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       𝐃𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐌 𝐆𝐈𝐑𝐋 𝐖𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐑

a winter post on getting through the winter flawlessly, warm, and cozily as a dream girl ♡ if you’re interested, look at my dream girl guides for summer and autumn!

my winter looks like traveling, cabin stays, new york, adventures and activities all the while staying cozy and warm inside surrounded by christmas lights, hot chocolate, candles, shopping music, and keeping to myself looking out my floor to ceiling windows with my books and loved one.

♡ table of contents

what does your ideal winter for this year look like? ideas, moodboards

physical: winter essentials, what to wear, beauty products, winter reads and bucket lists

mental: wellness, book recommendations

 ♡ what’s your ideal winter?

like i always say: you create the definition of dream girl and it can always change. so what does your ideal winter look like? 

have a balance of attending holiday parties, walks in the city to see the lights, indoor shopping and staying inside, in your cozy space while keeping warm with a hot beverage and a good movie/book!

♡ bucket list ideas

create a winter routine! make sure to get your daily fresh air, staying physically & social active and uplifted to stay away from the winter blues. wake up earlier.

pick up a new hobby

spend more time away from your phone

make it a priority to avoid isolation

go skiing, snowboarding, ice skating

attend a ballet/musical

go on late night drives

take a drive to see the christmas lights

attend or host holiday parties or small gatherings with loved ones. have a game night!

try new recipes, bake goodies

most important of all: follow your gut. keep your safety your #1 priority.

♡ cozy winter habits

christmas movie marathon

playing classical music

sitting by the fireplace

making your christmas wishlist

take up crochet and knitting. make a hat, scarf, headbands, book sleeve, etc!

donate old clothes and toys

playing in the snow

wearing fluffy socks

make a new year vision board 

movie nights

try new ways to make coffee, hot chocolate…

buying christmas themed pajamas. match with your pets.

reading winter books and classics

go on a youtube throwback binge and watch bethany mota and meredith foster’s old christmas videos

keep writing in your diary

shopping or browsing through the city and malls to take in the holiday atmosphere

candlelit bubble baths

turning on the radio to listen to christmas music

                        physical

♡ winter essentials

moisturizer. with the colder seasons come with drier skin. make sure to invest in a good heavy moisturizer that soaks into your skin well. recommendations below.

sunscreen. it doesn’t matter what the season is, spf will always be important! don’t forget your neck and hands.

a pretty blush of your choice

get a new signature scent for winter

candles

cute onesies 

classic pink silk robe

a cute winter mug for when you add in mini marshmallows + whip cream/sweet foam for your beverages

♡ outfit essentials + my personal favorites

chanel earmuffs

santinni “an affair to remember” + “roman holiday” + “an american in paris” coats

chloe betty boots 

a cute fur + puffy jacket

black vivienne westwood leather gloves

ralph lauren cable knit sweaters

baker boy/fiddler hats

mini skirts. yes. i said it.

demonia boots (vigilance/camel line)

fur mini bags

oversized scarfs!

knitted mini skirts

sam heidi bib puffer jacket

santinni “harlow” fur headband with bow

fur trim everything and anything. coats, boots, gloves, hats…

fur empty top hats

microfiber and leather ankle boots

leg warmers

tweed + knitted blazer and cardigan sets

moon boots

prada monolith combat boots

the arrivals moto jacket

bow tights

ugg earmuffs 

fleece tights that keep you warm and cute

hair bows and headbands

scarfs

sweater dresses will never not be my favorite

sunglasses

baggy denim 

half zip up pullovers

uggs (with bows) 

long trench coats + wool coatigans 

tote bags, small crossbodies 

trousers

the basics to layer. turtlenecks, mocknecks, wool crewnecks, leggings, long sleeves, thicker socks

and… the bear hat and scarf. i love it. don’t look at me.

                     beauty

♡ the colder weather calls for soft, sparkly and blushy looks!

blushed and flushed or nothing comes out in this post as well! the cold look is the absolute cutest.

glittery eyeshadow and highlighters

gradient lip combos

plum colored makeup looks for the holiday season

♡ beauty tips for the colder season

gear towards creams instead of gel moisturizers. creams are heavier, gel will hydrate your skin but it won’t last you through the whole day. you’ll eventually start your skin tightening and dry mid-day.

i always go through my sheet masks fast during the winter! run the extra serum on your neck, chest and hands.

Invest in face masks, a good face cream and lip product.

keep hand cream and lip balm on you!

 ♡ product recommendations

philosophy - snow angel, white cherry, and candy cane shower gel (or all of them tbh)

victoria secret - warm & cozy line

o’keeffe’s - working hands cream

fenty skin + dior addict lip oil

nature republic - fresh herb peach cleansing foam

laneige - cream skin toner & moisturizer

tatcha - the dewy skin cream, water cream, and overnight repair

amlactin - rapid relief restoring body cream

créme de la mer - ultra rich cream

etude house - soonjung 2x barrier intensive cream

kopari - ultra restore body butter

♡ nails 

pale, muted colors with decos! pinks, winter blues, nude, ombre, etc.

lots of deco and designs are my favorite

i usually go for coffin but with designs i love to recreate, long almond.

examples for both makeup and nails are in the photo above! ♡

♡ winter scent recommendations

voltaire zadig - this is her

ysl - mon paris

carolina herrera - good girl 

killian - angel share & love don’t be shy

fresh cream - warm cashmere

gucci - bamboo

chanel eau tendre

juliette has a gun - not a perfume

replica by the fireplace & jazz club

eilish - billie eilish

burberry - her

victoria secret - warm & cozy

              for the mind & soul

♡ reminders

keep up a routine and structure. switch it up when you feel called to. it can be hard when it’s cold and the days become darker but remember the feeling that comes with being active and getting things done.

take a list and write things down that you can enjoy in the winter and focusing on bringing more of it into your life for the season.

make yourself cozy and romanticize life! stock up on sweaters, get cute blankets, bake goods to enjoy and have your house smelling heavenly, play music in the background, and whatever your heart desires. 

♡ winter reads

sit by the fire or window, cuddled up in a blanket and dive into another world with bamb’s recommendations!

before the coffee gets cold - toshikazu kawaguchi

little women - louisa may alcott

murder on the orient express - agatha christie

one dark window - rach gillig

a christmas carol - charles dickens

the bear and the nightingale (winter trilogy) - katherine aden

sorrow and bliss - meg mason

sleepless nights - elizabeth hardwick

frankenstein - mary shelley

from lukov with love - mariana zapata

wuthering heights - emily bronte

six of crows and crooked kingdom - leigh bardugo

echo north - joanna ruth meyer

for the wolf - hannah whitten

disorientation - elaine hseigh cho

the winter duke - claire eliza bartlett

tinder - sally gardner

an unwanted guest - shari lapena

shiver - allie reynolds

the picture of dorian gray - oscar wilde

the overnight guest - heather gudenkauf

lapvona - ottessa moshfegh

murder for christmas - francis duncan

i want to die but i want to eat tteokbokki - baek sehee

behind closed doors - b.a paris

snow - orhan pamuk

the invisible life of addie larue - v.e schwab

lakesedge & forestfall (gothic fantasy duology)

- stay safe and cozy. kisses from bambi ♡

　　　　　　　　　　　　　　become the laziest shifter ,

shifting is not a labour camp. you are not laying bricks. you are not a victorian chimney sweep, coughing up soot and hoping the foreman doesn’t notice you pausing for breath. shifting is supposed to be effortless.

　　　　here’s how to become one.

　ʚ stop trying so hard. seriously. shifting is not an algebra equation that needs solving. the more you obsess, the more you reinforce the idea that shifting is difficult, that it requires strain. it doesn’t. it’s like falling asleep. easy, natural, inevitable. you don’t need to ‘do’ shifting. you just allow it.

start ditching the obsession with techniques. they are tools, not commandments. if a method feels like a second job, drop it. some people shift while blinking. others shift mid-sneeze. some wake up shifted. some never have to think about it at all. you’re allowed to be one of those people. shifting doesn’t reward effort, it rewards ease.

people who shift aren’t ‘lucky.’ they just decide they’ve already won. embrace the delusion. belief isn’t something you prove; it’s something you wear like an expensive coat. you don’t need external validation. your reality is dictated by you, not by polls or peer reviews.

stop tensing up in bed like you’re about to undergo surgery. roll over like you’ve just been fed grapes by hand and have never known stress. get comfortable. let go. do you think nero worried about his shifting technique? no. he just made a decree and the world bent to him. you are your own emperor. decree your reality.

shifting doesn’t need to feel like a cosmic event. no need for vibrating, levitating, the heavens parting. sometimes it’s quiet. lose the expectation of ‘fireworks.’  sometimes it’s like slipping into warm water, seamless and smooth. don’t wait for ‘proof’. just shift.

stop acting like reality is a prison cell. you are not ‘trapped’. you are not ‘stuck’. you’re just sitting in one room when you could walk into another. no chains, no locks, just a door.

　　　　　　or how to . . 　　　　　　　　　　　　become the laziest manifestor ,

manifesting is not an unpaid internship. you are not earning it through blood, sweat, and desperate scripting at 3 a.m. manifesting is a birthright. a casual shrug. a ‘wouldn’t it be funny if. oh, look, it happened.’ you are not grinding for your desires.

　　　so let’s talk about getting everything you want.

　⭑ in its core, manifesting is just deciding. it is not a scavenger hunt. it is not an exam. it is not a ‘what if’. it is a ‘this is.’ people who get what they want simply assume it’s already theirs. they don’t waver. they don’t worry. they don’t ‘hope’—they know.

stop micromanaging the how. do you manually control your heartbeat? do you stress over each individual breath? no? then stop hovering over your manifestations like an anxious project manager. you want it. it’s done. the ‘how’ isn’t your problem. the universe has already sorted the logistics.

start being delusional. your current reality is just a collection of past assumptions. want a new reality? adopt new assumptions. pretend you already have what you want. no, really. stop analysing. just be the version of you who has it. the world will catch up.

if you’re ‘waiting’ for your manifestation, you’re reinforcing that it isn’t here yet. and if you’re reinforcing lack, you’re just extending it. let go of ‘waiting.' live like it’s already yours. because it is.

the universe is not a vending machine you need to shake. detach. you don’t ‘make’ things happen. you request them, step back, and trust they’re coming. you ever seen a billionaire refresh their bank balance anxiously? no. they just know the money is there. treat your manifestations the same way.

you are already doing it. every single thing in your life right now, you manifested it. consciously or not. so you might as well start doing it on purpose.

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stop making shifting and manifesting your part-time job. you are the main character, yes, but not the tragic, struggling one. be the one who gets what they want simply because they decide to. the one who moves through realities with ease, who manifests without breaking a sweat. become the laziest, most effortless version of yourself. because that’s the one who wins without having to lift a finger.

good reminder!

so mf close.

i have never been so mf close.

for about a week i had been feeling as though what i was doing for my manifesting was not enough. i had been on tumblr constantly looking for help. for something to click and yet i didn’t find it. i was very demotivated until today. this morning i had woken up and opened my gifts like other have done, i wanted to take a nap and so i did i laid down and was just imagining scenarios to fall asleep. that was until one of the was of my dream life. i imagined that i got my family everything they wanted; and i wanted to make this simple scenario a reality.

i’d been struggling with the void for about a year (i first found out about it through instagram), but i can never get it right. sure i did manifest things without the void but i’d always wanted to feel the relaxation that the state brings. i had tried almost everything i saw, subliminals, guided meditations, reprogramming your subconscious, and yet i didn’t get in nor did i like doing the methods.

but when i laid down i assured myself that i was doing everything right and tried to get into he void my own way. i had the closest attempt ever. my heart was beating fast my body felt nonexistent, my eyelids felt like they would fly open; so i tried to relax to focus more on affirming but i think that may be where i have gone wrong. but before i got the chance to retry i was told to get ready for my christmas party. BUT IT IS OKAYYYYY because now i know what works for me 🥰🥰🥰🥰

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HELAENA + the boy

LAW OF ASSUMPTION: 5 DAY GLOW UP CHALLENGE

(law of assumption!)

hello everyone, and welcome to my life glow up challenge. before we begin, let me preface this by saying this challenge is a tool. you can manifest instantly and it's not hard. this is something lighthearted and fun to try. you don't have to affirm 24/7 and that's not what I will be intructing you to do during this challenge.

I thought of this idea from a video I watched on YouTube a while ago. The creator described what she thought were 5 important categories of health. I decided to focus on one category and persist for 5 days! So I compiled a list of daily affirmations, as well as bonus affirmations!

I'm going to be starting day 1 of this challenge as soon as this is posted, but you can begin whenever you see this post!

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INSTRUCTIONS:

key word: instructions!

there are no RULES in manifesting, thus no rules in this challenge. It's simply a guide if you're looking for structure and for fun. these are just some things you may like to do/keep in mind. (Credit to @divineangelbee for the instructions idea from her self concept post - not sure if she meant it this way but that's how I interpreted it lmao )

PERSIST! persisting is just knowing creation is finished and not taking no for an answer. it is possible to manifest instantly, so of course you can manifest all this in 5 days! persisting doesn't take effort - it's easy, if you make it.

CONSUME CONCIOUSLY - I would avoid consuming excess manifesting content (besides this post, to see the daily affirmations ofc lmao). It's probably going to confuse you and you know the basics. (If you're unsure/want to go back to the bascics, check out @id18297 's post called Law of Assumption!)

AFFIRM HOWEVER LONG/OFTEN YOU DEEM NESSECARY - I'm not going to give you set times to affirm. You can affirm throughout the day, in the morning/night, etc. Saying each one once is enough. You can also command your suboncious instead of repeating the affirmations!

YOU CAN "CHEAT" - You can skip a day of affirming, skip over a certaint subject, etc, it's for fun! I just want to emphasize this so you guys know I'm not preaching affirming 24/7 lmao.

YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR AFFIRMATIONS - It isn't required to use all the affirmations given or only the ones given. You could even use none of them and instead come up with your own for the given topic!

IMPORTANT:

After the first day, for example, you can still continue to use the day 1 affirmations and be persistent that you have what you previously affirmed for. You don't have to drop it as soon as the second day hits.

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DAY 1: PHYSICAL HEALTH

so for day one, we are going to focus on our physical beings as well as health. this means you can affirm for desired body/appearence (there will also be time to do this on day 2), health + wellness, etc.

Affirmations:

- I'm always motivated to work out

- Working out is enjoyable and easy

- I have amazing self disciplence

- I always feed my body healthy and filling foods

- I have lots of workout clothes, equipment, and workout buddies

(You can always visualize, command your subconcious, etc as well or by them selves!)

BONUS

personally, I wanted to revise being good at sports/that I've always been an athlete. so I'm going to visualize myself winning sports games + affirming for athelticism <3

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DAY 2: MENTAL HEALTH

day 2 is mental health, and I wanted to combine this with self concept. I think having a great self concept helps with how you view your reality and having a more positive perception of life. The affirmations will be focused on self love.

you can manifest your desired appearence on this day (remember, you can manifest anything you want on any day of this challenge because it's supposed to be fun!). I just hope you guys know that you don't have to change your appearance to love yourself/be happy. but if you desire an appearence change (like me), who am I to stop you.

Affirmations:

- I have so much self love

- I am my own competition

- I give myself the validation I need

- I am confident

- I am mentally at peace

- I have perfect mental health

BONUS

I'm going to include some self concept affirmations for you guys!

- I have the perfect self concept

- It's mine, it's done

- I know that I have everything I desire/everything I desire is coming to me

- My life is perfect

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DAY 3: SOCIAL HEALTH

I was way too eager and wanted to make this the day 3 focus!!

here are some affirmations from @r1lakkum4 's page!

BONUS

I thought the bonus could be affirming for popularity! I don't know the age of my followers so this may sound silly to some 😭

I am extremely popular

everyone loves me!

I'm so spoiled like a princess/prince/royalty

everyone wants to be my friend

I'm extremely social

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DAY 4: intellectual/academic health (?)

The reason why I included a question mark is because I wasn't sure what to call this. I'm going to interpret it as focusing on academics/making school life easier. The intellectual part will be in the bonus.

Affirmations:

- my school life is perfect

- I have so many friends in all of my classes

- I'm the top of my class and always get the best grades

- School is so easy for me and stress free

- I'm a master at every subject

- I'm extremely smart and intelligent

BONUS

If there is any skill you want to learn or hobby you want to take up, now's your chance! Maybe it's a sport, maybe it's singing, maybe it's artistic talent - whatever sparks your interest! I don't have any specific affirmations for this since it varies from person to person. Personally, I'm focusing on learning a language, and will be simply commanding my subconcious to be fluent in this language.

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DAY 5: SPIRITUAL HEALTH

the last day! spiritual health can be anything, it's however you define it. It can be something pretaining to your religion, working on your manifesting abilities, etc.

for the final day, I'm just going to be using one affirmation:

I am a master manifester!

that's the end of this lovely challenge! feel free to send me questions and RESULTS in my ask box! I may compile them in one big post when this challenge is over! love you all <333

The only thing that needs to “conform” is YOU. Your reality, desire, person or whatever desire you have is waiting on YOU to conform. The 3D is waiting on you to conform, remember the 3D is your reflection & it reflects instantly. So once you act as if or know you have it already and think like the person who has it already the 3D will instantly reflect. Don’t worry about the 3D only focus on your mind, the rest will follow. Don’t look for evidence, or validation. You are not waiting on an outer source or entity/ higher power to give it to you. You are the power/ source.

-xoxo, the cosmic angel 🪽⭐️

We don’t talk about her enough I fear

✎ STOP CALLING IT YOUR DREAM REALITY

why is it desired when it has already happened?

You need to realise that you are already in the reality you have chosen, you are in the reality that is desired. Stop viewing your new life as far-fetched and magical. Some of you think that with the crazy things in your script, it makes it harder to shift, than it would be to manifest something “small”. But let me tell you, you’re already there.

stop envying that girl’s body, you already have it, if not better

stop envying all the rich people’s vacations and hauls you see on socials, you live that life

stop envying the person with the pretty face, you have one too

stop getting jealous of a certain pop group, tv show cast or celebrity for getting to do the things that you want to do, you ARE doing all that you have ever wanted

stop envying the person your s/o has dating rumours with, they’re yours and always have been

because you’re a god.

stop getting jealous of the person with the perfect parents and rich family, your family was real the second you scripted them, you see them every day, no big deal

don’t you get it? the 3d isn’t real, what you’re seeing isn’t real if you don’t want it to be.

it’s not your dream reality, it’s your current reality, get comfortable and casual about it, it’s your everyday life, nothing special to you. stop scrambling for methods as if you aren’t in your reality already. stop treating your new life as a prize, it’s nothing special because you had it the second you thought about it. stop viewing your new life as some accomplishment to strive for, it’s your everyday experience, again nothing special.

as a god, every reality is your creation, why are you looking at your creations as the prize when the prize is you? why are you looking at your new life as something to work hard for, something to put effort in to have? why, why, why when it’s already yours?

you cant leave if you don’t acknowledge that this new life is already yours. You’ll always be in the state of desiring and never in the state of having if you don’t fix this mindset. It also puts more pressure on you when attempting to induce pure consciousness, you think everything is riding on inducing pure consciousness, you think your dream wont happen if you don’t do it. why do you think the weight of your new life relies on whether you’re able to induce pure conscious or whether you’re able to shift, when it’s already yours and you already live that life?

i’ll tell you why you think this way: it’s because you don’t see it as yours yet, you think it will only become yours when you have done all these things.

what you see: script + void/“I AM” state ➯ my dream life is finally mine

you see it as a process when it isn’t one, there is no process

what actually happens: i’ve created my dream life in my head ➯ i have it now, it’s not a dream anymore

it’s an immediate chain of events, not a process. so stop with the jealousy, being miserable and asking the same questions, it’s BEEN yours

as soon as you take that pressure away from the act of shifting, because you KNOW your new life belongs to you no matter what, it puts less stress on you, making inducing pure consciousness easier

that’s it that’s all, ITS ALREADY YOURS DONT SEE IT AS A PROCESS 🌌💋

be ur own proof. form ur own beliefs. no one will convince you that loa is real, more than urself. you'll be confident and believe in loa 100% when u actually apply it to ur everyday life and persist.