Things You Gotta Try Sometime:

Baby boys with a praise kink are so adorable! You can literally see the sparkle in their eyes when you tell them that they are a good boy.

They get so squirmy and excited, covering their faces with their hands and getting all flustered while whispering thank you mommy.

Oh, and by the way, if you call them such good boy, they might start grinding on your thighs, so be aware of that.

And if they are super shy and in a super good mood and you call them my good baby boy and get a little possessive over them and shower them with attention, you might end up with a moaning mess underneath you.

Aw, is your cute little dick getting hard from having my fingers in your pretty asshole? You keep pushing against my hand like you want more, hm? You get so hard when I fingerfuck you, and when I tease you, but you can hold out a little longer, can’t you? Yeah, you’re my good boy and you can hold it for a little longer, even when I press on this part inside you—oh look at how wet you’re getting baby boy, you’re so wet for me.

but but but what if you got me really high and groped my tits because they’re so big they won’t stay in my small top. what if you realized that my nipples being pinched and pulled makes my brain break. what if you fucked my face just to see me drooling with my eyes glazed over bc my whimpering was so cute and i just can’t think at all with how gone i am so you slap me a few times for me to whine at you to keep ruining me.

DOMS NEED AFTERCARE TOO!!!

Tell them they did good

Remind them they didn’t hurt you and that you are mentally ok

If they did hurt you tell them how much you enjoyed it

Tell them you felt safe in your scene

Make sure they hydrate and refuel with a little snack if they need it

Thank them for fulfilling your desires

Cuddle them, pet them, hold them

If either of you safeworded discuss why you did so and how to prevent it from progressing that far in the future

Relax! Watch a movie play some video games together! Don’t just leave or ask them to leave afterwards…doms are not just sentient sex toys

wanna be hanging out with a friend and a group of people i barely know when my friend starts touching me in front of them. maybe they start innocently enough, a hand on my back or an arm around my shoulder. then, when i don’t move to stop them, they start getting more bold. squeezing my thighs, groping my chest, kissing and biting my neck.

i want them to start undressing me while everyone watches and talks about me like i’m not there. i want them to tie me down to the table and start playing with my cunny until it’s soaking wet. maybe they make me cum a few times until i’m nice and pliant before they invite everyone to play with me. i want them to shove objects and toys in my holes, clamp my nipples with clothespins. all the while, everyone is talking to each other and ignoring me.

i want to be treated like a toy. i want to be nothing more than entertainment for them. something to play with, to bond over, to fuck. leave me like that for hours, so people can stuff me full. bottles, baseball bats, food, dildos, cocks, fingers. whatever is available to use on me. candles, ice cubes, massagers, balls, kitchen utensils.

i want to be a broken braindead slut by the end of the night.

All I want is to pull a pretty boy into my lap, wrap my arms around him while I slide my hand down and make him melt against me. Just hold him close, kiss his neck, whisper in his ear how good he’s doing, how I’m gonna ruin him until he’s panting and moaning like he’s mine.

I want to feel him throb under my touch, feel his breath hitch as he starts to break—his head resting on my shoulder, thighs shaking, brain already fogging up from the way I stroke him like he’s nothing more than my dumb little plaything. That’s what you want, isn’t it? To be held tight, talked down to, turned into a needy, drooling mess right in my arms?

Let me spoil you, baby. Let me wreck you—nice and slow—until you're so far gone you forget your own name, until the only thing left in your head is how badly you need to cum for me.

Because that’s all I want—just to hold you close and make you absolutely lose it for me.

15 Points of a BDSM relationship!

1) Communicate- The importance of this can never be stressed enough. If you are a Dom, make sure your requirements and demands are clearly expressed. If you are sub, make sure you talk about what you need and want out of the relationship. Talk about issues that arise, joys and pleasure that you both experience, things that are going really well, and areas that need to be adjusted. 

2) Go Slow- When you are starting a new relationship, or trying a new aspect of a BDSM relationship, take things slow. Nothing good comes from rushing into anything. 

3) “A” sub, not “Your” sub- Just because someone is a sub, doesn’t mean they want to be YOUR sub. Calling yourself a Dom doesn’t give you the right to call subs names, or act dominate towards someone who has never given you their submission. Treat people with respect at all times. 

4) The BDSM Buffet- It’s ok to take different aspects of different BDSM dynamics and create something that is unique and works for you. Every relationship is different. If you want to be in a DD/lg relationship with pieces of pet play and a bit of Master/slave dynamic, then go ahead! Find what works for you. Experiment.

5) Don’t EVER kink shame- It’s ok to not like every kink. It’s ok to be confused as to why someone would enjoy a certain activity or dynamic. But it is NEVER ok to shame someone for what they like to do (so long as what they like to do is legal, consensual, and safe).

6) No two relationships are the same- You don’t have to try to be like every other relationship. If your rules are super strict, or really relaxed, that’s fine. If you live a 24/7 relationship, or only play once a month, that’s ok! If it works for you, and makes everyone involved happy, then that’s all that matters. Don’t compare your relationship to others, and don’t make other people feel bad for not doing things the same way that you do.

7) Aftercare is ESSENTIAL- After any scene it is vital for the Dom to look after the sub. Encourage them, tell them they are beautiful, hug, cuddle, massage, kiss, sing a lullaby…whatever the sub needs (as everyone is different). If the sub is crying, make sure they are consoled. If part of the scene requires humiliation or intense physical/mental exertion, then make sure you re-assure them and give them a chance to rest. Most importantly, make sure they know that you love them, care for them, and want only whats best for them! 

8) Keep going over/adjusting the rules- This goes along with the earlier communication point. Don’t be afraid to adjust the rules to meet current needs. As people grow, things change. A rule that once made sense, may no longer be required, or perhaps something that was once strict needs to become more lenient (or vice versa). This should be something that both Dom AND sub talk about, and all rule changes should be mutually agreed upon.

9) Try to switch- This isn’t a requirement, but it is a suggestion. It’s hard for a Dom to fully appreciate how beautiful and difficult submission is if they have never experienced it. Likewise, a sub who has never been dominant may not understand how hard it can be to constantly be in control. Try switching (even if it is just for a half hour play session). It gives both parties experience, and everyone will learn something! 

10) Stay Safe- This seems obvious, but it should always be said. If you don’t feel comfortable in a relationship/situation….LEAVE. If you need something to stop, use the safe word! It’s the subs responsibility to make sure they are communicating with the Dom (especially if things are starting to get uncomfortable), and it is the Dom’s HUGE responsibility to make sure they are respecting all limits, and respond to safewords. 

11) Explain punishments- Never punish for the sake of punishing. Don’t just create arbitrary rules just so you can punish the sub. If you are going to punish, make sure the sub knows exactly WHY they are being punished.

12) Submission is a gift- Never take the subs submission for granted. It’s a beautiful gift that needs to be respected at all times!

13) Make sure you give rewards- Don’t just be the Dom that only ever hands out punishments. Give your sub praise for a job well done, and make sure that you give them rewards as often as you can!

14) Don’t make a habit out of acting up just so you can get punished- I’m not saying to never do it…sometimes it can be a fun little game to play. However, if you (the sub) wants to get spanked or punished, it’s ok to just ASK for it! Trust me, very few Doms will turn down the opportunity to spank their sub.

15) Have Fun! BDSM should be fun. Enjoy it! Don’t take the relationship so seriously that you don’t ever enjoy yourself. Yes…a BDSM relationship is a big deal and a lot of work…but if it’s not enjoyable then whats the point? If you can’t laugh and smile with one another, play games (that aren’t always sexual), or just enjoy each others company, then you are either doing something wrong, or you are in the wrong relationship.

This is by no means a complete list. What other things should be added to the list?

smart well dressed pretty boys who become all undone while getting fucked babbling nonsense about how good they feel

obsessed with that face tops make when they accidentally discover a weak spot of yours or a kink of yours through something they did. that little surprised face and then the WICKED grin and then they say some shit like “oh? so you like this? yeah?” and then they do it again??? it gets to me every time on god

why can’t a subby boy be making me a sandwich with nothing but an apron on rn ?? i wanna grope him while he’s making it 😕💔