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I went from wanting to be married, pregnant, and with a mortgage by the age of 30 to wanting to be a business woman with 2 fully paid houses and $1 million in liquid by the time I’m 30. Fuck the idea that women have to live the suburban dream and have a timer to do so.

How to screen your clients in Canada

These are all the methods that I’m aware of on how to screen clients in Canada. If you’ve worked here you’ve probably realized that clients aren’t too keen on giving out personal information but there are still some things you can do to keep yourself safe. If you know of another method, let me know and I will add it to this list! Of course these methods may also be relevant elsewhere.

1) The first thing I do when a client contacts me is google their phone or email or both and see what comes up. I also search their phone number on Facebook. You can also add them to your phone as a contact and find their Instagram/what’s app profile through that. This is how I often find out that I’m getting a fake appointment. I’ve had women and teenage boys contact me and this is how I weed them out. BUT….now that burner numbers are more and more popular this can lead to mix ups. I’ve had clients give me their number and then I search it and it comes up as a woman and I call them out, and they say that’s not them and have sent me alternative methods to prove their identity. Burner numbers get tossed around so much now that the info you find about it online may or may not be the real owner.

2) References

You can ask clients for one or two provider references. I always remind my clients to please ask or give their other provider a heads up that they will be using them, this usually allows for faster communication and also it’s just polite. When you get the contact information from your client, make sure it’s a REAL escort. If you search her email or phone number and nothing comes up, she is a fake reference. If she is a real escort you can send her a message that goes something like this

“Hey there :) just emailing you in regards to Jim, he said that you were a reference of his.

346-737-2222

Jimjohnson76@gmail.com

Thanks!”

It doesn’t have to be fancy or formal but it does have to be polite.

3) Email money transfer

Clients can email money transfer you a deposit or full payment to a discrete email addresss without getting any of your personal information. This also allows you to get their full legal name when you go to accept the transfer. I have two email addresses, one for my escort persona and a second discrete one that married men can send money to that looks like they’re just sending it to a man-bud. If a client wants to pay for their appointment via email money transfer be sure they send it ahead of time. I’ve had clients send transfers that took 1 hour + to get to me. Do not do anything until the money is in your account.

4) Hotel room call

If a client wants to book me for an outcall to their hotel room, which 80% of my appointments are, there is a super easy way to screen them. I often don’t even tell them I’m going to do this until the day of so that they don’t have time to argue. I tell them I want to call them on their hotel room phone to confirm our appointment and I need their full legal name to do so. Once you get it call front desk (from a burner number) and ask to be transferred to whatever room he is in. Front desk will ask for his name, you give it, if it’s correct they will transfer you through and you’re good to go. Usually I just say “hey confirming we’re still on for tonight at X time for Y hours” and tell them I like to hear people’s voices over the phone before we meet, which I do. Often clients give you fake names when they first start speaking to you so to avoid the awkwardness of them admitting that I usually ask “what name is the room under?” As opposed to “what’s your real name?”

5) Ask for a piece of mail with their name on it

Stolen from @bossyprada. If you’re doing an outcall to residence, ask for their name & address as well as a piece of mail with their name and address on it.

6) LinkedIn profile, work profile, Facebook

You can ask for their name and a link to their social media, LinkedIn or work profile. Use with caution as people can make fake accounts. I’ve seen some girls ask for LinkedIn + an email sent to them from their work email or LinkedIn + photo ID. Which brings us to…

7) Review board profile

I don’t really like this method, but often clients will give their review board profile username and you can check their activity on there and decide if you want to see them. Good things are him writing positive reviews, leaving nice comments etc Red flags: he writes critical reviews, complains about escorts et…if you see someone off a review board, be prepared to have a review written about you

Canadian review boards: PERB, CAF, TERB, MERB

8) Photo ID. You’re not going to get this from a lot of guys. I offer it as an option if someone is new and has no references and doesn’t want to send a deposit. I also never travel with a client without a copy of theirs ID and license plate.

9) Gut feeling. I’ve done plenty of calls that were just gut feeling. Rule of thumb, if it feels wrong something is wrong. Trust your gut.

How to stay safe on calls: The best option is to always have someone know where you are. However for most of this isn’t an option, so always let your client think someone knows where you are, even if you’ve seen them a million times. I always text people when I first get to an appointment and then I say “oh sorry I’m being rude, just letting my girlfriend know how long I’ll be here” you can also pretend to be on your phone. You can set your timer on your cellphone to sound like a ringtone and pretend to answer it when you and your clients time is up. There are also “fake a call apps” available for download.

Stay safe everyone! Xox

Screening

Here’s the information I request on my contact form, and how I use it.

Required information is marked with an asterisk*

*First name

*Middle name

*Last name

*Email address

*Phone number

*Do you prefer texting or calling?

Texting 

Calling

Either

*Provider References

Please provide the name, email, website address or ad link, and contact number for AT LEAST TWO currently active companions, and the dates you last saw them. 

Age

Employment Verification (REQUIRED if you have less than two provider references, STRONGLY RECOMMENDED otherwise)

Employer’s name, your position/title, company phone number, your direct line or extension, and story for me to use when I call (or other way for me to verify employment, such as an employee photo ID badge)

*Appointment Date and Time

*Appointment Duration

P411/TER/localboard/Datecheck Info

Outift request (not guaranteed)

*What are you looking to get out of our date?

*Where did you find me?

Is there anything else you’d like to tell me?

RECOMMENDED Driver’s License Upload

OPTIONAL Face Photo Upload

How I use this information:

Google their name, both with and without quotes around their name (quotation marks tell the engine to search specifically for that exact phrase, not similar phrases)

Google their email address, both with and without quotations

Google their phone number, both with and without quotations

Plug their phone number and email address into the search feature of my local board to see if they’ve ever been blacklisted

Go to your state’s courts website, and search their court records database for his name. If your state separates their database by county, search for your county, his county, and a few surrounding counties. In my state, all superior court cases are available to view. You can see what pleading/motion was filed, and when, as well as the final judgment. You do have to pay to request the actual documents to see their contents, and you probably cannot do this anonymously (in my county, you have to call the county clerk’s office). In my state, district and municipal cases cannot be viewed, but they will still show up in the search results. Your state may be different. 

Search for them on Facebook. Often their wives or children have much more of their profiles publicly visible. 

Search for any information on their family members. 

(I will be buying a Spokeo subscription soon, so I can plug all their info into here, as well)

Google the providers (normally Googling their name and city will pop them up if they have any sort of online presence). Or just find them based on the info he gave you.

See what kind of reputation those providers have. What to they charge? Do they have any rob reports or bad reviews posted of them? Do they look like they have their shit together? Do they have their own website? Does it look nice? Are there a ton of typos? Having your own website legitimizes you. Do they have professional photos, or are they bathroom selfies?

Contact the providers. I start off by emailing them. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. Billy Joe is requesting a date with me and used you as a reference. Can you please tell me if he was safe, clean and respectful? Would you recommend him to another provider? Anything else you can tell me about him and his personality I would very much appreciate! Best, Foxxxy.” I follow up with a text. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. I just sent you an email with a reference request. If you could get back to me promptly, I would really appreciate it!” 

See what they say. Duh. 

Contact his employer. The one time I called a client’s company, it was quite well-known and Google-able. I called the main company line, and asked to be connected to the president of _____. He was already en route on the plane, but I was able to hear his voice during his voicemail recording. A simple phone call to his cell phone would match up his voice, verifying he does work there. I have had a few clients send me photos of their photo ID badge (military personnel, for example). 

Obviously check to see how many Okay’s they have, or if they’re on the whitelists for the hobby IDs they provided you. Search their usernames/IDs to see if anything negative pops up. 

If they sent you a photo of their driver’s license: search Google Maps for the address on the card. Do they live in a nice part of town? Google the address. Has it popped up on Zillow lately? Any homeowner info pop up? You might be able to search their driver’s license number, either by Googling or going to your state highway patrol site, though I haven’t tried this myself.

If they sent you a photo of their face: reverse Google image search that shit! Also reverse search for it on TinEye. Do they look friendly? 

This sounds like a lot, but doesn’t take all too long once you get the hang of it. This doesn’t guarantee your safety, but it sure does reduce the risk of an assault or an arrest. 

I have a line that will save you sooo much time, when you’re talking to a guy just drop “I really want to get my nails done tomorrow” that’s it. See how he reacts. I swear this is gold. Either they offer to pay or they show that they’re salty. Nails are basic shit that guys should be expected to pay for.

I just had my first virtual session tonight.

I was legit looking up shit on google to talk about with this man 😂

I’m gonna say it... not everyone is cut out for sex work and should stay far far FAR away where their own naivety and stupidity won’t get them hurt.

Yes, this is directed at ~sugar babies~

I usually don’t do younger clients but this 30 year old black client blew my back the fuck out 🥵

He was attractive too. I lowkey want more of him

Key Differences In Sexes

I was reading this article by Dr. Nick Neave in which he explains how we are born predisposed to search for the best partner, because all of our ancestors before were doing the exact same things.

Here are some key points that stuck out to me.

Females are smaller and weaker than males, so, in prehistoric times, women and their offspring were prone to being the victims of predators and violence. They needed the support and protection of men who didn’t just have brute force but also had social status in the group, either through their sheer physicality or the strength of their personality. That’s why women still look for a mate of higher social standing. If a woman had a relationship with a socially dominant male, she would immediately get greater access to resources because her social standing would be elevated, too. As we shall see, modern surveys consistently show that women today ape [no pun intended?] those inherent characteristics by looking for partners who are socially dominant and have the respect of their peers, paying close attention to how men interact with, and are treated by, other men.

When couples meet at speed-dating events, typically a man will judge a woman on her looks and youth. His priorities are whether she’s healthy, interested in sex, and can give him children one day. He doesn’t care how much she earns or her social status. Typically, however, a woman’s first question will be: ‘What job do you do?’ It sounds a friendly overture, but what she really wants to know is his social position and earning capacity. Is he an industrious, hard worker, capable of providing for her and their children? Because of his power, even the ugliest politician on the planet has women lining up to go to bed with him… As American statesman Henry Kissinger put it: “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.”

Women will pick the powerful over the sexy. Neave goes on to quote a study in which the researchers presented women with photographs of men. The first group, described as doctors, wore designer ties, smart shirts, and sported Rolex watches. The second wore plain shirts and Swatch watches and were described as teachers. The third group wore Burger King uniforms. Women repeatedly picked doctors as potential boyfriends — even though many of the men in the third category were actually more handsome. To women, a man’s looks are less important than earning power and social standing.

It’s much less likely that a rich woman, or even a woman of average wealth, would be willing to reproduce with a poor man. He will not be able to support her during pregnancy and help her raise a healthy child. It’s better for a woman to be with a richer man, no matter how ugly he is. Similarly, beautiful women tend to have beautiful children. And the thing about beautiful children is that people treat them better. Not just adults, but also peers and teachers.

So the next time someone calls you a gold digger, whore, slut, or sell out because you want a strong, successful man, read this as a reminder and FUCK them.

My first real deposit after starting as a escort. I literally wasn’t getting no bookings for 2 weeks until i went on tinder and started to advertise myself on there. Ladies let me tell you something you don’t need to pay these sites 500 dollars for a ad and think you will get a booking. When i started i was paying a certain company 69 dollars a month to advertise and I wasn’t getting nothing. Until i recently today went on tinder. It just shows to take everything as a opportunity and it don’t believe the hype. I will be getting paid 1k for this booking and it’s only 60 minutes. He offered to double my rate without me even having to persuade him. Will update on how it goes.

Oh and btw a couple days before I was discouraged. So I went on a video about speaking things into existence and asking the universe to fulfill my desire. Literally the next day I got a booking.

Speak things into existence and it shall be fulfilled.

“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”