You’ve Got to Forgive Yourself For Being Traumatized And Needing To Learn How To Function Again.

You’ve got to forgive yourself for being traumatized and needing to learn how to function again.

Recovery isn’t always nightmares and depression, it’s forgetting to eat, being scared of what others might see as completely normal things, it’s getting random panic attacks, not knowing how to take care of yourself, not knowing how to live like an adult, even if you’re twenty, thirty, forty, fifty, of feeling like you’re failing to function in a world where everyone seems to have their shit together.

If you need help, ask for it. Go to forums and ask for advice. Take advantage of community resources. Buy pre-sliced veggies and fruits, eat instant meals if you can’t cook for yourself today. Hire someone. Ask a neighbor for a favor. Buy any item you think might make life easier, even if you feel like you aren’t ‘disabled’ enough to have it.

Some of the depression posts (ie open your windows, take a shower, go outside, call a friend) are really helpful but they’re not always enough. I’ve found advice for spoonies, people with chronic pain or other disabilities have the best tips because they know what it’s like to be bedridden, out of energy, stuck in a brain fog.

You may never return back to the energy you had when you were younger and you might always need to use crutches to help you through life. It’s the same with medication.

Trauma is a real thing that happens to you, it physically alters your brain and it’s alright to have lasting scars.

You’re not broken, your life is not over and you can still be happy.

It’s not your fault.

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thesadpandagod

3 years ago

Guess what I just watched!

did I do it right

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ive reached a point where if the movie doesnt have queer subtext or themes about trauma im good lol lego batman

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thesadpandagod

4 years ago

The way I've seen abuse normalized as a Jehovah's Wittness is appaling. I know so many people, including some in my family, who are stuck with abusive partners under threat of excommunication or "sinning against god". Few victims ever leave and those who find out about the situation often praise the victim for putting god first by staying.

On the other hand children are told their value exists in being fully obedient to their parents to please god. You are explicitly told that even if the parent is wrong or listening to them upsets you, it doesn't matter. Yet, they're surprised when abusers flourish.

Members can't acknowledge this because their relationship with the organization is the same. You do everything you're told, often in your worst interest, and you can't leave.

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religious trauma abuse ex jw ex cult ex jehovah's witness ex evangelical pimo recognizing my own experiences with abuse helped me deconvert so this stuff hits close to home

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thesadpandagod

3 years ago

To all of the PIMOs out there:

STAY STRONG

GOOD THINGS ARE COMING

I AM SO PROUD OF YOU

I LOVE YOU

YOU GOT THIS

💖

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thesadpandagod

8 years ago

overlay 101

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thesadpandagod

3 years ago

The only thing you owe yourself is to live a good life

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thesadpandagod

4 years ago

saw a post a while back about Sophie making increasingly gaudy hats for Howl for every birthday and him absolutely loving them

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thesadpandagod

8 years ago

heres something ill never finish

*kill bill sirens*

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thesadpandagod

3 years ago

Please assign me a pokemon!

yamper :))

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THANKS look at him this makes me feel like a winner

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thesadpandagod

4 years ago

domestic bliss

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thesadpandagod

2 years ago

After everything with moving away, leaving the cult, graduating, making real friends, and being able to be openly queer... I still miss my parents so much

They treated me awful and still haven't really apologized. They're all sad I'm not in contact with them but have done nothing besides decide "I guess we should stop messaging since they asked us to". This is safer for me but God I want parents. The bond between parent and child and the security of having a guardian to rely on is a privilege ripped away from me.

I love my found family, but wish my biological ones were what I needed and deserved.

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vent religious trauma abuse exjw ex jw ex cult ex jehovah's witness ex evangelical parental estrangment abusive parents

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