hey all, originally this post used the term “deformed” and some people who were born with illnesses that have caused them to look different have asked me and other people to not use that word unless they have an illness that causes such. completely valid so i changed it.
i was not born with an illness that did that, however i have many medical issues that have lead to my body looking different to those around me. i do not know whether that makes me “valid” in using that term and i dont feel comfortable sharing my medical history to try and “prove” as such. so i will no longer be using that term online.
i also want to point out the OR in the first sentence of this post. i am bringing up two different occurrences here, and expanding on the disabled one.
love and kindness i am not offended by any of this 🩷
being unattractive or physically different/disabled DOES NOT equal being morally bad/evil. there is an atrocious amount of ableism that occurs when someone doesn’t look “normal.” and i am so fucking sick of it.
in media it is (almost) always the villains who are different/disabled. and media is a massive part of how people form their world views.
i want to mention arcane for example, because people seem to be confused about what good representation is. people praise the hell out of that show, and for good reason it has great things about it, but people told me it had good disabled representation. so i watched it. and while parts of the disabled representation is good.. almost all physically different/disabled characters are portrayed as bad/evil/villains at some point in their story (or all of it.) and then by the end of the show most of them are dead.
abled people i need you to understand that is not good representation. please look out for these tropes it happens ALL the time.
good representation includes different/disabled characters who are heroes and morally “good” too.
if you make all your villains physically different and none of them are heroes i hate you. i am so sick of this.
i had the same experience when i had to use the elevators.
alright lets get this out of the way.
school bathrooms should be unlocked during school ALWAYS
school children should be allowed to go to the bathroom ALWAYS
school children should NEVER have to ask to go to the bathroom, just tell the teacher that they need to go
schools should NEVER question a child on why they need the bathroom
schools should NEVER make jokes about how often a child uses the bathroom
schools should NEVER get angry at children for using the bathroom
NEVER should a teacher approach a child about their bathroom usage.
if there is a concern or problem with a childs use of the bathrooms, the school should speak to their parent or have a meeting involving the parents and the principle.
if there is misuse of the bathrooms, the school should speak to their parent or have a meeting involving the parents and the principle.
you never know what children could be dealing with, whether they have bladder issues, gi issues, mental health issues or other disabilities. some children may be using the bathroom to hide from bullies, or they may have addiction issues.
it doesnt matter. its shouldnt be the teachers job to police toilet usage. only when there is an issue should limits or supervision be put in place, AFTER meeting with their parents and potentially the student to figure out the reasons for such issues.
i know this is really controversial but im really sick of horror stories from kids like me who dealt with the shit that is school bathrooms
why arent more able bodied people fighting for disability advocacy?
see disabled people as humans, as peers, as equals.
we deserve access to everything you do. we deserve the chance to have a happy and comfortable life just as you do.
dont push us out of sight and out of mind.
we do not deserve that. we are equals.
discovering the trend of “dopamine” dressing/decorating was so hilarious to me…
whats the point of doing life any other way??? are people really wearing clothes that dont make them happy?? and decorating their house in a way that doesnt brighten their day?? 😭😭
i was so confused like have i completely misunderstood society. no wonder people call me eccentric and weird.
i just assumed the things that make me happy were different to what makes others happy, not that they just.. were completely not having that as their goal in the first place.
pls surround yourself with things that make life sparkle guys i beg of u its the best way to live
why is accessibility so inaccessible… someone explain how this is supposed to make sense
intersex person: yeah my parents agreed to put me under surgery as a baby because my doctor thought my genitals made me ugly. they feel numb half the time. sometimes i can’t tell if it’s blood, discharge or piss down there. i feel violated in every sense of the word. i can’t look below the waist without wanting to throw up
person you thought was safe: lmao imagine being so privileged you complain about getting surgery that some would die to have lollll #cis privilege
and what i really want is more deformed characters who are GOOD instead of this awful pattern of the deformed characters being evil.
anyways i am currently working on multiple such characters.
Really wish I saw more art of deformed characters. More diversity in bodies. I feel like people are scared to draw us because they’re worried they’ll do it wrong or something. But 1. wrong and trying is better than nothing, and 2. you can always ask somebody for input. There are always people who are willing to answer your questions, you just have to find them. My asks are always open and I know a to of other people who are like that, too.
guys what wards do young people go to, im always the only young adult in my wards, im clearly missing out on the cool areas 😔😔
this is officially my longest migraine. day 28.
i am beyond sick of this. mentally struggling with how reliant on my carer i have to be during migraines.
i can handle it when its only a few days but this long is a whole other world. i dont experience this level of dependance that often so im not really used to it still.
on day 5 of a migraine get me out of here