I Just Saw One Of The Many Ways That Rape Culture Is Subtley Normalized In Media.

I just saw one of the many ways that rape culture is subtley normalized in media.

I won't say what show I was watching because I don't want any spoilers, but the main character is a shifty guy who's meant to have a good heart regardless, and we're meant to sympathize strongly with him. He tricked a drunk woman into having sex with him by telling her a direct lie about who he was. She woke up horrified at being lied to and he went through his morning routine undisturbed by her outrage or her abrupt departure. The writers try to make it an amusing and light-hearted situation, like, "Boys will be boys! What a scoundrel, how funny, right?"

It isn't funny. It's sexual assault.

Imagine being the sort of "person" who lies to someone in order to get them to sleep with you with the understanding that they wouldn't come near you if you were honest about yourself; knowing that you were subverting their right to be selective about sexual partners and treating them like an object for your use rather than a human being who has the right to decide who has access to their bodies. Yet this is what this man did, and the show just moved on like it was no big deal instead of addressing what it actually was: a sign of a soulless, exploitative sexual predator, and someone no one should be sympathizing with.

There are SO many examples of this. Did anyone ever see those dumbass movies from the early 2000's, Superbad and 40-Year Old Virgin? The former is entirely about two teenage moids trying to get their classmates drunk so they'll be incapacitated enough to have sex with them, fully acknowledging that the girls would regard it as a mistake...

"๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—น๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜† '๐—”๐—ต ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป, ๐—œ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜-๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜, ๐—œ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ป'๐˜ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ด๐˜‚๐˜†? ' ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ!"

The latter is about a man getting advice as to how to manipulate women into sex, which in one scene involves targeting women who are so inebriated that they're stumbling out of the bar. The men in the movie compare "drunk bitches" to gazelles and themselves to tigers, openly admitting that they're predators.

"๐—”๐—น๐—น ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐˜๐˜๐—ฎ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐˜๐˜€. ๐—›๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ธ ๐—ฎ ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐˜‡๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ? ๐—œ๐˜'๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป, ๐—ถ๐˜'๐˜€ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐——๐—ก๐—”, ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ "๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐˜‡๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ." ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜, ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ'๐˜€ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ "๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ธ ๐—ฏ*๐˜๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜€."

This all plants the idea that there is nothing serious about men preying on women; that it's even funny in it's own way. A lot of times, these men even have their happily ever after (or something closely resembling it) with the woman they preyed upon. I'm not even ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜บ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ to think of examples and tons of them are crashing down on me. Another is the Breakast Club, where John Bender insulted Claire the entire time, made her cry, attempted to fucking ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ under the table...

I Just Saw One Of The Many Ways That Rape Culture Is Subtley Normalized In Media.

And yet at the end she kisses him multiple times and gives him her diamond earring.

I Just Saw One Of The Many Ways That Rape Culture Is Subtley Normalized In Media.

Why? WHY? It makes me want to scream, cry, and vomit! I feel such despair at all of this because it's EVERYWHERE. The message of "Yeah just let men do what they want to you okay, it's normal, dont be such an uptight bitch, it's just what guys do and it's not a big deal" is all over the place and it's no wonder women have such a low standard for decent behavior from males. It's intentional. You have a million shitbag males in movies and shows who you're told to like and to root for while they abuse women who adore them at the end, after all they've done to them. Why would you not believe this is all normal when you're seeing it wherever you turn?

Sometimes it feels like such a huge problem, so all-pervasive, that I just want to throw in the towel. But ALL through my most impressionable years, no one pointed out any of this to me. No one said, "Look at what they're trying to make you believe is normal. Isn't that disgusting and pathetic?" ๐˜•๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ talks about it, and I wish someone had! So if even ONE woman becomes more vigilant about the messages she's being fed through these storylines, and the way these situations are portrayed as normal, funny or charming, and these characters as "good guys" when actually they are ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด and NONE of this is normal or okay...

Then it was worth writing a post about.

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THIS

I'm a she/her woman BECAUSE I IDENTIFY AS SUCH not over genitalia or anything

And no it wasn't much indoctrination either in my case because none of my parents cared what I preferred to play with as a kid as long as I had fun

And I get the thing to be still referred as she/her as a kid still but if I had a problem with that I'd voice it as a kid too. I never did and it wasn't because they wanted to call me a she/her and I was like "makes sense/I fear their judgment" (they tried to tell me to play with feminine things but I also refused and they didn't mind either nor get mad etc.)but because I felt 100% comfortable with the label. I was a rather vocal kid and teen who never let my parents decide for me no matter what

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Gender is NOT the genitalia

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