ive gotten so much mileage out of this tweet. every time i see something on the internet that makes me mad i just think to myself "people in real life: hey man how's it going" and i keep it pushing
logically I know pussy isn't supposed to come in fruity flavors but emotionally mine would taste like strawberries & cream dr pepper
OP: Back when I was young, I couldnāt afford nice clothes. Now, I buy pretty dresses for the 18-year-old me. (cr åęēéå„¶å„¶)
Iām so mad I didnāt make this observation before⦠I cant unsee it nowš³
I simply cannot take these men seriously, mostly because I have been big into fandom/fanfiction at various points in my life and alpha/beta/omega has a very different meaning in fandom terms š¤£š¤£š¤£
This is the conservative male version of neogenders. A bunch of weirdos got addicted to the internet and started calling themselves "omega males" as if that means something. It's their version of saying "I am a fem-aligned non-binary genderfuck who goes by he/she/its pronouns." It's amazing how different communities mirror each other even though they appear to be complete opposites at first glance.
The amount of people that stay stagnant because theyāre afraid of having friends that are ābetterā than them might just be the answer as to why a lot of them are so lonely, too. Having friends that are better spoken, better traveled, better dressed, better educated, better whatever actually enriches your life tremendously and I couldnāt imagine not surrounding myself with people I wanted to learn from out of mere fear of inadequacy
This post is not mine, but one radfem woman from our community. She works as a sexologist and shared her experience in her work. If you too are a sexologist, or even better, have some statistics on this topic, please share your experiences or links. ---------------------------------------------------------- "When I first started working, I discovered that many men had never experienced the need to refuse intimacy with a regular partner. That is, a man in counseling complains that his partner often refuses him, he attributes her refusals to personal dislike and faded feelings, and when he tries to turn the situation around and remember when he himself had to refuse her, he does not understand what we are talking about. Because he has never had to - he responds to the initiative of his partner every time and considers it a sign of love and attraction on his part.
I heard this very often, I couldn't catch the lie and at the same time I couldn't interpret it. They are not robots, after all, to be available 24/7 at all hours of the day and night?
One day a client in a session literally opened my eyes with one phrase.
She said: āI CAN SEE WHEN HE'S NOT UP TO IT.ā
That's the secret. The notorious emotional service. Subsequently, and many other women have confirmed this in a targeted survey: when the desire for intimacy arises, a woman assesses her partner's condition BEFORE taking the initiative. If she sees that her partner is tired, sick, in a bad mood, or preoccupied with something, she does not consider it appropriate to offer sex. I have also heard from many women that in a situation when she can not clearly assess the state of the partner, she prefers to flirt, as if casually get naked, as if accidentally do something that usually arouses the partner. If there is no reaction to this, the woman usually refuses to take the initiative and solves her problems on her own, without forcing the partner to conflict and feel guilty.
Men don't want their partners all the time - it's just that no one gets in their underwear when it's inappropriate. No one forces them to think about sex when they don't want to think about it.
Men themselves don't usually check against anything but their own erections.
They don't care when to offer sex to a woman(the following is a real and far from complete list):
Who is asleep (well, seriously, I don't know any woman who would ever think of waking up a sleeping partner to satisfy her sexually);
who's back from her 24-hour shift;
who just finished cooking a holiday dinner for ten people;
who has a high fever;
who's been vomiting all day;
who is eight months pregnant with a complicated pregnancy;
who has undergone a termination of pregnancy that day;
who is in the terminal stages of cancer;
who's just had a pet die;
returning from the funeral of a beloved grandmother;
waiting for a call from the NICU where their (mutual!) child is (āLet's get a little loose while we waitā) - and so on and so forth.
It may seem like it's a matter of cognitive distortion, that they just don't get itā¦.. But they do. I asked one of them once: does he really think that a person in such a state can want sex? Yes, it is clear that they don't want to, he replied, but I'm just in case - maybe it will work out. I asked him how he would react if it didn't work out, and he admitted that he would be hurt and angry. And that's another āsecretā - why it does burn out. Because refusal will inevitably lead to conflict, and a woman often does not have the strength not only for sex, but also for an argument. When he offered sex, she basically can not get out of the situation without damage - either to be raped, or to deal with his tantrums and offenses. And unfortunately, sometimes the first one turns out to be the lesser harm."