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to all of my dolls finding themselves:

originality is the "aesthetic" you are looking for. individuality is the "it factor" you are looking for. from your personality, pieces, hair, cadence of voice...even down to your favorite foods or special interests. you aren't supposed to change every aspect about yourself to be more palatable for everyone you meet. that actually makes you BORING!!!

"but so and so is doing this" "but what if people don't like it" ... so??? don't take people disliking your aesthetic as a sign that you need to do something different. like, of course they don't like it or have second thoughts - it's because THEY wouldn't do it themselves because it wouldn't go with THEIR given aesthetic. HELLOO??????

unless they are like minded, stop asking other people to weigh in on the things you CLEARLY like about yourself. especially if it's a core personality trait or interest. your LIFE isn't a group project. your LIFE is not a co-op game.

and yes... people will try to force you to assimilate and follow the crowd by speaking misfortune on your rebrand, your expression, your hobbies, your chosen path out of jealousy. however, that jealousy is lowkey unspoken respect for the fact you have the candor to go against homogeneity.

your authentic dedication to everything that makes you YOU is what will bring you the illustrious life you so fervently seek in the end...not some book a celebrity wrote or a youtube video. it's in YOUR DNA to be a star already in anything you want to do.

there isn't one tutorial on this world wide web that will help you if you don't realize you have the components within you first. there is NOTHING wrong with you!!! you are EVERYTHING that is right already!!!

NEVER conform to the way they think you should shine.

I don’t doubt myself because I deserve literally the best

Self-doubt? That used to be cute, but I don’t have time for it anymore. I realized pretty quickly that if I didn’t back myself, no one else would. So I made a choice: I stopped questioning my worth and started owning it.

There’s no room for doubt in my life anymore—only confidence and belief in myself. Once I made that shift, everything else fell into place. People can talk about ‘imposter syndrome’ all they want, but I know exactly who I am and what I bring to the table. I don’t need validation from anyone, because I validate myself first.

Every time I crush a goal, every time I level up, it reinforces one thing: I was always destined for this. The truth is, I stopped doubting my greatness and started embracing it. And guess what? The universe had no choice but to give me everything I was already claiming.

So, if you’re still questioning yourself, stop. Believe you’re the best, because if you don’t, no one else will. I turned my self-doubt into belief, and now I’m unstoppable.

Start planning 2025

Make a list of all the emotions you want to feel at the end of 2025.

Now work backwards and write down all the tasks you need to do in order to feel that way.

Make a separate list of all the “gaps” - what do you currently not have in order to do those tasks to make you feel the way you want?

And lastly, write down how you can fill those gaps. Do you need a gym membership to become fit to feel good about your yourself? Do you need to learn how to cook better meals in order to feel healthy and energised? Do you need to start applying to jobs, in order to secure one, in order to feel financially safe? Do you need to buy an old school alarm clock that’s going to wake up your entire apartment building in order to wake up early? what do you need to DO?

also, make a list of all the things that worked out for you in 2024. Learn to celebrate and appreciate, even the smallest of wins.

For the next two months start the trial and error process of this program. Let’s say you decide that you want to work out 7 days a week in order to feel good about your body. Now halfway through November you realise that 7 days is probably too much, and 5 days would be better for your schedule. Or you decide to read 3 books a week, but realistically, maybe a chapter a day is better.

November and December are your trial months. By the time January starts, be ready with a program that is built for you, works for you, and can be completed by you.

Don’t forget about keeping a reward mechanism. If you complete your daily tasks for 1 month straight, buy that little purse you were eyeing, or take yourself to a spa. Reward yourself in ways you like so that :

a) you’re not in an endless cycle of never being satisfied

b) you don’t drop everything for a man or a friend who shows you the slightest bit of affection because you won’t show it to yourself

c) it encourages you to work harder for yourself.

FINALLY CLOSING THE GAP BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HIGHEST SELF IN 2024.

You are going to STOP scrolling endlessly for self-help and advice content and you are going to STOP and apply the knowledge you have endlessly gained. Obtaining help and advice knowledge is useless if it goes through one ear and comes straight out the other. STOP becoming addicted to the idea of scrolling and scrolling for your problems yet you already have the resources to fix them. A fool is a person who cannot decide to take action despite having access to the information needed to do so.

BREAKING FREE FROM THE SCROLLING CYCLE

Learning and Applying is one thing, but Learning and Staying Stationary is literally brain rot. You're addicted to the idea of change and the end result, but you never take the steps towards discipline with a personal structure to get that result. You keep looking for quick fixes and easy hacks, but life is not a quick fix and no hack can elevate your life from 0% to 100% without visiting the rest of the numbers first.

TAKE A BREAK FROM SCROLLING

Take time away from your usual scrolling and learn to be on your own. Learn your own ways of self-care, learn what works for you and understand what you need, because nobody is the same. Following a millionaire's morning routine will not make you a millionaire. This routine has worked for someone to feel and be productive in the morning and was probably curated over the years to suit their current lifestyle. So, seeing other people's successes and comparing their working ways to your life is unrealistic if you are not in a position to implement them. Going straight from 0% (Being unproductive and procrastinating) to 100% (Being incredibly Productive and in tune with self) will not be sustainable for someone who has not built the discipline and the inner foundations required for it. STOP seeing information online and taking it without ALTERING anything to your personal situation.

STOP ASKING HOW TO AND JUST DO

"How to lose weight, How to become more social, How to do this and that"

Most of these things you ALREADY know the answer to. Everybody knows that to lose weight, you need to burn more than you consume. There is literally no other way, no magic and no secret hack, just that simple fact. I guarantee you know that to become more social you just have to be social. Learn to be comfortable in social situations which will require inner work, but it's not a difficult concept. Most of us know what we need to do, yet we still try to find quick fixes or another way that same message is presented to us differently. We act as if we are improving and developing on our "improvement" journey yet we are just finding coping ways to feel like we are moving, yet we are still in the exact same place as before. I know you know what to do, I know you have researched what you should do and ways you can do it. So why are you not doing it? Why are you still not where you want to be? If you are not where you want to be, then what you're currently doing needs to change. You cannot do the exact same thing you've been doing for years and expect a different outcome. You need to curate a routine suited to your needs that is realistic and achievable to adopt.

LEARNING TO MOVE ON YOUR OWN, STOP DEPENDING ON OTHERS TO FUEL YOUR SUCCESS JOURNEY LISTEN TO: NOBODY IS COMING TO SAVE YOU BY JULIENHIMSELF Make yourself your safe space, your foundation. When you see yourself in the mirror you should be able to tell yourself "I love you", you should be so sure in what you do that nobody else can contradict what you believe in yourself, this is the end goal of self-improvement. Many of us have put aside our goals because we "are not ready", "people may judge us" or "I need to be/achieve ___ to.." Now don't get me wrong, I'm on this journey with you. I write on this blog to teach my brain how to think in the higher mindset that I'm creating for myself. I too have thoughts like this which is why in 2024 we are going to break out of our old selves to make room for our new selves together. We have to lose ourselves to find ourselves. If you're mood and self-worth are controlled by other people's opinions, then you will never advance further with yourself and will remain stationary. You have to stop allowing other people to determine whether you are allowed to pursue your desires or if you shouldn't because of fear of rejection. Don't take life too seriously, we are only here for so much time. So what if people make fun of you? In a few years will you look back and be proud and fulfilled of your past or feel regret and disappointment? LISTEN TO: WHY YOU CARE SO MUCH BY JULIANHIMSELF + LISTEN TO: HOW TO DETACH BY VICKITA TRIVEDI

The only way to get to 0%-100% is by doing.

Embody your potential

BE god.

having confidence in yourself as god brings desires to fruition.

having unshakable belief and conviction that you already have your desires or will get your desires is key.

if you know you can change how your reality works in an instant then why are you not doing that? why are you not putting that into practice?

of course you know that anything is possible. in your mind you can have a car this instant, tens of millions in your account this instant. move to another country THIS INSTANT so why don't you think its physically possible? whats the difference?

in theory, anything is possible and anything imaginable can happen so why the doubt when it comes to making it tangible in the physical? can you have what you desire this instant? yes! yes yes yes!. you have it all. its possible.

its possible in the mind (anything) as a deliberate, conscious thought or even as a passing thought. in theory if you have all that you want in your mind (objects, people, events, circumstances etc) then you have it all. period. drill that in your psyche.

the same conviction and confidence you have in the mind is the one you should have even when you are shown what you do not like. be certain in your abilities as god and practice what it truly means to be god.

you want it? you have it!

you want it? go get it!

you have a thought about doing something? go do it!

you are god. god can do anything. be anything. have anything. make anything happen.

having belief in your mind/imagination/4d IS having confidence and certainty, period.

it is a true demarcation of the realness, the legitness of your desires.

you are limitless. be confident in this title. give breath to it and say it like you mean it. say it like you know what it means to truly be limitless. own it.

you can make anything happen regardless of where you are in your journey. you are a god. a god through which all is possible and real. a god that seeks ONLY within themselves. a god that knows no bounds, no obstrcutions, no limits.

BE GOD.

god makes magic happen, god makes everything happen because god IS anything and everything. god is you. You make all things possible.

remember to take what resonates and leave what doesn't.

-goddardsprodigytoo

GROW UP 102; CONFIDENCE BABY

Confidence is security in the reliability and competence of oneself. To be confident is to be secure in your ability to gain pleasure and avoid pain by being reliable and competent, so to speak. In this way at the heart of confidence is security.

What most people don't understand or get wrong about confidence is that it's not inown. Confidence doesn't 'come from the inside'. Unlike self worth you are not born with confidence, it's something you consciously cultivate daily. It's also not ego. In fact confidence that stems from the ego is fragile.

The opposite/ enemy/ indicator of the lack of confidence is anxiety. At the root of anxiety is the fear that you might not be able to avoid pain and gain pleasure, in fact it's the constant anticipation of pain. Given human survival hinges largely on avoiding pain you see how confidence in itself is crucial to life.

Now then, how do we build confidence?

1 . Know Yourself.

The problem with this little phrase is how easy it is to overlook. "I kNoW wHo I aM" okay and who is that. Go ahead love I'm listening. Who is you. See that little hesitation thing that happened after your " I like __ I hate__ " list?yes? Jump into pinterest, get you journal prompts and work that stuff our, yes? Get you a shadow work journal, get to the 360° of you. And yes this includes [and is ESPECIALLY about] the tough questions you wanna run from. It's SHADOW work. Face thy shadows, missus.

When you know who you are you build security in your choices, opinions and preferences. If you know who you are I cannot convince you to like someone or hate someone or buy something, I can not plant insecurity in you. If you know for a fact you are intelligent the statement [ you are dumb] can not trigger you into a 488579 word reblog because you know you're not.

2. Say no. [Build autonomy]

Confidence thrives in autonomy. There is a reason people pleasers are the poster kids for anxiety [hence lack of confidence], they lack autonomy. Listen if they get your nails wrong at the nail salon don't (haha it's okayyy) you're killing your confidence. Politely say no this isn't what I want. Get me what I want. What makes mean girls the poster kids for confidence is we don't settle for less than, we don't give in and we don't feel the need to explain unless we have to. No I'm not into you.why? Enjoy the blue ticks. No that's not the meal I ordered. Yes I understand you're having a rough day, I don't mean to add to your stress but if I don't then I'll be stressed for paying for something I didn't even want, you know? Get me what I ordered, yes? Thank you. Mean Girls are not scared to start a scene. To put up a fight. To walk out. Mean Girls have autonomy. The day you say "no" without your heart racing and anticipating social annihilation congrats. Welcome to the club.

3. Company

Now this is one of those things we think we know but we don't. When we say "show me your friends ill show you your character " we are not pulling an Aristotle on you. 95% of your thoughts are determined by the company you keep [or what you let influence you] . Humans are social creatures which means we pool our thoughts into our social group for the purpose of progress. Friend groups are literally based on a thought process. If you are friends with people who's entire personality is " I have anxayati I'm suisaidol I have mentol helth issues " 24/7 good luck on confidence if you hang out with the "ewwww that's so cringe" crowd how's that personality/ character annihilation working out for you if you are friends with people that constantly put other people down how are the anxiety meds coming if you're still in contact with your narcissistic ex or dad or mom how's that working for you if all you watch is Candace Owens and Andrew Tate and social politics clearly aimed to trigger how is your real-life relationship sabotage going if your friends are the moral police and virtue signallers mon amour hows the lack of self trust X extreme levels of self hate x unrealistic moral standards x loneliness? If you don't have uplifting friends read books on queens and power women and people that inspire you and watch videos that inspire you. Your friends literally make or break you.

95% of your thought process, sis. 95% . In a universe where thoughts literally create reality?? Think Elon Musk and Beyonce. Careful who you let in and please do not let your people pleading trap you in a pity bond.youre not a healer.

4. THERAPYY

I will NEVER not bring this bad bitch to your table every table I sit on I bring this absolute babe called therapee. There is no overlooking this. "I dont like talking about-" and where has that gotten you? Tough shit love. Download betterhelp okay? Okay. Not knowing the source of our actions, pain and shame forces us to lay the blame squarely on ourselves, it has to be someone's fault so it's mine. In this way since you believe in the past you could not avoid pain you lose confidence [because confidence is.....] until you learn to place the blame where it belongs [and it's never you. You know I'm not the touchy Feely type of blogger so I'm not sugaring you up rn. It's your responsibility yes, but never your fault.take it from a psych minor] the part of you that blames you will always get in the way and no your mom telling you it wasn't your fault is a great quick fix but when you are in the shower alone you know it'll creep up on you. Get you a trauma doc aka therapist. And we are ALL traumatized which means we have ALL been in a position where we couldn't avoid pain don't act like this doesn't apply to you.

5. Build a skill set

Kobe Bryant saying his confidence comes from knowing he did his best is all you need to hear. Most of confidence is built on competence, this is the part people hate. That Roman Reigns confidence comes from knowing he is the best, he's proven it over and over again. Listen love confidence does not exist in a void. You don't curl up in your bed and be confident you need something to be confident about you need something to be confident about you need something to be confident about you need something to be confident about you need- . When ladies ask me "how do I become confident" my first thought is, about what? You want to be confident about what exactly? About your social skills? That everyone will like you?? YOU ARE A SHY INTROVERT how will thar happen? In your grades? WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU STUDIED? In your talents? HOW MANY PEOPLE KNOW ABOUT THEM? DO YOU PRACTISE?? what do you want to be confident about? Confidence, love, DOES NOT EXIST IN A VOID. The more skills you amass the more confident you are in yourself. The more competent you are the more confident you are.

Athletes are confident because they know they have trained. So are models and professionals &c &c. They are confident because they are COMPETENT which is because they put in the work.

Lazy girls don't win.

6. Positive focus

Now yall know I hate this little phrase here but but but you can not overlook the positive and expect confidence. If all you ever think is "I'm fat I'm broke no one likes me I'm a failure wuh wuh" what do you expect. Confidence doesn't exist in a void you must give it a threshold to operate on.

In his book [Mastery] Robert Greene (cementing his reign as the greatest Philosopher of the 21st century) states that all you need is one thing you are good at. A focus on it will make you a master. You don't need to have 588689 talents and straight As in all your classes and be liked by everyone and have 6777 minors no. That one thing. That thing that lights you up. That you never run out of ideas on. That you can work on for hours? Focus on that. That one friend that's always there. How you just love the shape of your eyebrows. How you are obsessed with your singing voice. How you just like how your table arrangement looks. How you like your meals. You need one thing. Just one. Focus on that. One thing you like. Repeat it to yourself everyday. I like my hair it's so glossy. I love science I'm great at it. I love my mom. Just one.

7. Affirmations

Another little thing I loath but science is science and science says the adult brain is programmed by repetition. That's the most I'll say because I loath this littol ting sm and I'm petty.

8. Looks.

On today's episode of things this girl REFUSES to explain how looking your version of the best boosts your confidence makes the list. The girls that get it get it the girls that don't, what's wrong with yuuuu

-,-

9. Boundaries

This girl has two different blog posts on those. This girl wants you to go read both, again.

10. Honesty & authenticity

If there is one thing that will miraculously boost your confidence it's these two. What makes point [1] so important is that it allows authenticity. I don't know how to articulate this without sounding like the psychology geek that I am but the highest level of confidence is being so comfortable with yourself that you don't need to hide. Compulsive lying is a marker of a people pleaser based on the belief [I am not good enough as I am] which is complete utter bullshit Self worth exists in a void its completely inown from the second you are conceived you are worthy. The marker of a confident person is being so at home and secure in yourself that you feel no need to hide. And I do not mean apathy, I mean being so at home with yourself that you do not feel the need to hide. This is me. Top tier mentality.

11. Kill thy ego

Just kidding hehe. Actually no I'm not. I don't think it's entirely possible to kill your ego (or even healthy) but I know it is the source of all your shame and rage and embarrassment and guilt. Your ego is ze enemy [its not actually its a friend but for the purpose of this point let's act like it is]. You need to take yourself off every single pedestal you're on. That [I'm a God] mentality will ruin your confidence because every time someone says or does something you disagree with its a 6979997 word reblog, 168 tiktoks commenting on it, a reddit thread and its just- get back down to earth. You're not God. Your perspective of life is not divine and holy and your philosophy and belief system is not the law. When someone does not agree with you let it slide. That's their perspective. Based on the life they've lived, their culture, their trauma, their beliefs, you're wrong. And that's okay. Don't let your ego keep you up writing 69789988 words in retaliation killing your confidence because you're getting hurt by the fact that someone that grew up in a different home, culture, religion & c has a different view. Did you expect we are all little yous? The ego is the sole origin of pain.

Confidence is security that we can AVOID PAIN and gain pleasure. You get??

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hotties habits⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍰💕

this is a post about habits that i've adopted that u can also adopt to elevate ur mind, body, confidence and spirit…💬🎀

SERVE COMPLIMENTS ;

start getting comfortable with complimenting yourself often, so much so to the point where compliments from others isn’t that big of a deal because YOU compliment u so much. this builds self esteem and self image. knowing that u don’t have to rely on the compliments of others only means that ur more confident.

and not only giving urself compliments but also complimenting others is an amazing way to boost self esteem and confidence while doing the same for someone else.

CULTIVATE CREATIVITY ;

something that has helped to elevate not only my mind but my femininity has been cultivating my creativity. i started to do this through my blog and through my pinterest account.

like thinking of new content to make and learning how i express myself has been so amazing for not only my confidence but for my creativity and i feel so much more feminine when im creating. starting my blog has helped me with self expression, helped me to learn new things and meet new people, and ultimately share and document my growth etc.

STAYING IN MY GIRLY BUBBLE ;

i dont like to over consume media and especially media that gives of negative energy or just toxicity. such as those balloon popping romance videos like im NOT with that. being more careful and conscious of what i choose to consume has helped my health so i just usually stay on my pinterest and a few other social media apps but just, keep urself protected and be careful of what u watch.

WEARING LOTS OF PINK ;

lastly, this is totally personal and its simply because its my favorite color and i look SO pretty in it. its just such a feminine color and its the best color (i dont make the rules). but in all seriousness having a specific element about my fashion that im consistent with is helpful for lots of reasons.

for example 99% of the things that i own are pink including my school supplies. i go to a school where we wear uniforms but i always make sure to accessories and highlight PINK. therefore everyone associates me with the color pink and things that are girly.

you can take this and do whatever u want with it. it doesnt have to be a color, it can be a specific style of dress or something that u like to wear often just have something distinct about you thats your SIGNATURE.

how im preparing for 2025⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍬💕

MY MANIFESTING LIST ;

every year i always make a list of the things that i wanna manifest in 2025, i dont always complete it in the first sitting bcuz i add onto it as the year progresses but i like to have a basic framework of everything that im manifesting in that year.

also along with my manifest list for 2025, i also create a 2025 vision board because it motivates me and reminds me of all the amazing things that im going to experience in 2025.

REFLECTING ON THIS YEAR ;

so in my notion i have a section called the 'monthly digest' where every single month i break down the 4 weeks of the month and everything that i did in them in relation to my goals. after every month i write a little summary.

so with that being said i have a LOT to go back to and reflect on so that i can see what i accomplished this year and what i can do better in the next year. this reflection system that i have is so helpful so i'll set one up for 2025 so that i can also have that at my disposal.

BREAKING UP THE NEXT YEAR ;

i break up my year into 4 quarters (each lasting 3 months) that way i can see my year broken up and i have a clear plan and i can be organized. quarter one (january - march) quarter two (april - june) so on and so forth. and after every quarter i do a little analysis.

something else that i wanna try for next year is giving myself quarterly themes. like for each quarter of the year i'll focus on a different aspect of myself, i think that could be fun…💬🎀

PREPARATIONS ;

im wrapping up some things like my projects, assignments and things of that nature so that i can go into the next year on a clean slate. furthermore im making plans for new years eve, and january and making sure that i've already set some things in motion.

all in all, with everything in motion and everything set in place im going into the new year INCREDIBLY confident 💕📔

building the life that you deserve

building the life you deserve is a journey that involves self-reflection, goal-setting, and consistent effort. here are some steps to help you get started:

decide what you want: identify what you want to change about your life and how you envision your ideal life. this clarity can help you focus on your goals.

envision your ideal life: this step is all about creating a clear and vivid picture of the life you want to live. when you start to envision your life as you want it to be, it helps to guide your actions and decisions towards making that vision a reality.

set goals: break down your vision into achievable goals. this makes the process less overwhelming and more manageable.

take action: start making changes, even if they are small. consistent effort over time leads to significant progress.

prioritize relationships: building and maintaining strong relationships is essential for a fulfilling life.

simplify your life: remove unnecessary possessions and distractions. this can help you focus on what truly matters.

believe in yourself: trust in your abilities and strengths. confidence is key to overcoming challenges and achieving your goals.

remember, it’s your journey, and you have the power to change it.