Impact play is a common kink that’s practiced in D/s dynamics and S&M. It can be a form of punishment, teasing, and funishment. Spanking is the most well-known form of impact play either with hands and brushes. However, other objects can be used depending on the amount of pain or bruising that wants to be inflicted.
Short range vs Long Range:
Short range objects include hand, brush, ruler, belt, paddle, or anything that requires you to stand fairly close to the spankee.
Long range objects include canes, crops, whips, cat o nine tails, and floggers.
Safety:
Practice before engaging in impact play if you’re using long range or hard equipment.
Always have your partner’s consent and a safe word. If you don’t have a safe word, use these colors: red = stop yellow = slow down or pause green = resume the scene
If the spankee is gagged or cannot speak, use a hand signal as safe words.
If you’re using a whip, practice with it before using it on someone. Aiming isn’t as easy as it looks and you could accidentally injure your sub/bottom. Also keep in mind that whips can break skin!
Never hit the following areas: Mid back - Your kidneys are located here Tailbone Spine Hips Stomach Joints
These areas can be hit but with caution: Face (only with your hand) Crotch/genitalia Inner thighs Breasts/chest
If you spank someone with a cane or whip and the spankee bleeds, clean your equipment before using it on someone else.
A good thing to remember is that fatty areas work well with harder spankings and objects, while boney areas should not be hit with hard objects (like brushes and paddles) and should be hit moderately and lightly.
Don’t be afraid to attend dungeons and observe how others use their toys and ask questions.
Aftercare:
Aftercare is extremely important. Not only could you have bruises and welts to soothe but you have to treat subdrop also. If you’re not familiar with subdrop or subspace, refer to this post or read on Google.
Having an aftercare kit is a good start. It should include an icepack, wet cloths, bandaids, a blanket, water and Gatorade, pain relievers, and energy food.
Do not leave your sub or bottom alone after a scene. Hold them, hug them, kiss them, cuddle them or anything that lets you know that you love them and soothes them.
If you’re shaking, feeling lightheaded, panicking, or hyperventilating you should lie down and relax. I recommend taking deep breaths where you breathe in from your nose, hold it in, and then exhale until the next breath comes naturally. This is something that I was taught to do for panic attacks. This should help the tremors (shaking) stop, help you calm down, and bring your heart beat and breathing back to normal.
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