This Is Very True 100% And I Wish More People Would Openly Say They're Bisexual Instead Of Something

i will NEVER hate being bisexual….i suffer from bisexual superiority complex

biphobic wlw who insist bi women cant use butch or femme, while giving the reason that bi women dress or present themselves to get the attention of men as their justification, are repeating biphobic stereotypes - bi women are all hyper feminine, are less committed to women, etc - that have a very ironic history considering current discourse, its very strange.

like, in the 90s and further back, it was assumed that femmes were bisexual and butches were lesbians (keep in mind, i am using modern terms here, ‘bisexual’ was not in common use as a sexual identity in the 50s as bisexuality was deemed an impossibility by the medical establishment at the time. bisexuals were seen as switching between the straight world and the gay world). nowadays, thanks to some biphobes who cant read their own history, a lot of ppl think bi women arent allowed to id as femme or butch at all. but, although the word ‘bisexual’ has been erased, bi women’s participation in butch femme bar culture is obvious in the similarities between femme stereoypes and bi women’s stereotypes.

femmes were seen as ‘less committed to the life’, they were distrusted bc they could pass as heterosexual, femmes were assumed to take the passive role, they often struggled to be considered ‘true’ lesbians, and were thought to not truly be interested in other women. bi women on the other hand, will inevitably end up with men, they have straight passing priviledge, are stereotyped as submissive, have their attraction to women dismissed as a phase, and are just straight girls who hook up with other women to get the attention of men.

spot the difference lol. the reason both sets of stereotypes are so similar is bc femmes (while not always bisexual just like butches arent always lesbians), were assumed to be bisexual to the point where a great number of negative attitudes towards femmes at the time are probably due to biphobia, and modern attitudes towards femmes still reflect this history even if bi women themselves are currently being pushed out of iding as butch or femme. considering this, its ironic to see these same biphobic attitudes being repeated as the apparent reason why bi women cant use the terms at all now.

it makes me wonder how much of the misguided effort to push bi women out of these identities was done to have femme become a legitimate lesbian identity with the same complexities as butch. if femme lacks complexity its due to biphobic stereotypes associated with the identity. therefore the solution becomes to state; “bi women are gender conforming and therefore cant be butch or femme, because obviously they cant understand the complexities of either identity and any bi woman who ids as femme must mistakenly view butches as men lite with no real understanding of how femme is a subversion of femininity that deliberately rejects men.” the same biphobic sentiments that discredited femmes before are now used to bolster the identity for some by saying there is a wrong way and right way to be femme (and butch by proximity), then, pushing the ones doing femme wrong out of the community.

but if thats the solution it doesnt solve the underlying problems of biphobia (and misogyny lets be honest here), which has a negative effect on all wlw not just bi women. not to mention basing an identity on a rejection of men alone isnt a stable identity itself bc it means you always have to outwardly perform that action of rejecting men over loving women to be seen as correct in that identity, all wlw will be under scrutiny for their identities until the actual problem of biphobia gets solved.

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gotta highlight the ones that infuriate me the most from what i’ve seen:

remaining ignorant about bi discourse

only speaking on biphobia when bi people use terms or speak in ways you don’t like

if you are unaware of bi discourse you are biphobic

if you are unaware of the major ways the media and certain prominent gay creators and activists are biphobic you are biphobic

biphobia isn’t just really overt stereotypes and hatred like “bis need to pick a side” ‘bisexuality isn’t real" “bi women are disgusting because they’ve slept with men” “i’d never date a bi person”

it’s also remaining silent about bi issues

remaining ignorant about bi discourse

remaining silent when biphobia happens

speaking in ways that indirectly erase bi people

speaking in ways that imply bi people are more privileged or powerful than gay people

remaining silent when bi erasure and biphobia happens in the media

only speaking on biphobia when bi people use terms or speak in ways you don’t like

speaking with authority on biphobia when you are not bi

denying the importance of bi spaces and bi community

remaining silent on the higher levels of substance abuse, unemployment, mental disability, abuse and sexual assault of bi people, esp bi women

ignoring the unique aspects of the bi experience

etc

if you have never blogged/reblogged about biphobia except to call out bi people you are biphobic

if you have never spoken about biphobia other than to critique bi people’s discourse you are biphobic

if you are unaware of bi discourse you are biphobic

if you think bi people’s experiences are not unique or important you are biphobic

if you are unaware of the major ways the media and certain prominent gay creators and activists are biphobic you are biphobic

if you ignore the ways in which gay people have shut bi people out of their communities and erased bi people and undermined bi solidarity you are biphobic

and even if you are multisexual and you do these things;  it can be internalized: you still are biphobic 

it’s not always about what you do, it’s also about what you don’t do

bi people have suffered and died due to biphobia in the gay community and you don’t care

that makes you biphobic

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I chose pink for- not femininity as all women are beautiful whether they’re masculine or feminine- but for femaleness. Purple for sapphicness and womanhood. And green since it’s an international women’s day colour. I am so proud of this flag :)

i’m a bisexual sapphic and i disagree. i think you should have principles. now what?

If a bisexual woman disagrees with me I will immediately change my views. I have no principles

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“uwu I’m not bi I’m just a person who likes all genders :3 I don’t like labels :3” well I DO! Label me as bisexual! Call me bisexual! I am a bisexual woman! I like all genders because I’m bisexual! I sit bisexually! I dress bisexually! I talk bisexually! Bisexual bisexual bisexual it’s NOT A DIRTY WORD! And mind you, it’s not even a label, it’s a sexual/romantic orientation and identity. What if I was like “please don’t call this an arm :3 it’s not an arm, I don’t like labeling my body! It’s just an appendage from my shoulder uwu!” like I cannot control or change being bisexual it wasn’t a choice I was just born like this 💖💜💙

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