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High school is one of the greatest milestone of our teen life. We experience what life is fully made of; to make decisions that resulted in serious consequences, to take risks, to explore our boundaries, to find our weaknesses and strengths, to fall in love, to lie and keep secrets, and to find ourselves in the midst of it all. But most of all, in high school, we make life long friends... or do we?
Its been four years since I finished high school, I can honestly say that I have definitely made a few life long friends, some I even met from primary school. The purpose of this post is look into a bigger picture of letting go and moving on, and I'll be using my high school group or 'possie' as a metaphor.
Having a big group of friends is awesome, you look fearful and the sense of belonging is something not many get. To keep the group alive, there would be on the regular occasion a group get together. The first year or two was really good and fun, the momentum of catching up and seeing everyone again was ecstatic. But four year later and the spirit is kind of gone, and I think that it's totally fine. We are now young adults, we have a different pathway and they may not meet. We enjoy activities others may disagree with. We have individual beliefs values that we live by and others find difficult to understand. We are not in high school anymore, we are grown up and have our own life journey. When we have these catch ups, the group seems divided and the vibe is just uncomfortably awkward, this is due to past beefs, fragile friendships, personality clashes and ultimately a different way of life.
Personally, I think moving on and leaving behind a stage of our life is fine. Acknowledging and being thankful for the inevitable is all that can be done now. It's not forgetting because that is impossible, its about accepting that sometimes things wont always be the same. Time changes people and we just have to deal with it, just like the transition after high school.