How To Respond When Your Emotions Are Invalidated ✨
Keep Your Cool: Before you respond, make sure you're feeling calm and collected. It helps you talk things out better.
Use "I" Statements: Share your feelings using phrases that start with "I" to avoid sounding like you're blaming them. Example: "I felt hurt when you said that my feelings don't matter."
Explain the Situation: Tell them what exactly happened or what they said that made you feel invalidated. Example: "When you brushed off my concerns, it felt like you didn't care about what I think."
Share Your Emotions: Describe how their actions or words made you feel. Example: "It left me feeling frustrated and like you weren't listening."
Ask for Understanding: Request that they try to see things from your perspective and acknowledge how you're feeling. Example: "Could you try to understand where I'm coming from and why I'm upset?"
Set Boundaries: If needed, let them know how you want to be treated in the future. Example: "Moving forward, I'd appreciate it if you could take my feelings more seriously."
Stay Calm: Avoid making things worse by staying focused on the issue and not getting into a heated argument. Example: "I don't want to fight; I just want you to understand how your comments affect me."
Encourage a Conversation: Ask them to talk openly and respectfully. Be open to hearing their side as well. Example: "Let's chat about this and try to understand each other better."
Be Patient: Give them time to process what you've said and don't expect an instant change in their behavior. Example: "I know it might take time to make things better, but I hope we can work on this together."
reminder that the US government was perfectly willing to ignore the actions of the nazis until imperial japan directly attacked one of its military bases. before that, all of the warning signs of genocide were ignored and war in Europe, Oceania, and East Asia were all treated like something that wasn't their problem, and refugees from fascist states were routinely turned away at our borders. the main reason they helped stop the holocaust was because nazi germany was an ally of imperial japan.
our government has always been this way. unless isreal directly attacks the US military or US government, it is unlikely that they will do anything to stop this genocide and will keep aiding in it against the wishes of their people. because to the US, war crimes are only war crimes when our enemies do them, and the same goes for genocide.
if UN is worth anything, they will call for the leaders of isreal and the leaders of all countries aiding them to be brought before the Hague. as far as i am concerned, the US, UK, and isreal are part of a new axis of evil that goes unimpeded by an organization that should have prevented this from ever happening again and that has ignored/failed to stop countless genocides and war crimes.
our government is run by ghouls who do not represent us in an oligarchical government that calls itself democratic. they need to be stopped.
Source: The Safe Sea Of Women; Lesbian Fiction 1969 ~ 1989 - By Bonnie Zimmerman
This Passage: Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde
"We cannot live without our lives" || Combahee River Collective members march in a memorial to 11 women of color murdered in the Boston area (1979). Photograph by Tia Cross via Verso
As an autistic person, my life got significantly better when I started scheduling days of rest and no expectation…
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A friend once told me that when they are struggling with getting laundry done, she pretends it is her sworn duty to smuggle the young prince out of the castle to safety, disguised in a laundry hamper.
Now, when I am struggling with hygiene, I pretend I am part of a village with an annual festival, and I get one day a year to spend luxuriously at a bathhouse in preparation.
What my friend imparted on me was the skill of turning mundane tasks into fantastical adventures to make them more compelling and bearable.
So next time you need to go on a mental health walk, maybe consider doing reconnaissance for a secret underground organisation.
Next time cooking is too much of a chore, consider you ability to turn space station rations into a feast to the delight of your crewmates.
A Litany for Survival: the Life and Work of Audre Lorde (1995)
A Palestinian owned burger restaurant called Burgertory in Melbourne, Australia was recently burnt down to the ground by zionists.
The restaurant owners are looking to raise $300,000 and they only have 203 donations, do not let zionists get away with this, here is their donation page so please give them a hand!
https://www.gofundme.com/f/rebuild-burgertory-caufield
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