Night Comes On (2018) Dir. Jordana Spiro

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Real shit about being a sugar baby/escort.

EVERYBODY CAN NOT HAVE A HUSTLER MENTALITY

I’m tired of this shit. My friend recently got scammed by a dude that messaged her on a social media site claiming he can buy her cars, houses and jewelry. He don’t know her or never met her AT ALL. He proceeds to say if she wants proof he can send her 650. Her dumbass gave out her Email address and routing number. Even though I told her to never give out any bank info she still does it. In a few days the bank will recognize that money as a fraud and take her money out.

But you want to know something even crazy? I DONT FEEL BAD. Some of y’all not ready for this game. You got to be on your A GAME AT ALL TIMES. SOME OF YALL DONT GOT WHAT IT TAKES TO HUSTLE. These men will eat your asses alive if they smell a little of naivety. You can not be desperate for money when you want to become a sugar baby/ escort. Because then you will settle and get scammed by dumbasses like him. I’m tired of y’all lowering your rates and values to cater to these men. You got to always have standards within yourself and who ever you seek. If you can’t uphold your values and be smart about your decisions then go the fuck home.

Period!

So they shut down Houston again 😕

“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”

I have a certain “whatever happened to her” or “damn I haven’t seen her in forever, I wonder where she is” vibe to my aura.

this is the art of transmutation…you can’t know me because I am ever changing 🦋

I will never understand when a woman is confident in herself she’s seen as stuck up or snobby.

Like damn your insecurity is really showing.

Just paid 1500 for a ticket at a local charity met gala. I’m manifesting that I will get my money back and more. I’m also going to be testing my new freestyling rates that night. (1500-2000 per hour)

Part 2: How to hunt. 

First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).  

As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs). 

If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.

So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either: 

a). walk up to you and introduce himself, 

b). he’s going to move closer to you or,

c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.

If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now. 

And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again. 

However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable. 

What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.  

The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link. 

Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.

When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.

So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT” 

And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh. 

Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.

Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself. 

You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go. 

Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.

Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.

Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?” 

I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.

FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.

This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?” 

I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.

Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.   

If you cautiously slide a toothbrush along the bottom or top of your throat until you feel the gag reflex trying, then stop and brush side to side for 10 seconds and repeat every day going back farther and farther, you can eliminate the gag reflex. I used to not be able to swallow medicine, now I can down an 18 inch double ended dildo without gagging. Unless the dildo tastes fucking awful.

I wish you could see the smile on my face! This is amazing! Thank you for telling me. I’m gonna try it asap ahaha!! 

Be careful ladies this is why you always screen the person. I instantly found it number as a predator on not just this site but many others. Stay safe ladies 💕