working with other male artists. [faltering] An artist – it’s more – it’s much better to be working with another artist of the same energy, and that’s why there’s always been Beatles or Marx Brothers or men, together. Because it’s alright for them to work together or whatever it is. It’s the same except that we sleep together, you know? I mean, not counting love and all the things on the side, just as a working relationship with her, it has all the benefits of working with another male artist and all the joint inspiration, and then we can hold hands too, right?

SHEVEY: But Yoko is a very independent person. Isn’t it— [inaudible]

JOHN: Sure, and so were the men I worked with. The only difference is she’s female.

SHEVEY: But you didn’t find it difficult to make that transition?

JOHN: Oh yeah. I mean, it took me four years. I’m still not – I’m still only coming through it, you know.

this day will not and shouldnt be centered around her or sean or julian, but i noticed a yoko’s post so i will say this really quickly

while i will forever acknowledge yoko witnessed a very traumatizing event, and i’m upset she had to as much as i dislike her, her taking that picture of john’s glasses is absolutely disgusting and disturbing. we don’t know what it was like to see him be murdered, but we do not need to see what his glasses looked like after being shot. we don’t need that at all. it’s disgusting alone the picture exists, but she used it as an album cover, and now posts it every chance she gets. whether it’s her or some estate posting it, it’s being posted chance possible, and it’s disgusting. this day is about remembering the beautiful soul we lost. it’s not about seeing that picture every year.

if i hadn’t made it clear, i do not like yoko. i am aware she unfortunately had to witness that, but that is no excuse for taking that picture and spreading it for the world to see. we may not have known him like she did, but i know we do not want to see it. even if it wasn’t john lennon, no one would want to see someone’s bloodied glasses that were worn the day they were murdered. it’s not art, it’s not showing anything positive.

we miss that man dearly, and we do not want to see that picture year when we are trying to remember the beautiful soul that was lost that many love.

if my future husband were to have gotten shot and killed and i got his glasses, i would NOT take a picture of them and display it for the world to see every single year. i wouldn’t even think of doing it. because it is disgusting.

i don’t care if it is her or her estate or whatever that controls her social media’s posting it, the picture shouldn’t exist. but it definitely be spread the way it is. every time i see that photo my heart literally shatters.

the john lennon estate needs to be fucking destroyed. it’s branding “john&yoko happy true love” when that relationship was toxic and exploits him as much as they can. it’s her only source of income because she won’t survive without him. no one knew who she was until she got with john. exploiting john is her only big source of income because her work alone is fucking bad and won’t give her enough to survive like john’s work has.

if me talking about yoko like this upsets you, you can unfollow. i don’t care. this blog does not like or support yoko and will gladly stand on that hill. let the trash take itself out.

Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

Signs that you’re living in abuse:

Behavioral patterns of living in abuse

Was I abused? Checklist

Not knowing you are a victim

Signs your family is abusive

Making excuses for your abusive parents

Experience of living in secrecy

What they taught you was abuse

Emotional experiences of living in abuse

Shame and guilt: how abused children feel

What makes parents abusers (actions)

Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault? Checklist

Am I being held hostage by abusers? Checklist

You are not allowed to mention the past

Why you still love abusive parents

Parental behaviour that isn’t normal

Shit parents aren’t supposed to say to you

Experience of “not belonging anywhere”

Red flags for abusive parents

Healthy vs Abusive Chores

Was my childhood abusive or just had some bad parts?

Rules always change (unpredictable environment is abusive)

Breakdown of abusive parent’s behaviour:

“This is my house” rule

Start living in the real life!

Why all the children aren’t abused equally in an abusive home

Common abuser hypocrisies

Do your parents want you to be happy or look happy?

Why do they try to convince you that you’re worthless

Why do they pretend you’re a burden? Controlling behaviour

Why your abusers are not good people

Abusive parents are keeping you in false hope they’ll change

Are your parents preventing you from succeeding?

Abusive parents pretending “it wasn’t that bad”

Double Bind (why every choice you make ends wrong)

Incorporating trauma in raising children

Abusers will not allow you to call them out on abuse

Signs your parents are narcissistic:

Stuff delusional narcissists say

Shit narcissistis parents say

Recognizing emotional immaturity of narcissistic parents

Examples of narcissistic behaviours

Being punished for growing up by narcissistic parents

What children of narcissists go thru

Signs you’ve been thru sexual abuse:

CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) Symptoms

Signs you might have endured CSA

Was I sexually abused by adults as a child? Checklist

Signs of abusive friendship/relationship:

How to tell if a friend is not a friend

Am I in an abusive relationship/friendship? Checklist

Manufacturing insecurities

Red flags for abusers

Have I been thru social abuse? Checklist

You can recognize abusers by how they make you feel

How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships

Recognizing abusive friendship

Signs you’re struggling with trauma

Trauma processing information

Experiences of traumatized children

Signs you’re recovering from long term abuse

Things abuse survivors think/say

Thoughts of victims of child abuse

Your brain on trauma

How long term childhood abuse develops into complex trauma (comic)

Ups and downs of trauma

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if we lived in a world where u had to do the career u were first interested in as a child what would u be doing, id be a firefighter

in poland there’s no sex education, no easy access to contraception and morning after pills, abortion is now illegal, many ministers say that women exist only to bear children. yes woman, you can live here, but only as an incubator.

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just saying but most iconic front women from rock/music history have had lesbian relationships. janis joplin? joan jett? josephine baker? debbie harry? amy winehouse? the godmother, the QUEEN, of all rock music sister rosetta tharpe? ALL have expressed in public (or private) their attraction for women as well as men. lesley gore, the 60s pop artist who gave us “you don’t own me”? a lesbian. ma rainey, a blues artist who gave us one of the first recordings of actual, non-subtextual lesbian content in “prove it on my blues”. and these are just the women who are, for the most part, well-known for their music and image. women who love women have done so much for music, and this is most likely only scratching the surface