#thoughtsandthings
Dysphoria. Is. A. F#cking. Spectrum.
did I want to be a boy?
ever?
Truly? no.
not ever.
no.
but regardless, there was a time, many years ago, I would have said yes.
and unlike for many, for all the wrong reasoning.
I hated how my chest felt. how it felt with clothes. how they moved without clothes. how they touched my skin beneath with or without clothes. The minute sounds they could make depending on motion, temperature, texture. how they felt if it was hot.
Then there bras. God I hated bras. They were designed to be hated. so uncomfortable. especially back then. itchy, wire frames possibly the worst aspect of most. straps too tight on the shoulder muscle, or else useless. itchy also. always seem to need adjusting, but also refused to get fitted because hell no to touch.
my clit... ok so her I wanted bigger. happened anyway and probably would have continued to some degree anyway. Problem here is how such a thing is so often, and without thought, associated to manhood. because so little is known of the word clit even hearing or reading it (not sorry) causes a fuss and internal screams. even know we don't know enough to be able to speak of full capabilities (we are talking about our own bodies hereš©).
facial hair? i would have said yes to this too but with this, honestly?
I just wanted her to be able to look at me the way she looked at him...
that first girl I fell for that had already fallen for him, the stupid boy version of me she'd call him, whilst crying on me every time he made her sad, whilst I seemed to live just to make her happy
and her my first real girlfriend who slept with my first real boyfriend.... in front of me after already kissing another him on a trip away because she missed me and some boy sorta looked like me, she said.
and as I got older still, all those guys that got in my already well prepped for paranoia head, that they could get my girl in their bed if they wanted
maybe I fantasies about wearing what they did so I could be the only thing she sees
you know
There's so much talk about ending the binary. When are we ready to talk about the spectrum of dysphoria?
When its not just transgirl or transboy and the end of the dysphoria journey.
When is that gonna be as acknowledged and given room, and space.
Jesus its like everything is for binaries now.
Anyway, honestly this one was written now but for younger me. I hope it heals you kid. Little autistic kid with no words to say but so much to write. I do. I really do. You are you. And a binary it can't hold you, be it cis, be it trans, there is no one or the other, this or that one side vs other side. There's you.
Don't use this post to be a transphobic & if you do you'll be laughed at nor reacted to, for illiteracy tbh
part 1 of 2
"I'm not really feeling like myself today".
It's still sinking in that The Owl House was about a girl running away to a fantasy world, all because of the ripple effects of losing her father at an unfairly young age ā only to eventually learn that the fantasy world itself was made of the bones, and the flesh, of a loving father who'd protected his child with one of his final actions, before dying and giving life to that fantasy world. And eventually, in his truly final action, even giving life to Luz herself. Luz ran away to the Boiling Isles, all because of a single book that her dad gave her ā and unknowingly, she spent every day walking over ground that embodied parental loss. A world that was born from a parent's death, a parent who had to leave their child far too soon ā and not just any child, but Luz's own new best friend, in all of this new magical world. And King and Luz were only ever brought together because of their fathers' deaths ā before they even realized they had anything in common to grieve. Before they realized a reminder of that grief had been beneath their feet this whole time.
But, at the end of the day... their fathers both gave them parting gifts. Their fathers both gave them the key to come of age in a world full of people who'd care about them ā maybe not the only world where they could've been happy, but a world they wouldn't want to imagine missing. Their fathers gave them the chance to meet each other. To understand each other. And, ultimately, to heal and grow up together. Until the ground beneath their feet stops feeling so heavy, like grief ā and starts feeling lighter again, like a gift, and a happy memory.
drawing every day until I stop day 7
Oop someone got caught staring
The first time I came out to a coworker, it was early May, 2024.Ā I had just started HRT the week before, and I wanted someone at the office to be in the know just in case it was necessary for some reason.Ā Sheās a wonderful person who I look up to and trust immensely.
I didnāt come out to any other coworkers until October, when I decided it was āgo timeā to start telling folks at large as I couldnāt hide being on hormones forever.
There was a massive work event going on that week, and I think the stress of it all gave me a push to open up.Ā The night before this comic, I came out to my cubicle row buddy, and he was as lovely and accepting as someone could be.
The next night, I came out to Yuqun on the stage of a music festival that was part of the multi-part event we were working.
Iāve talked before about not having had any āgirlā socialization growing up, last weekās comic touched on it a little and ended on the idea that thereās hope to create some āgirlā memories.
I like to ask my friends first if theyāre ok with being featured in a strip. Ā The ask goes a little like this:
āIām going to do this anyway, but Iām asking permission.ā
My phrasing definitely sounds kind of sinister, but Iām not great with words sometimes so Iāll have to ask for your forgiveness.Ā What I mean by this is that these are experiences that I am going to talk about no matter what, but the permission Iām asking for is if they want their character to look like them (to the best my drawing ability allows).
I asked Yuqun a couple months ago about if she was alright with this strip, and in particular, using the pictures we took.
She said yes!
ā¦I mean, obviously, otherwise I wouldnāt have used them.
Anyway, a couple weeks ago she mentioned that she keeps checking my strip and hasnāt seen the one with her yet.Ā I thought that this would pair well with last weekās, so it was "go time" again.
Yuqun helped me create my first āgirlā memory that night, and Iām eternally grateful.
Love you, Yuqun.
im dubbing this toxic ship hippocrates
EEEH I can't wait to see your Willow design for the Wildbane AU!!
WAIT NO LONGER (this ask was from march) the B stands for Botania! it sounds similar to Pollina, her pilot name she's very tired and in desperate need of caffeine
Reblog if you love Tavish Degroot.
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