So i just got my photos back from my professional photoshoot and just wow.. I LOOK SO HOT.đđđ I look like a supermodel. All I gotta do is update my website and Iâm ready to go. Manifesting success all 2020 âĽď¸
Iâm back
I wanted to give a 10 page letter but fuck that letâs keep it short and sweet.Â
As of today, @strategicho, SbCaribbeanBeauty and @beneficeduvagin will be laid to rest. In my heart, I think this is a perfect time to say bye. Ever since last week, I had this feeling and Iâm ready. Thank you to the people who let me be myself without censorship and embraced me. I went from a curious mind, novice, sugar baby, confident failer, spoiled girlfriend, to a woman who is with a man who sponsors me/gets on my last damn blood vessel nerve and I created a business behind his back and now he wants me to return to being a basic beech again.Â
I was offered an opportunity and yeahâŚTHE SUITCASE MUST BE SECURED.Â
I didnât expect this to be emotional but it is. I will genuinely miss you, even the beeches who hate my guts hereâŚI will miss you too. Iâve intentionally removed myself from my comfort zone and Iâm seeing a side of me I always thought I could be but never thought I was worthy of being. My word of advice is to always put yourself as a priority. The situations you have with men/women, make sure you always have something to look forward to when itâs over. Donât ever take directions from someone who doesnât know the address to your destination. (me being fake deep)Â
If you see anyone who writes in behalf of me or claims to be me issa damn lie. (packs large bag) Meh leaving and meh fah never come back! Poopa Geezus! Kiss mehhh rasssssssss (starts catching the spirit in the bathroom)
 mi hav to leave mon. M'ap kite ou cherie. I LOVE YOU GREEN CARD. Menzami map dispose nan LIRR. Wooooooooy Jezu!
(Vitamin C song starts playing) As we go on We remember All the times we Had together And as our lives change Come whatever We will still be Hoes forever Â
Last minute bookings
Refuses to send deposit
Tries to screen using only ID and/or references
Email has different style/sizes of fonts (is clearly copy and pasted)
References donât have websites or verified ads with their emails on them
If he says heâs staying at a hotel he wants to meet at, call and ask to be transferred to *his names* room. If they donât have it, red flag
Yes Iâm black
Its more common than we admit, that when we first begin to communicate with a ârich and generousâ Pot, that we tend to tread lightly as we donât want to (or are scared to) rock the boat. In my opinion, thats just bullshit. If Iâm putting my time, my body, safety, energy, goals and dreams, plus my physical and mental health on the line, you better believe I want some answers first before crossing any lines and agreeing to any arrangement.
Itâs important to ask thought provoking questions (not just the make-us-look-cute-small-talk kinda questions) and to really pay attention to their responses. Are they sincere, well thought out and organized answers or are they taking pick-up lines straight out of a book that could possibly be called âHow To Get Laid For Freeâ
If I was talking to a Pot (or any man or woman at any stage) and they were offended/outraged or even hesitant to answer any of the questions listed belowâŚthat would give me something to think about. After-all, its not like I would be asking them to start a formal judicial hearingâŚI just want to know what Iâd be getting myself into. Plain and simple.
1) Why are you looking for a Sugar Baby, and not a girlfriend?
* Maybe he doesnât fully realize what a Sugar Baby is, and just thinks youâll be a girlfriend that he has to pay for all your dinners together and get the popcorn while youâre out at the movies? Itâs happened before. This is a simple way to put it out there, that there is going to be a definite difference between you and a girlfriend.
2) So far, (because its still new) what is your favourite aspect about me?
* This is important. If he is blunt and says âits your intelligenceâ, then go get some current news articles, or popular and classic books and stay informed my friend! If he says âits your athletic abilityâ, take him out to play beach volleyball on a nice day, or go to the gym together for a date. If he says âits your chestââŚwell then, thatâs up to you to either play it up or smack him. In my opinion, I would do whatever I felt worked to keep him hookedâŚbut without affecting my self esteem or self worth. His role is to help lift you up in life, not hold you down.
3) What are 3 passions that you used to enjoy and what are some new ones that you currently do?
* This will give you an opportunity to enliven some of your dates by sharing his past passions with him, and by making sure that even if you donât enjoy his current onesâŚthat you make the effort to either watch or participate in them for him. He will feel valued and itâll help strengthen your bond if you can connect with things that he enjoys. Who knows, maybe he has given up on certain passions in life because his wife or current girlfriend hates them. Itâs an easy and fun âinâ for you.
4) What goals are you working towards now?
* A man without a goal(s) is a scary thing. There is not one person in this world who can honestly say that they have completed all of their lifeâs goals and can now sit on their butt, twiddling their thumbs for the rest of their life. Goals do not need to glamorous, extensive or expensive. They can be the very smallest of things, but to me, a person without a goal has no drive, lacks motivation and doesnât have that âgustoâ in life that Iâm looking for. PLUS, if someone has no goals or lacks the desire to create oneâŚhow can I expect them to be understanding of, and to support me in achieving mine?
5) If we were ever seen out in public together, how would you want me to handle the situation. What could I expect from you?
* I have had this talk before with my SD, and thankfully so! There have been times where we have been out together and we have run into (or close to it) someone that we knew. Thankfully we donât play in the same social circles, so it helps to limit our chances. One of our easiest âcover storiesâ is manageable because I am his daughters age. If someone comes up to us, I politely say something like this âOh, Iâve kept you long enough. Please tell Tina that I said hi, and it was nice running into you!â And then I politely make my way somewhere else and just send him a text of where I am or whatever it is that Iâll be doing to keep me busy until he is in the clear. And I wait patiently. I do not send 20 texts and carry on a conversation with him. At this point in the game of privacyâŚI no longer exist, right ladies?
6) If we were to have a âsleep overâ, would you be ok with me taking some time to myself? What do you feel would be an appropriate amount of time to ourselves before coming back together?
* Trust me, if youâre like me, youâll want your own space so that you have time to relax, unwind, clean up, catch up on texts/messages, have a nap, enjoy a tea etc. He may be the type of person who doesnât want or need to have time apart, but that doesnât mean that you should hide/ignore your need for some space. If you do not have some sort of understanding beforehand, it could get ugly if you begin to get annoyed at or with him. I most definitely need my âmeâ time and Iâm very upfront about it. Its simply easier to have the conversation and expectations agreed to BEFORE you decide to spend 24 hours together.
7) When we text, are there certain words/language/innuendos that youâd prefer to avoid?
* If he is the ânervous first time SDâ or if he has a curious wife/spouse, you may need to help him feel at ease, by stating that you respect this part of your arrangement and that you want to work with him to keep any suspicions to a minimum. It could help to relax you and him, if you both know what the rules and expectations are when communicating. You donât want to be saying things like âOk sweetie, Iâll see you tomorrow and Iâll wear the red dress you bought me. XOââŚand his wife has access to his phone. That could back fire on you both, not just him. Itâs simple and easy to create code words/sentences. For example: if you want to say âThinking of you, good nightâ, you could say something like âIâll see what Jackson says tomorrowâ. And youâll both know what it really means, and if anyone happens to pick up his phone and read it, its harmless and safer to cover/explain.
Remember not to take it personal that you are a hidden aspect to his life, that sometimes youâre simply not allowed to exist, that you are a âsecretââŚbecause you are. Do you want him as an SD or not? There are just some things that we need to put our pride aside for and do to keep their lives running smoothly, so that our lives do as well.
8) If I ever needed extra financial help, for whatever reason, and I felt that I wanted/needed to ask you for your assistance, how would you prefer me to ask? Subtly or straight to the point?
* Some men are turned off by feeling like a bank machine, while others get turned on by it. Itâs important to know which kind of response you could expect from him by asking for extra help. This way, youâll have a better idea of how best to use your allowance when you get it. If heâs not the easy going-extra-help-kinda-guy, there is nothing wrong with that at allâŚit simply means that you need to prioritize your wants over needs and use your allowance, or money that he does give to you, responsibly.
Some arrangements have more wiggle room for âextrasâ while others are based on strict numbers and rules. If you do feel that you are going to ask for extra supportâŚstart small and assess his responses/reactions to you. Youâll get a feel of whether you should push the boundaries or simply enjoy the benefits of what you already share with him. âDonât throw away a dime in search of 10 penniesâ.
9) What is the safest way for you to give me my allowance, so that you donât feel stressed each month in trying to hide it from your wife/girlfriend?
* If he doesnât know whatâs the safest way, he may be a ping-pong ball while he uses/tries different methods and amounts, until he can get it all figured out. This actually does take some time to plan safely and effectively, and most new SDâs donât give it the due planning that it requires. Are you going to be patient and understanding with him? Or are you going to start heckling him and demanding quicker transactions? Either way, itâs best to have a conversation about it, and get it all sorted out before your allowance day arrives, and you have 3 bills to payâŚwhile youâre waiting for him to do a google search on âemail transfersâ.
10) I recently watched a documentary on the Sex Industry and Iâd like to hear your thoughts and opinions on both those who offer their services and on those who seek them?
* This is an easy opener to get the ball rolling for more questions on this topic. It will also give you some insight into his biases, narcissism and his general opinion on where you stand in your âarrangementâ with him. Is he negative towards the Sex Industry or is he a whatever floats your boat kinda guy?
SoâŚthat about sums it up for today!
Of course, I realize that there are a ton of other questions that you could ask a Pot/SD etc, that all relate to things like allowance amount, allowance frequency, sexual expectations, gifts or no gifts, sexual health history, previous Sugar arrangements, any marital issues that he is seeking your comfort/assistance for etc etc, but at some point I need to stop today lol. Iâm actually missing one of my favourite shows to write this. So, I hope that this list helps in some teeny-tiny way, and if anything, it gets your mind thinking of other possible scenarios that you may want to consider before agreeing to an arrangement with anyone.
Good luck ;)
So Iâm starting to freestyle again. I charge this guy I met at some hotel bar 2000 for the hour and I only stayed for like 30 minutes because he finished too fast. (Which is good for me đ). He wants to meet tomorrow for dinner to discuss seeing me one day for every week of the month. Iâve been manifesting so hard lately that I feel all my wishes are coming true.
Was recently catching up with someone who took her talents to VegasâŚtips she shared:
The high limit rooms of any hotel are the best bet. When things are slow then they are at $100 minimum per hand. The big fish are in there for sure when they raise the minimum to $1,000 a hand. The Talon Room at the Cosmopolitan is their high gaming lounge. There is one on the first floor of the casino but iâm talking about the one on the second floor. There is a sign outside that says âopen to the publicâ but they will kick you out if you are a man who is not playing or a girl who is not cute and not sober. If you cannot get in on the second floor then make your way back down to the first floor and just sit at the bar. The wynn has a high limit baccarat room with a lounge area. If you are a guest then you can make your way back there and grab some free asian food. If you are cute then you can make your way through a door that takes you to a more secluded area.
they stay at the wynn, the mansion at the mgm, and sky lofts at aria. if you get a regular room at the wynn, inquire about upgrading to a tower room. if there are a lot of free rooms then theyâll do it for $50 a night. the tower room area has their own pool/bar area as well. the bigger fish at the wynn stay in the villas. those are located to the immediate right of the tower entrance.
honestly, iâve met many men with a lot of money and none of them are going to any clubs. if they arenât gambling then they area eating well or catching a show.
my battery is dying so iâm going to hit enter now before i lose all of this.
*** Warning: Only try this with the sugardaddies you actually like and feel some attachment too. And definitely trust ***
Please heed the warning or you will crash and burn if you attempt the following.
PREPARE YOUR MEETING PLACE: If youâre regularly meeting at a hotel room, get daddy to get you a prepaid card so that you can go ahead and rent the room ahead of your visit. This will save him the trouble of doing it and allow you a chance to control your interaction. A lot of escorts do this for that very same reason: control. Â For him, the businessman or exec whoâs dealing with all kinds of shit this takes some pressure off him. What you have to understand about a successful man is that heâs always under pressure. Heâs getting beat to shit daily from work, life, and home and heâs probably middle-aged meaning half of daddyâs life is already gone. Daunting. You need to be the calming voice in his life. When he gets there, of course be in your best lingerie, smelling good, etc, with the sheets pulled back on the bed. Or, answer the door naked, in a pair of red bottoms, etc. Or, ask to keep one of his ties for a souvenir on a previous date and when your next visit at the room arrived, have it on and nothing else.
If you host your visits at your residence, then ask daddy what kind of snack he likes. Fruit? Have some strawberries or grapes waiting for him when he comes over. He likes wine, etc.,? Have a glass poured. You can enjoy glass too. Its ok. If you have a problem drinking with daddy, refer to my warning above. :)
RELAX HIM: Give daddy a massage. Not an hour, just 10 minutes to break him down. This is a good time to ask for shit. If he has dry skin, bring some oil in your purse. First rub his back, making sure youâre getting in between those shoulder blades, etc. Skip the legs, lower torso etc. Unnecessary. Heâs tense from meetings and conference calls all day. Turn him over and rub him briefly on his chest before you work your way down to his love zone. Rub his dick and donât forget the boys. When heâs nice hard, start fellatio (if you do fellatio). Â If he doesnât want a massage or doesnât have time thatâs cool. You need to put it out there anyway.Â
Time taken: 7 - 10 minutes
LAY YOUR HEAD ON HIS CHEST: After sex, cuddle up next to him and lay your head on his chest. If he has little or no hair this will be easy. If heâs a hairy bastard you might find another place to lay your head but the goal is to cuddle him. Use the hair to your advantage and play with it as you lie there. Twist it in your fingers or some shit. Make him feel like he just pleased you in every way possible. He probably didnât, but itâs all about the fantasy. This is easy to do if you like him. Refer to my warning above! Say something meaningful like, âThat was good daddy.â Â If you have psychological hang-ups about calling him daddy then say âThat was good baby..â Â or âMmmm I needed that.â All too often chicks are just lying there side by side with him in her own world. You can remain in your own world just do it cuddling him. This is also a good habit to have when you get married. :)Â
Time taken: Not applicable
CLEAN HIM UP: Grab a warm damp warm towel, and remove the condom. Wipe up his penis and go put the condom in the toilet. If no condom was used, you can still clean him up if his penis is about stick to his leg. If  heâs caught off your guard, or ask what youâre doing, tell him âIâm just taking care of you daddyâŚâ I got this one from several Escorts Iâve seen over the years. Trust me. You want some brownie points? Try it a few times. You can even be cute about it and say, âGosh, you had a lot in there.â Or my FAVORITE ââŚ.I see youâve been saving up for me. You had a lot!â The latter is perfect for you babies seeing daddy once a week. When youâre done cleaning him up, lay back on him. This is also another good time to ask for shit.Â
Time taken: 30 - 45 seconds
TASTE IT: Now I might lose a few of you here but itâs my duty to put it out there anyway. Â While you cleaning him up, put a forefinger in your mouth and say, âMmm you taste good.â He might pass the hell out. If youâre good at this he wonât know you donât actually have some cum on your finger. Hopefully, some of you catch what I mean on the latter. :) Or, if you swallow anyway then nothing is wrong with a little protein on your finger and tasting it.
Time taken: Â 2 seconds
PUT HIS SHIRT ON: If youâre going to be in the hotel room awhile, try this one out. This will kill him. If he wears good smelling cologne capitalize on it. With the shirt on, pull the collar up to your nose and say, âMmm I love your smell daddyâŚâ You wonât be lying if he wears good cologne. Chances are you already noticed his cologne but you were too much of a bitch to say you smell good. This is the sexiest shit EVER though. Nothing cuter than your 110, 120, 150 lbs ass in his big ass shirt. One of my previous sugarbabies used to do this. Drove me crazy.
Oh and congratulations!!!! Now heâs going to be thinking about you the rest of the day. Youâve inadvertently left your perfume on his shirt. Now heâs gonna be smelling your pretty little ass the rest of the day. Just donât leave any lipstick!
Take a selfie with the shirt on. Send it to him days later in between your visits.
Time taken: 10 seconds to put on his shirt. Time elapsed before he wants to take it back off and fuck again: 60 seconds. Likelihood of you getting that Celine purse: High.
HELP HIM GET DRESSED: This one is especially important for the busy executive, businessman or man that works in a professional setting and heâs on his lunch break, or on his way home to his vanilla life. No, donât help him pull his trousers up. But you can help with the belt as you kiss him on the chest. Iâm saying as he buttons his shirt, go help him. Help him button the ones on his sleeves as well. And most important help put his tie back on and straighten it and his collar afterwards. Then finish it with a kiss. If you donât get a chance to do all that, then collect his shoes and socks and bring them to him. Donâtâ try and put those on - thatâs just corny. Youâll love his reaction I promise.
Time taken: 30 â 45 seconds
CUDDLE HIM: Recently, I learned something about myself. I read somewhere that one of the reasons why I cheat is because I as a man want to be cuddled and held. I thought this was bullshit but itâs quite true.  I know this is contrary to all the SD advice youâve been getting but take it from a long standing member of the sugar community its true. Iâll explain this one better by giving a real life example. Now when I would first come over, Nebraska and I would sit on her bed and talk and sheâd find some way to wrap her legs around and hug me like I was her long lost boyfriend. I was going through some things and it felt good for somebody in this world to seemingly take an interest in my plight. Then, sheâd just sit there and stare at me like I was a big piece of steak. Staring at my mouth. When Iâd talk too long sheâd start taking off my clothes. While she was getting me undressed, she was always say one of these 3 things:  â I know you didnâtâ come here to do all that talkingâŚâ or âYou just gonna talk?â or my favorite âOr we gonna fuck or not daddy?â One day, after sex I was sitting on the bed and she climbed on the bed, sat down behind me so that I was in between her legs. As I was talking so she kissed me gingerly on my back and also laid her head on my back as we talked.  This shit made me feel like a king. When Nebraska and I ended our arrangement she said, âWell I was actually genuinely interested in youâŚâ This is why I mentioned only try these techniques when you have some type of genuine attraction to daddy. Its easier to do and you wonât be faking which will speak volumes.
Time taken: none. You were going to be doing all this talking anyway, just on one side of the bed or side by side as you sat on the bed. The difference here is youâre cuddling him while you do it. Â
Now, Iâm about to drop half of you right here.
LET HIM CUM TWICE: Youâre laying there in his arms, listening to his bullshit. Reach down and play with his love while heâs talking. After a moment ask, âYou got another round in you daddy?â Regardless of his answer, go down and start blowing him again. It should be cleaned if you followed my advice earlier â clean him up. Anyway, if he said no, heâll appreciate your dedication and let you try and revive him before he stops you. If he says yes, then its self explanatory. Â Relax though. Your middle-aged daddy most likely wonât have a second round in him anyway. This METHOD is extremely effective with the sugarbabies that only see their daddy once a week. Â But, for other arrangements its works quite well too. Â
A lot of chicks are jumping up, cleaning up and rushing out the door, saying how you have so much to do today. Nothing kills a relationship like feeling like youâre being used (even though you actually are!). But remember, you want him around awhile. This is definitely a powerful tool to make that happen. Sends a clear signal that youâre all about pleasing him. (I hope the latter doesnât get me in trouble). Trust me. An extra several minutes is cheap time to spend if you knew youâd be getting another 4 - 6 months out of daddy.
Time taken: 5 â 7 minutes
FINISHING TOUCHES: Put the finishing touches on it. When youâve helped him finish getting dressed, and you know heâs on his way back to work or back to business, when he heads out the door say something encouraging like, âGo getâem baby.â Or if he told you about some crap going on at work, take the opp to regurgitate it. âFuck Bob. Heâs an asshole. You should have got the promotion.â blah blah. You get the point. The latter can be applied even as you both do a last kiss before you head out the door. Again, itâs all about the finishing touches.
Time taken: 2 seconds
I know some of you are saying, âI ainât doing all that shit.â But remember you are selling a fantasy. Youâre giving the most precious part of your body away. Only to have your average sugardaddy relationship end in 2 to 3 months? All because heâs had his fill of your kitty. I assure you incorporating these techniques into your visits with daddy will go a long way and add months onto your relationship. This will help keep him coming back for more and more. Another way to put it, why not hook daddy for several months or even a few years and milk him dry (no pun intended) with just a few extra things?
I put the time on the end of these sections to show how long these little techniques actually take. Like I always say just a little extra goes a LONG way. These simple yet EXTREMELY effective techniques WILL prolong your sugar relationship. So why not incorporate them into your experience? I GUARANTEE daddy will respond to this stuff. I know because Iâve had it all done to me before and it blew me away then and it blows me away now as I type!
Damn Iâm horny now. And my visit with sugarbaby isnât for a few days.
Time to close the office door and get in a little pornhub and redtube.
250 deposit and 750 in cash later.
Not only did he comply with my screening. He sent over my deposit. The only pet peeve is that I had to ask for the donation up front. (Which is annoying) but other then that itâs all good. He was awkward at first but I slowly warmed up to him and we had an amazing conversation.
Thank you Mr L. Hope to see you again soon âĽď¸
Credit: @juliehangart