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People using subtle hints instead of being direct makes things very hard for autistic people.

In some cases, it's understandable to do that. If you have trauma from being punished for being direct, then you have no moral obligation to sacrifice your own feeling of safety. This often happens when a woman is uncomfortable with a man and has had experiences in which being direct has made a man violent. Autistic people could even be afraid to be direct, because they've likely been bullied and abused for it constantly.

But if you're an authority figure, you have no excuse to use subtle hints. If you expect something to be done a specific way and failing to meet the expectations will cause you to punish them, then you damn well better be clear about what you're expecting and why you're expecting it.

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Something interesting I'm noticing that has been happening with me in social situations for the longest time is that when I ask clarifying questions (bc autism) I don't get met with frustration as much as I do belittling (? Not sure if it's the right word. It certainly feels demeaning).

And specifically the word:

Overthinking

For example:

"Can you please elaborate on _? I don't think I get it."

"Don't overthink it, it's a simple task 🥰 it's not hard !"

"Oh you're just a worrier aren't you! 🥰"

"There's no need to worry you know! 😊 You'll be fine."

"You're overthinking it, just give it a go 😊"

"How about we just try it first and then see how you get on 🥰"

And I get it. I do happen to be a person who can fall into traps of overthinking. But asking clarifying questions is not an example of that!

When I'm overthinking something, I'm rarely ever asking questions on how to DO something. It's likely something that's been upsetting me that I'll overthink, not a task that has been puzzling me. I enjoy challenges. I know I'm quite smart. Assuming every single clarifying question I have must be me overthinking feels very.. icky. Idk. It feels like you assume I am asking out of some need to be quirky and different. Almost like you think it's cute that I'm confused? Like I'm not trying to be cute I'm trying to do the fucking task you set out for me????

It makes me feel uncomfortable and I am always very very bluntly clear that I am not overthinking and I don't like being told that. It feels almost like an insult to my intelligence.

Am I right in thinking this is some covert thing allistics do to autistic people?? Knowing my track record with gut feelings I am right.

9x out of 10, the thing I want clarity on is something poorly phrased. So yes it is likely a very simple task, but it looks like this to me:

Task, simplified = water the flowers

How it's actually phrased:

"Take the device most known for feeding plant life, use accordingly and with precision."

My clarifying questions:

"How am I supposed to know what the 'device' is in this scenario when you can use many things to 'feed' plants..? What are the plants in this scenario? Does it matter? What do you mean 'with precision'??"

The answer I get:

"You're overthinking it 🥰 just give it a try!"

What they actually meant to tell me:

"Water the flowers, try not to be too messy with the watering can."

And then the way I learn that that is what they actually meant is solely through error, like I would water the flowers but I wouldn't do it in a tidy manner so I'd get yelled at. Or, I would Google "device most well known for feeding plants" it would bring up feeding pellets and I'd use those and get yelled at!!!

How am I overthinking something by asking clarifying questions!!!!

It genuinely feels like that word has become so watered down that it's just being used to describe anyone who actually thinks past one thought per task???????

Stop assuming everyone can understand what you're telling them straight away.

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edit: @ilackhumanqualities wins best addition to this post

some aces are virgins

some aces love sex

some aces have sexual trauma

some aces don't want sex

some aces masturbate

some aces are teenagers

some aces are in their seventies

some aces dress modestly

some aces wear skimpy clothes

some aces only date aces

some aces don't want romance

and we're all valid : )

EDIT: EVERYONE THAT'S HAVING DISCOURSE IN THE NOTES WILL BE BLOCKED IF YOU'RE BEING AN ASS

Edit edit: Anyone that's confused about how asexuals could love/enjoy/want sex can go read this