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“Maybe time didn’t heal wounds exactly, but it gave you a kind of armor, or a new perspective. A way to remember with a smile instead of a sob.”

— Kristin Hannah (via purplebuddhaquotes)

Tips on how not to focus on loneliness when you don't have any close friends would be much appreciated!

“It’s all too much and not enough at the same time.”

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Jack Kerouac

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Important message incomingggg

saw a post saying “dont beg men to love you” and thats absolutely true but i have an addition i dont want to add to the post and Derail. but dont beg ANYONE to love you. im serious. not just romantically. not parents, friends, family, and especially not significant others. if you find yourself having to beg for scraps of love its time to pack it up and move on. 

True friendship

I’ve been trying to wrap my head around superficial friendships and genuine friendship. I have spent a lot of time trying to rate/categorise my relationships with all the people I consider “friends” and probably about 80% of them would fall in the superficial category. What do I classify as superficial? I see it as lacking in depth, character and understanding. Or rather, very little foundation of trust. Those relationships where you just scratch the surface of friendship love and God is never the topic of conversation. As a Christian, I crave a friendship where we can speak about God for hours, where we can help each other and lift each other up. The genuine love and understanding you have with each other and that Christians are meant to have. God put us in this world for the mere purpose to be in communion with each other and help each other, not just to scratch the surface. When loving one another is this kind of love: There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. (John 15:13). This is genuine love, being willing to die for your friends or being willing to dedicate your life/ time to holding your friends accountable in Christ. I’m tired of Christian friends who don’t speak about Christ. I’m tired of feeling like the very people I go to church with are more into superficial/worldly conversations than in God. I’m tired of friends who talk about materialistic things and have never mentioned God outside of church once. I’m tired of pretending to be into superficial conversations when I don’t understand a single thing. I feel like the very people you go to church with are the ones who forget the true meaning of friendship itself. God designed friendship to be a beautiful way of uniting each other due to a common factor in each friends heart (CHRIST!). As Christians, we should take Jesus’s example and fellowship and love the way He did. We should be different than worldy friendships, and rather be pure and gentle and bear with each other in honesty and love. Some questions I’ve had to ask myself have been: “What makes me a Christian?”, “Do I act differently to those in the world?”, “Is my life a living testimony that I AM a Christian?”, “Does the topics of my conversation with friends glorify God?”, “Do I pray for my friends? ”, “Do I speak about God as much as I should? ”, “Can I really speak about God on a deep level with people I think are genuine friends?” I honestly haven’t been able to give a yes answer to either one of those questions, and I feel deeply condemned. As a Christian, I should be open about my faith, especially with the very people I think I’m closest with. I shouldn’t try and be accepted in a group if most of it is superficial stuff. I shouldn’t try and hide the fact that I’m a Christian but I should BOAST about it. I should make it know to everyone. And I should surround myself with people who do the same too. So my challenge this year is to be able to answer yes to every single one of those questions. God bless you and keep you, make His face to shine upon you and give you His peace.

i have never felt as mature as when i finally understood (through therapy) and internalized (through emotional work) that you cannot connect and communicate with some people no matter how kind, compassionate, understanding, articulate, eloquent, or smart you are, and that sometimes a person not listening to you does not reflect on your communication skills or ability to connect or straight up intelligence. in a way, it’s letting go of the belief that you have the power to make people understand you. communication is a two-way street, and needs two willing participants. some people are just walls, and it has been unbelievably helpful for my mental and emotional health to let it slide and know that it does not affect me or my self worth.