ppl will be like i don’t want to read ooc fics and not realise fans have so many personal interpretations of canon that ooc means a different thing to different ppl. like my favourite fics i’ve ever read all have slightly different characterisations and yet i devour them all with hunger. what makes a fic great, to me, maybe has more to do with consistency of voice than with a consensus on what ‘in character’ means, more to do with the quality of writing and the strength of the premise and whether my heart gets shattered and healed or not
I haven't slept nor took my psychosis meds so I apologize for harmful opinions and beliefs toward trans people and specifically trans women
I shouldn't have said bigoted and harmful things
I'm sorry @lore-gore .It's fine if you will not forgive me still! Feel free not to.
Thank toy still for patiently explaining the implications and being polite
people, especially in American society are way too comfortable telling marginalized people who also happen to be disabled that they are essentially useless because they cannot hold a "real job" especially if they get their funds from online communities.
if anything I think it's a blessing that me and my queer and disabled friends get crowdfunding online through the community because not only is it hard to get a job with a marginalized status especially in trump America but like, being disabled does the disabling.
THE LAST BIT THANK YOU. Twitter would hate you for it and I LOVE THAT LOL
(stuff I've just made up for myself, you can borrow)
1. First and foremost, get rid of the love hierarchy.
It's not Friendship < Romance, it's not a competition. People do experience very different kinds of attraction, yet it's more if an endless color spectrum, not a pyramid to climb??? Which leads us to
2. Pick a color and play with saturation.
Don't do the "I love you more than a friend". What you actually mean is "I love you differently and I want to change terms, because I'm afraid my color of love is more saturated than I thought." Let it be painfully purple or sparkly yellow or grey, characters can experience different love towards different characters. What matters is the INTENSITY. And yes, common friendship CAN be intense as fuck.
3. Never undress your character for sex.
"The desire is stronger when it cannot be fully satisfied", so unless you're writing smut specifically, maybe try writing allegorical sex? There's a lot of things to choose from: beating the shit out of eachother, cutting hair, cooking, clinical procedures, stabbing, solving a murder, you name it! Put the accent on the characters' emotions and reactions rather than their obvious body parts.
Also bonus points if they don't realise that this intense intimate thing they just did is considered sensual.
4. Write closure that doesn't actually mean much.
I mean closure always means something. That the person likes another one. But people CAN and DO adore, lightly touch and hug eachother without it meaning that they want another person romantically or sexually. Sometimes people just see aesthetic beauty in someone. Sometimes they just want to be held. Make those guys have a hot and steamy sumo fight in the sauna that will strengthen their platonic bond!!!
5. Don't address what kind of love they're having.
For a change you may try making these characters love eachother in a way that doesn't require the "are we friends or are we lovers" discussion. Sometimes it's irrelevant. Sometimes it's just people who want to be together forever and dwelling on fitting in the box won't bring anything useful.
6. Some people don't love.
Sometimes a person can enjoy being around someone without loving them. Explore that possibility. Why? What is it that makes B important in the eyes of A who is unable to love or relate? What If both of them are unloving?
7. The absence of love is indifference.
If someone still cares about someone, it cannot the opposite of love. Try switching the love formula with hate or envy or fear or hunger. You'll see that in some way it still kind of works??? As long as they're feeling REALLY intensely about this.
8. Forget the misunderstanding/betrayal cliches!!!
There's nothing more satisfying than promising to run away together AND PROCEED. Or when someone overhears and misunderstands another but still STOPS and LISTENS. Emotional maturity is soooo sexy!!
9. Don't put romantic partners over friends.
Make them be friends and be close all together. A partner is ALSO a friend. Make them not jealous, make all 3+ of them be open and comfortable with eachother, don't be afraid of sharing the time and attention because everyone in the group love and respect each other! Even if your relationships maybe on slightly different terms! Your mutual friend can make a very big and meaningful gift for your partner and it's beautiful! That's something to cherish!
Also DON'T LIE IF SOMETHING COMES UP, just TALK it out like adults, please!!!
10. Don't be scared of het.
There's nothing wrong with a woman and a man loving each other. What you actually probably have problem with is misogyny and sticking to the same patriarchal norms over and over again. These are NOT built in het inherently!!! What you should actually focus on is their personalities and love/respect for eachother that would be in character, not in the rule book.
Also don't try to turn the tables in attempt to fix the stereotypes. By making a butch x wet cat malewife pair (when in canon neither of them are it??) (JUST because you have problem with fem women loving masculine men) you're not really fixing it, that's still a patriarchal power fantasy. Look deeper.
Yeeeaaa that's about it for now.
dunno wanted to try a more..canon style(?)
THANK YOU.
I was not a gifted kid
I wasn't good at anything and nothing and none who helped me could make me get better or good geades Anyway.
I wasn't "not interested enough then". I am and was disabled with NO GIFTS
Kinda fucked up that we all coo and sympathize with "former gifted kids" but never talk about the students who had to stay late after school or over the summer for remedial classes/clubs, who struggled to get above a C, who were given up on or punished. Who tried so hard to understand or just couldn't. Who were grouped with the "stupid kids" (a classmate called us that in remedial math btw)
Autistic kids and adhders who can't relate to their gifted peers and are constantly alienated by them. Kids who struggled in school due to dealing with a chronic or mental illness or physical/learning/developmental disability. Those of us who have had to drop out of highschool or college. Kids who worked so hard and wanted to be seen as smart, but never were. Who watched as their peers seem to fly by them in school, while they were left behind. Who were bullied and put down by those in the gifted and honors classes. Whose confidence was absolutely destroyed by education.
I love you all and I'm so sorry the school system failed you. I'm sorry you weren't properly accommodated and given the education you deserved. I'm sorry people put you down for something that they never had to fight for.
poke him with sticks
𝑯𝒂𝒛𝒃𝒊𝒏 𝑯𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒍 𝑶𝑵𝑳𝒀 𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒔𝒕! 💘 she/her * 24 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 ▪︎ 𝘃𝗶𝗲𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘅 / 𝗔𝗹𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗿𝘁 (occasionally other HH characters)
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