Tony Anti: Tony Should’ve Understood That Bucky Isn’t In Control

I think something that people forget about Tony Stark is that he was incredibly humble.

Now, before you click off in rage, let's define humility.

Maya Angelou defines humility as "Humility is knowing your place in the world. It’s understanding that you are not the first person who has ever done anything important." C.S. Lewis defines humility as "not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less."

We can get humility and self-deprecation skewed very easily. Tony has both, admittedly, as well as a cocky streak - but his interactions with people are incredibly humble. He is not threatened by people who are as smart as him, in fact he looks to hire them and get them on his team. He is not intimidated by stronger men, in fact - he hopes to fund them (the Avengers, hello!) and work with them. Tony Stark does not suffer from short-man syndrome, nor does he have a jealous streak in him. He is aware of his place in the world, he thinks of others' needs before his own (even if sometimes he misinterprets those needs) and he is not threatened by people who are at his level. I think sometimes the fandom forgets that.

that one scene where merlin was going through arthur's drawers and when arthur woke up he panicked and said "i'm looking for woodworms" and arthur just gave him an unimpressed look through his sleepy eyes and asked with the softest voice, "...before breakfast?" the way he sounded so unguarded and so vulnerable in that moment. the way he trusts him with his life. do you even understand?? this is the guy that jumps out of his bed at the slightest noise and pulls out his sword. he woke up to find merlin basically in his face and he was unfazed. he felt so safe and so comfortable around him it's actually making me sob

I have an aroace best friend, and she’s still not sure because her own mother tells her that that doesn’t exist, and that she’ll find someone. It pisses me off so much. AROACE people are valid. If someone told her otherwise, even in lgbtq+ spaces, she’d probably say she was wrong, because its taken her a while to come to terms with it. I can’t imagine Bella’s situation, and I’m sorry she went through that. Anyone who doesn’t believe Aros and Aces are valid and queer can get off my page.

I wanna tell you guys a story,

Not too long ago, my friend Bella came out as aromantic to me, and now I’ve got some things to say.

I was the one who told her what aromantic means, because I was explaining different sexual orientations to her. I remember saying, “Asexualiy is when you have romantic attraction, but no sexual attraction.”

Bella immedently, without missing a beat, asked, “Is there an opposite to that?”

I asked what she meant, and she asked if there was a term for sexual attraction but no romantic attraction. I told her about aromantics. She got weirdly quiet, then excused herself.

Not two weeks later I was heading to my boat. I was supposed to meet Bella and another one of our muteral friends there for a day of fishing.

As soon as I was in earshot, I saw Bella storming off the boat, and our other friend standing there like an idiot. Boi had no idea what was happening.

Anyway, Bella isn’t looking where she’s going and walks smack dab into me. That’s when I realized she was crying. Puffy red eyes, wet cheeks, the whole nine yards… And if you know anything about Bells, she does not cry. Ever.

She’s been through some serious crap in her life, and she does not cry. She’s tough as nails. Bella has a steel core. She does not not cry. I’ve seen her fall off a roof and break her arm before, not a single tear. I can’t stress this enough, Bella. Doesn’t. Cry.

So seeing her in tears shook me. I took her by the shoulders and escorted her somewhere more private where we could talk. We ended up in the women’s restroom, which was weird as fuck for me, because haven’t been in a woman’s rest room for years. Luckily it was empty, and I’m realistic, I know I don’t pass so well, so I don’t think anyone would have said anything anyway.

Before I can even ask her what’s wrong she hugs me around my middle and burys her face in my hoodie. Then, in a voice I can only describe as traumatized, she says, “I think I’m broken.”

I’ve never seen her in so much pain, and Bella and I are CLOSE. She’s one of my dearest friends. She’s like my little sister, but if she’s like my sister, our other muteral friend is like her twin. He and Bella have know each other WAY longer, they’re practically inseparable. They come as a pair. They’re a duo. They’re a package deal.

Appearently, said muteral friend asked Bella out and forcefully kissed her. She shoved him off, and told him she’s aromantic, which she only recently figured out. She wasn’t ready to be out, but this muteral friend left her no choice. She tried telling him no, and he didn’t listen. Bella saw no other option.

Quote on quote, this is what he said to Bella. “That’s okay. You just haven’t dated me yet. We’ve been like, unofficially together for years. You’re probably just freaked out that it’s finally going somewhere.”

After that I’m not 100% clear on what happened, but apparently Bella kept saying no Nd trying to explain herself, but he kept insisting he could ‘fix her.’

Eventudally she started crying and stormed away. That’s when I found her.

Keep in mind, this was her first experience coming out, and her best, closest friend insisted he could fix her and forcefully kissed her. I found out later he also implied corrective rape would ‘solve the problem.’

Bella was traumatized. She’s still traumatized. I tried to make her feel better by buying her an aro pride shirt, and taking her go a local LGBTQ+ hang out. I wanted her to be around like minded people, so she could see she wasn’t broken, and her identity deserved to be respected.

Instead of a warm, welcoming environment… The first thing someone said to her was, “This place is for REAL lgbt people. You don’t belong here.” He also implied she wasn’t human.

Just think about that for a minute. Her first experiences with being an out aromantic have been limited to;

A person she trusted more than anyone forcing himself upon her, claiming she was ill, and needed to be fixed. (Raped.)

Sobbing in my arms in the women’s restroom because she thought she was broken and defective.

Being told she wasn’t welcomed in LGBTQ+ spaces and called inhuman.

This isn’t what I want for her. Bella deserves better than this. She needs a support system, not all this crap. I’ve spent the past week trying to undo all the damage exclusionists, arophobes, and people she trusted did.

Aromantics and asexuals belong in the LGBTQ+ community. You literally cannot change my mind.

just a little reminder: had tony not pulled the strings he pulled, wanda would've spent life-long imprisonment rotting in jail in a high security cell instead of spending a comfy holiday inside a huge luxury mansion with her months-old android crush. and then her unthankful ass had to send all that to shit. man, tony was way too nice to this neo-nazi genocidal scumbag, even after she violated his mind out of pure vengeful hatred. yes im still salty:))

Damian picks up Shakespearean English from Jason and Gen Z slang from Jon and the world has not known peace since

I mean he is plenty traumatized, but it doesn’t much affect him in the way that it isn’t a trauma of autistic kind, because he as genius was encouraged to be the genius, and being a genius was literally indulging in all the autistic and ADHD things which autistic kids are attacked for. He definitely had to learn how to act from the young age, but it was due to being famous and too expressive, not because it was wrong to be autistic. Tony doesn’t have typical signs which autistic people who have trauma stemming from their autism and their family and society trying to beat autism out of them. Tony doesn’t have that. He has all the signs of a traumatized human being, but not traumatized autistic. And that’s why people miss it so much. This is how non abused for being autistic person behaves. This is how autistic people would be if they were not constantly broken by the society in order to fit in. We are diagnosed based on our trauma traits.

Holly was in a podcast about autism in MCU and what it meant to us!

Autism is actually the most commonly mistook for narcissism.

(I also do not get it. Elon is nothing like Tony. I know RDJ said he based his performance on Elon Musk, but if he did, he really did fail miserably to be the same. He comes off so much more empathetic).

Maybe if autistic people tell you that a character is autistic, you should actually fucking believe them instead of I dunno accuse them of trying to excuse bad behavior with a diagnosis. Since when, being autistic excuses any bad behavior? Also, I do not want to give any credit to Joss fucking Whedon, whom I hate with passion, but he did say that Tony is autistic. Maybe that’s why he hates him so much. Because I cannot explain his treatment of that character if there was not either deep misunderstanding of who Tony is or hate.

I actually remember reading this on the anti Wanda maximoff tag some time ago,but it really made an impact.the post was talking about how Wanda stans/tony antis shit on tony for trying to kill Bucky(which he wasn't bc he would have destroyed him,we've all seen iron man 2 and 3.if he wanted you dead you'd be dead)but like rabidly support Wanda and her revenge.

When I said I wanted more female representation in the MCU, this was not what I meant.

Honestly, Wanda stans give me a worse headache than cap stans. At least with Cap stans, Ik they’re just falling for that stupid USA propaganda. Other than being fooled by her white woman tears™️, idk wtf is wrong with her stans.

Wanda fully aware chose to join Hydra, a neo-nazi organization, as an adult, just because they were offering her “revenge” on Tony Stark, which makes her a fucking neo-nazi. She consciously decided to use her powers to mind-rape the Avengers. She actively decided to send the Hulk on a rampage to kill innocent civilians. She actively supported Ultron up until she realized she was one of the fucking humans he was going to wipe out, which makes her joining the Avengers a conflict of interest at best and pure self preservation/manipulation at worst. And all of that is just Avengers: Age of Ultron.

Later, she murders POC innocent civilians because she has no control over her powers, then gets upset and throws a fit when Tony says, “hey, maybe you shouldn’t be on life-or-death missions when you can’t control your powers”. Imagine if someone who didn’t know how to use a gun waltzed into the middle of a highly stressful mission in the middle of civilian ground with a machine gun, murdered innocent people, then got upset that they had to face consequences.

Then she throws a fit when someone suggests her microwave boyfriend’s life is less important than millions of innocent civilians, and with Cap’s support, thousands of Wakandans (black Africans) are killed, for nothing might I add considering she did a shit job and Thanos still got a hold of Vision’s stone, and half of the universe is snapped.

And woe is she, so she loses control of her powers, again, and enslaves a whole fucking city. But she didn’t know! So when she finds out that she’s hurting all of them, she throws another fit and forces them to continue playing along with her little fantasy.

And not once has she ever learned from any of her mistakes. Not once has she been humbled. Not once has she been forced to face the consequences of her actions. In fact, for her mistakes, others are punished.

But it’s alright. All of this is alright. She’s grieving and traumatized after all. Right? Because Tony Stark killed her parents with his bomb when she was a child.

Cry me a river. Why doesn’t she try to get revenge on the terrorists that deployed the bombs? Why does she actively choose to be an entitled cunt and put thousands of POC lives at risk? Why does she join a fucking neo-nazi organization?

Imagine going “oh I’m sad, I’ll join the KKK to feel better”.

But Tony is rich and she’s a white woman and she cries on screen.

And that, right there, is their logic I guess.

One of my favorite Tony Stark Criticisms is "He's a bad person! He made weapons for the military!"

What do you want him to do? Shut down his entire operation? Well I have some GREAT NEWS --

Does anyone else just hate when a reader complains that their favorite author hasn't updated yet? Or when we wrote something that just isn't up to your standards??

Or when we write out warnings and people just ignore them and read it anyways and then they squawk about how they hated a certain aspect in your story, WHICH WE HAVE ALREADY POSTED A WARNING ABOUT!! I hate how they blame the author for writing something that triggers them when they should know their own limits. SPOILER ALERT!!! DON'T READ SOMETHING YOU'RE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH!! YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT YOU READ AND CONSUME, NOT US!!

And let's not forget when we release less content for one character to write more for another. Like bitch I am taking time out of my own life to give you some entertainment and you're whining?!?! If you want to read something then write it yourself.

And show authors the respect they should be getting! Everyday there is NEW AND FREE content waiting for you to read and you have the audacity to bitch and moan.

And yeah, sometimes we'll mess up on some grammar or spelling but WE'RE HUMAN too. Authors shouldn't have to apologize when they publish something later than the date or time that they promised. Or when they've promised to write and just can't sometimes. It's hard okay?! Finding motivation to write is one of the most difficult things ever! And writers shouldn't have to say sorry when readers put in ALL CAPS for in their post's comments when they accidentally put in the wrong tags. Authors shouldn't have to feel pressured when writing something; writing is supposed to be a calming and relaxing thing. It should be fun. People shouldn't have to expect them to write 24/7 or to publish something everyday. We have a life too y'know!!

This is for anyone who's ever complained about an author... Get a fucking life already and get the fuck off my page if you're gonna be a motherfucking asshole!!

AND TO ALL THE AUTHORS OUT THERE, YOU GUYS ARE SO AMAZING! I AM SO PROUD OF EVERYBODY FOR EVERYTHING YOU'VE WRITTEN. I KNOW THAT YOU DON'T GET THIS AS OFTEN AS YOU SHOULD BUT YOU GUYS ARE INCREDIBLE! THANK YOU FOR TAKING TIME OUT OF YOUR EXTREMELY BUSY SCHEDULES TO WRITE STORIES FOR SOME UNGRATEFUL DICKHEADS!! I SUPPORT YOU GUYS 100%! YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️❤️❤️

was it absolutely necessary to absolutely obliterate my heart?

Before Tony died, he never really discussed how to pass down his position in SI. Of course, he and Pepper had discussed at length that Morgan probably wouldn’t be interested. Morgan had never shown any interest in Tony or Peppers job, beyond rummaging through boxes of completed projects. Tony had been adamant that Morgan never be pressured into the company.

It must have never come up. Tony never had a protégé, had never discussed anything about the company’s future if he died to Peppers memory.

But that won’t stand with the board. Pepper is getting older, she wants more time with her daughter, and she can’t be CEO forever. But the board insists that SI is a family business, and a family member must be next in line, for publicity sake. Gotta love some nepotism, apparently.

While rifling through Tony’s old journals, Pepper finds something that gives her an idea: the name of a kid Tony used to send letters back and forth with. Apparently Tony worked with the kid wayyyy back, and they kept in touch. Harley even showed up to the funeral.

So Pepper invites Harley over, and they come up with a plan…

(A year later, Peter watches on a coffee shop TV as Pepper announces at a press conference that Tony secretly had a protégé: Harley Keener. Pepper discusses how the secret was only for those closest to Tony, but as Harley’s role expands, the public can now know.

Peter spends the walk back to his apartment trying to remember if he ever heard the name before, feeling sick to his stomach. Maybe he hadn’t been as close to Tony as he thought… maybe the spell wasn’t to blame for everything…)