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A sensual dominant doesn't have to try to own you, he makes you want to give all of you to him, inch by acquiescent inch.

He will make you respect him+then lead your mind+body into a place where he can sink into the full depth of your velveteen darkness.

He will tend to all your needs one by one+

wrap himself around each of your senses until you shudder to his sexy words, taste+smell like him, look deep into his eyes+need to touch every inch of him.

He says 'good girl' every time you do something he likes, to reinforce the behaviour he wants you to repeat.

He shows you how to please him+then rewards you naturally, through giving you pleasure, edging you+making you ache.

It's more than just a word, a dominant man will make you surrender to him willingly, starting with your mind until every part of you assents.

When he's above you, he will make you tremble as he focuses on your eyes+will slow the movement to watch your every reaction.

He's learning you. Reading you. Finding what will make every part of you quiver under his control.

He will own you with his mouth+the feverish way he kisses and claims you, pinning you still until your focus is purely on his tongue.

He is always in control+you can sense that in everything he does to you+in the words he chooses.

He will alternate between love making+fucking, until you feel your whole body yield, trusting him in every way.

He will flip between sensual+soft, to those truly sexy moments of possession where he wraps your hair around his fist+guides your attention.

He will hold you tight in ways that make you feel so secure in his arms you have no choice but to wrap your legs+soul around him.

He waits to climax so he can be thorough in pleasuring you, intensifying both your gratification simultaneously.

He feels special because of the way you become his, while he focuses so intently on you.

He IS special because of the way he looks after you+makes you feel so wanted.

A gentleman in life+a wolf in the bedroom will leave you whimpering for more in every imaginable way.

Two halves of the same need+you just know that you've fused differently, as you naturally tend to+complete each others needs.

There's no need to conceal your desires because you can be the real you+every needy beautiful fucking nuance of you is understood.

A sensual dominant knows exactly how to steal your soul but what he really craves, is for you to trust him enough to give it to him willingly...

~AVA M. ROSE

Fundamentals of being a (proper) Dominant

Being dominant is an art form not many fully comprehend, and being dominant over someone takes a lot of responsibility. First and most important is to build trust with your partner. They need to feel absolutely safe in your presence, and you always need to get their consent. No matter the relationship dynamic, you always need to get consent. Trust may take time to build, and you need to be patient with your partner to make sure it is properly established. Second of all, you can't just demand submission. You need to inspire it. You can start being assertive and physically/verbally dominant only if you have proven yourself to be responsible and a safe place for your partner. If you have to ask someone to call you their dom, daddy, etc. you have failed. Third important step. Do your research. Do your research on your partner's kinks, preferences and limits. Do your research on how you can provide them with the pleasure they need and how to keep them safe while doing it. That applies to physical/verbal punishments and/or acts, and to objects and toys you might be using. Real life is not scripted. Your favorite porn movie does not resemble it. Make sure you know what you are doing and are always 100% in control of the situation. Now, some inviolable rules for you and your sub. No matter the trust you've built or how well you think you know your partner's limits , always use a safe word or a signal. If you don't, you are a dangerous person, period. Another inviolable rule is aftercare. You must always plan ahead and know what you can do for your partner's well-being. And you must always provide it, no matter how tired you are or soft you think it makes you look. Physical and verbal aftercare is a rule. And of course, you, the dominant, need aftercare too. No, it doesn't make you look weak. You need it to feel human and there's nothing wrong with that, and it does not change the dynamic you have with your sub.

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