AFFIRMING THE REAL RICHES

𖦞’#⃞20͟0͟5 ₊˚ 𝓐natomy of an It 𝓖ir𝑙 🍋‍🟩🏩₊˚☆ ͘ୢ꣒ 🌐

𝓐: What Makes an It Girl?! Can Just Anyone be and It Girl?! What can you Learn from an It girl?! in this segment all of these questions will be answered as we breakdown how an it girl is made Using the Acronym…C.U.N.T

C.harisma .ೃ࿐

when you’re a socialite and center of attention charisma is an essential skill to harbor in your own unique way to really make a mark in a social setting and have people remember your name and who you are because being distinctive is a key gateway to the it girl mentality how you carry yourself is essential

U,niqueness ೄྀ࿐ ˊˎ-

individuality is a way of life you must set yourself apart and hold yourself to a different standard to cultivate a branding for example Beyonce & Rihanna two completely different women that are branded is completely different ways and look nothing alike but was making them it girls how they stand out you should never try to be someone you’re not or you’ll never be satisfied, sho you are is something no one can replicate

˚₊‧꒰ა NERVE ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

you know when someone says the phrase “you’ve got some nerve” its a testament of ones audacity and to reach it girl status you have to have some NERVE to know your the best,no one is your competition and you’ll succeed no matter what

being in the limelight,a role model and having status doesn’t happen over night and no everyone is always born with this mindset but you can adapt it to your self with things like shadow work and words of affirmation when you flip your mindset you’ll flip your life

.˚ * ꒰ঌ TALENT ໒꒱ * ˚.

focus on yourself,your goals and what you’re good at when you establish a goal a consistently improve thats when you can become spectacular at literally anything everyone has a talent or even a knack for something you just have to figure out what it is and when you do you can keep building off of it and as far as a goal goes you have to keep up with it you cant just have s goal but do nothing to achieve id recommend manifestation if you want a quicker result!!

𝓐: i hope yall enjoy and can take something away from this post to improve yourself muahh - 𝓐

it girls guide to haircare, from glossy curls to flawless braids⋆.ೃ࿔*:･💕🧁

your hair is your CROWN 👑 and the prettiest hair is always the healthiest. so in this post i wanna explore tips, routines and recipes that can help you to have healthier hair and start ur haircare journey…💬🎀

BUILDING A HAIRCARE ROUTINE ;

when it comes to building a routine of any sort, consistency is key! the main components of building a MEAN hair care routine are the following ; cleansing, deep conditioning and nourishment. think of ur hair like a garden that you have to water and nourish and in return it'll grow and be beautiful. thats the way that hair is! it needs tender loving CARE to be as beautiful as it can be.

wash 1-2x a week depending on how much u need to, but avoid washing it every single day because it strips ur hair of its natural oils and will give u dry and brittle hair. and thats NOT hot…💬🎀

🧁 cleansing ; opt for sulfate-free shampoos to keep your hair clean without stripping away natural oils.

🧁 deep conditioning ; deep conditioning is a NON-negotiable. choose protein-rich or moisture-based deep conditioners to keep ur hair strong and soft.

🧁 nourishment ; use hair masks on a weekly basis, always use a leave in conditioner or serum to lock in moisture and shield your hair from heat or environmental stressors.

so all in all, wash ur hair once a week or as much as needed, make sure that u choose moisture based, protein rich conditioners, and use hair masks weekly and invest in quality masks and oils to nourish ur hair and give it that extra UMPH.

THE GLOSSIEST CURLS ;

to achieve the glossiest prettiest curls ever, start with damp hair. apply a curl-enhancing cream, and comb through for even distribution. you can also try the LOC method, where you leave in, oil then cream ur hair. this particularly works great for hair that loses moisture.

if u have curly hair, sleeping in a silk bonnet or on silk pillowcases can help you to avoid having frizzy hair and using silk scrunchies is better for the health of ur hair + avoids breakage.

for defined curls and coils that pop, hydrate first by starting on freshly washed or damp hair. apply a leave-in conditioner for hydration. use a curl-defining cream or custard to clump and hold ur curls, make sure that ur working in sections! use a diffuser to dry your curls while keeping their shape intact and finish with a lightweight oil or shine spray for that extra glossy look.

FLAWLESS BRAIDS ;

to get sleek, flawless braids, start by detangling your hair completely. smooth your edges with a gel or edge control, and section your hair evenly. keep your braids tight but not too tight to avoid tension on your scalp. finish with a hair oil for shine and to nourish your scalp. if you’re rocking feed-in braids or box braids, don’t forget to hydrate your scalp regularly to avoid dryness or flakes.

GENERAL TIPS ;

🧁 always work in sections when ur doing ur hair bcuz it makes the process easier + more effective 🧁 deep conditioner instead of regular conditioner 🧁 wrap ur hair at night with a bonnet/sleep on silk pillowcases

AT HOME HAIR GLOSSING ROUTINE ;

for hair glossing at home, combine conditioner, olive oil, and a tablespoon of honey in a bowl and mix it together. be generous with it as u apply it to your hair. leave on ur hair for an hour. after washing ur hair blow-dry it. 

MY PERSONAL RECOMMENDATIONS ;

❤︎ i use the glossy pearl hair mask and it smells SO good, it smells like literal baby powder and it keeps my hair so incredibly soft.

❤︎ i also really love the gisou honey infused hair mask, it smells like honey (duh) and is really nourishing for my hair + leaves it nice and shiny and soft.

SILK PRESS SZN ;

the basic steps to having the best at-home silk press are simple! first, wash ur hair with a moisturizing shampoo. opt for a sulfate free shampoo that will hydrate ur hair, and not strip ur curls of their natural oils. make sure to wash shampoo ur hair 2x and make sure that theres no residual shampoo left!

deep condition ur hair and let that sit for about 30 minutes, then rinse out with cool water. the next step is also a big nonnegotiable with silk presses - using heat protectants. PROTECT YOUR HAIR. step four is to blow out ur hair with a round brush or a hair-dryer brush, after you've done this smooth some serum into ur hair for that shine and frizz free silk press that we're going for. lastly, flat iron ur hair.

so all in all these are the six steps to getting that perfect silk press at home...💬🎀

wash hair with a moisturizing shampoo

deep condition ur hair and let it sit for 30 minutes

dry ur hair and apply a heat protectant

blow out ur hair with a hair dryer brush or a round brush

smooth some serum into ur hair

flat iron ur hair

Getting dolled up feeling like a sweet macaron in the new Estée Lauder x Ladurée collab 🎀

a guide to take back your power ‧₊˚🦢✩

do what you want and don't be afraid to do it alone. if no one else wants to go with you somewhere, or do something with you, learn to have that ability to do it alone. and obviously i don't mean illegal or bad stuff, but i mean if you've been meaning to try out a new activity but no one else seems interested, go do it on your own! when you start doing this it'll show people that whether they join you or not, you will still go and do things that make you happy.

say no. just say no. its not that scary once you start saying it often. you don't wanna do something? say no. you don't wanna give something? say no. you don't need to have a reason.

get a life outside of them or get a life outside of whats draining you. when your whole life is primarily centred around maybe a toxic friend, a job that drains you, something that makes you feel very anxious, then of course you'd be on survival mode 24/7. because all you're thinking and stressing about is that thing. so instead maybe after a long day of school or work, go home and do something you love. because remember, your life doesnt stop after school/ work okay?? you can go and actually DO STUFF to take your mind off things. you don't even need to go out of your house, you could have a cozy night in with yummy food and your fav movie, pick up a hobby or if you do wanna go outside your house, meet up with some friends, learn a sport, join a club, go paragliding or something- anything that makes you feel happy!!

refuse embarrassment. because you can. because torturing yourself over what happened in the past is doing you absolutely no good right now. just learn and move onnn- LEARN AND MOVE ON! if learning takes time, so be it but make sure that you're focussing on learning, on why you did that, and not beating yourself up for making a mistake. and also because when you show people you're not embarrassed about something, they'll realise that they cannot hold that over your head. now you have the power.

when you say you're gonna do something, DO IT. don't be all talk and no walk, people will lose respect and trust in you. don't say anything unless you are confident that you will actually do it. "do what you say but do not say what you do"- keep up to your promises you've made to others & yourself, but also keep private. what people don't know, they can't ruin.

Princess Ritual and Mindset 💘🗝😇🐉🐳🧸

So I made up this ritual/ mindset and it’s called the Princess ritual/ mindset. ☺️☺️☺️.

Here’s how it goes.

💘 First, pick out a dress or article of clothing you love, and put it on.

💘 As well, pick out something that could be your crown. I have a literal crown made from yarn that I wear, but it could be something else you hold or can wear or possibly some makeup that you put on.

💘 Okay and then while you’re wearing it, be in the Princess mindset.

💘 The Princess mindset basically means that you don’t let negativity of any kind bring you down. You don’t react to negativity. This causes you to focus more on things that make you happy/ you love.

💘 If you do react to negativity, then when you catch yourself, don’t react to it.

💘 Do activities that boost your confidence/ let you know that you are worthy/ validate to you that you are beautiful and awesome etc. like saying affirmations, journaling, taking selfies, etc.

💘 It can be hard to stay in Princess mindset sometimes, but we all make mistakes and you can try again.

💘 And that’s basically all there is to it. Don’t feed in to negativity of any kind, only focus on positivity of any kind.

💘 The Princess ritual/ mindset has been very helpful to me sometimes, like when I start getting upset.

💘 The Princess mindset is helpful all of the time to be in. The dress & crown helped me to remember that I was in it.

I hope it helps you too.

😇🥰☺️.

Love,

Pure Love with Horns - The Pure Love Devil - Lucy S.

💘😇⚡️🌹🔥🧸🐉🗝🐳💙🕷🎀💗✌️.

Investment Pieces Every Woman Should Own 💐🤍

Hey cuties! Here are some investment pieces that every woman should own. These are things that probably cost a bit more but in the long run the quality and reliability will last you forever. Now I don’t have all of these yet but I am in the process of saving up for good quality versions of all these products. These are things that you can have for a life time.

Simple Black heels

Perfect for any outfit, from job interviews to dates.

Get a nice pair of leather heels that fit well. Once fully broken in they will become the perfect shoes for any more formal occasions.

Simple 2-3inch heel fits pretty much any occasion.

A good quality blow dryer.

Very necessary for keeping your hair well kept and presentable.

I imagine a diffuser would be the best if you have curly hair (I don’t have curly hair so feel free to correct me and leave suggestions for reliable hair tools for all hair types)

Something that works quickly and gives you a reliable style without too much heat damage.

A genuine wool coat.

Let’s face it regular puffers are warm but can ruin your outfit completely.

So buy a high quality wool coat that fits you well that can go with any winter outfits. You obviously can still have the puffer but it’s always nice to have pieces that add to your outfit.

A perfume scent that you love

Having a signature sent is just so iconic.

I learned this from the biggest icon in my life my 100 year old great grandma who still uses her Chanel 5 everyday just as she has for 80 years. (Such a baddie for real)

I am currently in the process of trying to find a perfume that I love and want to wear for the rest of my life.

Red lipstick

I feel like people hate on red lipstick purely because they haven’t find the right red shade for them.

Red is one of those colors that if you get the wrong undertone it looks clownish and not chic.

I recommend spending some time finding the right undertone and red. And then hoping it never gets discontinued.

While you don’t need it all the time it can be such a perfect touch to have red lips

Simple jewelry that doesn’t tarnish.

I am one of those people that wears the same necklace and earrings everyday. The reason I do this is because I invested in pieces that wouldn’t tarnish and now I have instant outfit upgrades that are comfortable without leaving my skin green.

I do add other jewelry on top but I think having simple jewelry that you can add more fun pieces to as the outfit calls for it is so necessary.

When I was thinking of this list I was also thinking of things that you might pass down to your daughters. You wouldn’t pass down your SHEIN dress but you probably would pass down a good quality dress. Obviously these are expensive I have like 2 things from this list but I am currently using this list as a way of motivating me to use my money wisely. I have a system set up so I use these as a reward for good spending habits and putting away money.

Xoxo 💋

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