YOU CAN'T JUST HIDE RELATABLE STUFF LIKE THAT IN THE TAGS😭😭😭

What Your Favorite Punk Rock and Gothic Rock Band Says About You except I have surface level knowledge of all of this and I'm mostly going off vibes

Sex Pistols: You where an absolute nightmare sometime between your childhood and 30s. Not just like annoying and stubborn but people were afraid of you and also afraid for you.

Ramones: You're pretty chill despite being very passionate and opinionated on topics that don't really matter. You don't need to yell about your least favorite dog breed ok? You don't need to get your two cents in on everything either.

Dead Kennedys: You have good taste and are true to your values, but you will also defend using racist symbols and words for satire a bit too far.

Siouxsie and the Banshees: The way Siouxsie Sioux spells her name is a sin that I fully blame you for. You love dark and mysterious energy and love just seeing women succeeding and being weird.

The Cure: You're objectively correct, they are the best on this list. However, you're the basic bitch of goth and post-punk and in denial that they made just as much pop music as actual goth.

Depeche Mode: You're either a mentally unstable new wave fan or a mentally stable goth fan. The lyrics aren't as complex as you think they are, sorry.

Joy Division: Please do something about your anxiety.

Dead Boys: You get bored out of your mind to a point that is probably not normal whatever stupid thing you want to do for the adrenaline please don't do it.

The Damned: Same thing as the Dead Boys except you like a slightly classier and darker aesthetic. If you could wear whatever you wanted without being judged you would wear the coolest shit known to man.

Bauhaus: Just admit you're horny. Everyone already knows.

The Clash: Either you need to get out of the house and go do something exiting or you used to need that and this music was a gateway to lots of adventures. You like a lot of other types of music as well.

Black Flag: Straight edge, huh? No the fuck you weren't.

Sisters of Mercy: Congratulations! You're almost as horny as the Bauhaus fans and almost as anxious as the Joy Division fans! Also you were probably raised Christian and resent it.

The Stooges: You pride yourself on being into punk before punk existed but is that really such a good thing? You heard someone screaming "I wanna be your dog" with absolutely no context and no similar or gateway music and decided that this was the band for you. All I'm saying is maybe you need to take some time to unpack that.

Addendum, we have moved on to listening to Queen and it's a nice vibe

Old school mixed music just hits that mellow vibe so well

Doing shrooms and coming to a horrible conclusion...

I am willingly listening to The Beatles

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It gets worse...

It's scratching the exact musical itch I had

Do y'all think Alexander the Great is babygirl enough to enjoy that he's been yassified over history?

Detox products are so silly to me, you need to clear your system???

Girl I'm lactose intolerant all I need to detox is a tub of ice cream and a night off of work

Doing shrooms and coming to a horrible conclusion...

I am willingly listening to The Beatles

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It gets worse...

It's scratching the exact musical itch I had

Hickies

I wrote this poem at breakfast so here it goes

Farewell, until we meet again:

Why must you give me such mixed emotions?

You're the source of some of my greatest hurt

The source of some of my worst decisions

But my heart aches to think of leaving

Maybe I love the side effects, the friends

Memories and joy that were made with you

Maybe that's why my soul cries to see it end

Despite all the pain I've endured here

Maybe I started to think of you as home

I laid my head here for a whole year

That certainly has an effect of its own

In spite of the pain many of those nights bore

Maybe I won't miss the brick laden streets

Which I walked everyday to classes and such

Maybe I won't miss it in favor of the heat

Way back home, but I'm far from certain

Maybe I'll come back and wash the blood

Of poor decisions with the water of the good

And then only the good ones will flood

My mind, but this year's taught me not to guess

I am a lesbian

CW: Death, Cheating, Grief, Mourning

I'm going to talk to the void cause shit happened among my community and I'm processing (if you know the people in the story, no you don't).

There's a unique parallel between death and the end of a relationship especially when felt in communities. Obviously both are the end of something, but there's more to it. Both are mourned under the conditions of their ending, murder victims are mourned far different than people who pass in their sleep after saying goodbye. Likewise I think that relationships are often mourned the same way.

This becomes especially poignant when it comes to relationships that die by cheating. These relationships ended by the greatest betrayal of hearts that a human can endure, and importantly revolve around the taking of consent. In these instances consent between partners is on the "contract" of being in a relationship. When you have those agreements which you promised to live by there is no guarantee other than trust that it will be upheld. This is why relationships are often scary but rewarding, it's scary to take a leap of faith like that but also deeply rewarding to trust someone that deeply. And when that trust is broken with cheating it breaks that trust and deals a mortal wound to a relationship.

Okay, so how does this relate to murder victims? When a person dies in that way they are denied agency, consent, and the ability to die on their own terms. When these things happen without someone doing this it's a tragedy and hurts more than a peaceful passing but there's extra pain when someone causes that loss.

The reason is trust, when you exist in a community there is a set of agreed upon rules that almost always include not to kill each other, it's about the most universal rule out there. The trust is what gets violated so that not only is a person gone but a deep and fundamental trust is broken. This is why I feel these types of mourning are similar.

The point to making this comparison is this, murders are felt among the whole community. They are mourned with the whole community. When people in your community experience cheating, support them and help them mourn just as you would a person lost because often times they lost the person most dear to them in the process.