oh my god that sooooo amazing!!!!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!! im so happy for you and thank you for building up that courage and coming out to your mum!! <33
Sooo errr....I have news, and I kinda want to share it because its such a big deal to me and tbh I'm like 99% sure this is a dream ! Zhshdhdh
I finally built up the courage to come out as lesbian to my mother, and, she supports me ! She literally could not have handled it any better than she did and I am so so happy !
It feels so good to just not have to hide it from her anymore, and honestly I just feel so free !
And with all that said, if you're someone who's struggling with any of this stuff, I hope you're okay and that it gets better for you ! My messages are always open if you ever need to talk !
idk how this happened but somehow spotify went from ziggy stardust to love story just when james started saying his vowsss!!!!
Autumn and Lily, James Potter's Two dearest Sights..
His Two absolute and favourite things.
He still can't believe it. His Lily, his love, was finally going to be his, they were finally Going to be 'Jily' (what Sirius likes to call them) officially!
No boundaries, No regulations. It was just going to be him and his Wife.
"You may now speak your vows" The Pastor's words shook him out of his thoughts.
James cleared his already dry throat and glance at his best man; his brother, Sirius Black. Who was grinning like an Idiot for his best friends happiness and 'doom' as he likes to call it.
He rotate his gaze to the crowd where his Friends , Remus and Peter were looking at him, admiration and love in their eyes for their mate, on a little left were his parents , Euphomia and Fleamont Potter.
Her mother was sobbing while his father was holding her..On the verge of tears himself.
From the corner of his eyes, he can see his Mini ..the Strictest Professor with teary eyes and a smile on his wedding..Woah, that's a sight to remember, he thought.
Lily's father was a crying mess too..her mother consoling him..well, someone's emotional for his daughter..
Their close friends, Professor Dumbledore, The order and..Lily.
What else can he ask for? He's blessed, blessed with everything.
He now,turned and saw his world, his would- -be-wife smiling at him.
And that's when he forgot to breathe..With her green eyes..his white lace dress, her veil and that smile worth dying, he was unable to hold back his tears.
This was finally going to be happen..all those years of wait, of redemption, of patience, of Love.
She was finally going to be his..
His lily flower was going to be his.
"Mr. Potter, the vows" the pastor repeated..and he Again shook his trance..With another glance at his bride and his best mate he started pouring his heart.
"I, James Potter, Promise to cherish her wife in sickness and in health, whether I'm poor or On the top of this world I promise to be hers, and hers only... I'll stand back on her achievements, beside on her kindness, and on her front to support her..
I'll be the first one to hold her tears and the one to make her laugh.. ( Sirius: Oi prongs that's my job!!) My glared was enough to shut him.
I belong to and for Lily, always and forever."
Applauses and Hooting can be heard from the small crowd..
Lily was shedding happy tears, and I? I was as promised, the one to stop them from falling.
She took a hold of my hand and I kissed her's instead.
"Ms. Evans, your vows please" The pastor requested.
She looked at her parents and then me, she smiled before proceeding.
"I lily evans, vows to Be everything James will ever need , whether to take care of him like a mother, or joke with him like a friend, to guide him like a father or to challenge him like a rival ..I promise to fullfill everything and to become his and his for eternity..and be The one James Potter improved for.. I promise to be always be his lily flower.
I take James as my Man, for always and forever "
The applauses and Hootingwere louder this time..oh deer.. is lily stealing my thunder ? A thought crossed his agile mind, but he brushed it away. It was his wedding afterall.
The time passed so fast but he can remember every single thing. His flower and him.
summary of act 1
i want to talk about this while there isn't a current upsurge in the discourse
Lily Evans Potter is introduced to us as Lily Potter, the dead mother of Harry Potter. Lily and James potter, dead, leaving their poor, miraculous son to live with the dull, horrible Durselys. We only ever see her through, with the exception of her sister, the memory of men.
I've said before that I believe James and Lily are the ideal masculine and ideal feminine, both to Harry and in a metatextual way. parents are our introduction into gender roles, the "correct" way to be a man and woman. since Lily is dead she cannot disappoint Harry. she can be imagined as the perfect woman, which is, of course, a wife and mother. the dream girl!
Lily's death makes her a silent, ever-loving, beautiful young mother, for both Harry and the reader. James is slightly deconstructed in SWM, but Lily is not. She is a fierce protector, brave, clever, and only emotional (angry) once James, her future husband, provokes her enough.
in the text Lily is not truly presented as flawed in a meaningful way. the moral choices she makes: to build a relationship with Severus, to defend Severus, to break their relationship when he refuses to reject bigotry, to join the Order, to die for her child, are all the correct moral choices. these are the choices the narrative is telling us to respect.
women have, for the past 200 years or so, been conceived of as the moral center of the family.* Lily Evans Potter is the moral center of the series. her choice to die is mirrored by the main character, Harry, and sparks the beginning of victory. Harry's sacrifice is enabled by another mother, Narcissa, making the correct moral choice because the power of her maternal love urges her to this choice. finally, Voldemort's most powerful follower, Bellatrix, is killed by a housewife and mother, Molly, in a maternal rage at the idea of her daughter being murdered.
Lily's sacrifice and the emotions behind it are mirrored multiple times in the final battle because it and she are the moral center of the series.
that Harry is frequently told he has his mother's eyes, and that Dumbledore points out how his essential nature mirrors his mother's, further highlights Lily's character and her choices as implicitly good.
women, especially mothers, as our moral authorities, is an unconscious cultural belief we can see play out in the fandom and subfandoms that Lily is discussed in. we can all recall the characterization of Lily as the goody-two shoes that James has to change for, the characterization of Lily as "not like other girls", the BAMF characterization, the current near mommy dom to James characterization.
the characterization of Lily changes with our view of the best kind of woman. but she is, always, demonstrating a most "correct" way to be. maybe it's 2007 and she's telling James off—not fun, but right. or it's 2012 and she's not preoccupied with boys like her classmates. or it's 2019 and she always knows the right thing to say to Remus when he's down on himself. or it's 2025 and James is trailing after her like a puppy while she contemplates what size strap to use on him after she beats up a bigot.
We don't see a lot of moderate views on Lily. Above, I've discussed how Lily lovers tend to portray her. Lily haters, a smaller group from what I can tell, do not utilize these common fanon characterizations. They disparage her as an immoral, selfish, bad woman. The wholesale rejection of Lily as the moral center based on her perceived immorality is the other side of the coin.
I'll refer to people with this perspective as "Lily haters" though I am aware there are people who dislike her outside of the topics I'm discussing.
I rarely engage with Lily haters, though I am aware of their arguments that Lily was a bad friend to Severus, a social climber, a gold digger, or boring. All grave sins for the woman who's supposed to save everyone.
This perspective doesn't reject Lily as the moral center or the perfect woman, it is an argument that she's not fulfilling her role correctly. Her unwillingness to give Severus more chances is selfish, stuck-up, classist. Her desire for James is an further betrayal of Severus.
She's supposed to be the Madonna, why is she being a whore?
I believe Lily hate comes from a belief she failed at being the perfect woman/mother, and therefore she is worthless. A bitch. Weak willed. Oversexed. even by haters her role as the moral center is not questioned.
in both the og text and in the fandom supertext Lily is the moral center because of her role as mother. her status as the moral center is inextricably tied to her motherhood. since Lily being a mother is the point of her character, divorcing her from her motherhood often changes the foundation of her character.**
when her literal motherhood is removed from a depiction of her character, her metaphorical status as the perfect woman/mother is often still intact. this is seen in the characterizations I described earlier, and, I argue, in the belief that she's too good for James when it is used as a "justification" for shipping James with someone else.*** thereby, she is further purified, not even having been touched by a man. she's put on a pedestal, where she can't be touched, and is rarely noticed.
it is also frequently seen when she is written as a side character in a relationship with James, and the pair become the dual moral guides for the main couple.
this reflects James and Lily as the ideal masculine and feminine, as they are a perfectly harmonious couple when a side pairing. their implicit canonical roles are subconsciously reflected in fanon with little critique or commentary on the canon text.
Lily's entire character is crafted to be The Perfect Mother™️. whether she is literally a mother in her fanon depiction or not, she is still The Perfect Woman™️—and is still affected by the biases our culture has towards women and mothers.
thus, Lily is the dream girl in the text, the moral center only seen through a nostalgic veil, and a dream girl in fan spaces, as the moral guide for the men in her life who pegs her husband or is too pure for the touch of a man.
for more on gender in the wizarding world, based on gender in early modern england (pre the cult of domesticity) see this post
*see the cult of domesticity if you'd rather not read the article
**please like fucking do not fucking act like I'm saying you cannot do this. I swear to fucking god
***you don't need to justify your ships
i agree, Sirius did suffer - A LOT, but then again Remus did too even tho he had Grant to depend on. Grant was his rock, but Sirius was the love of his life and i clearly remember that his last words were something along the lines of - 'it would be the same, even if you weren't here'
So, my point is, both of 'em suffered, in very different ways but they did suffer - A LOT!
It’s funny how everyone talks about “oh poor Remus, he must have felt so hurt when he found out that Sirius thought he was the traitor” but no one ever talks about the fact that Remus also thought Sirius was the traitor? And out of the both of them, Sirius was the one that suffered for it. Actually, it’s not funny. I don’t know why I said that.
I just remembered my second Pride, where I made different flag themed daisy chain bracelets/necklaces to hand out. I need folks to understand something:
They were free.
They were fucking free.
They were maybe ¢60 of acrylic yarn each at the most, and the whole ziploc bag of them took 2 hours max.
Three people gave me sad eyes until I took their money.
Someone who was clearly the mom friend of their group made me take a $5 and gave a 10 minute pep talk.
At least four more people insisted on getting change to pay for the, once again, free bracelets.
In spite of all these shenanigans, the absolute best was this one person who I can only describe as, “queer surfer dude who looks like a boyfriend who looks like a girlfriend.” I can remember nothing of the outfit, only the impeccable vibes. I did the same thing I did with everyone else, explaining the bracelets were free, and they nodded along as they took the last 6 strand rainbow bracelet. As soon as they had it on their wrist, they pointed at something over my shoulder and, like a fool, I looked.
Next thing I know, they’re running off cackling, yelling, “YOU’LL NEVER CATCH ME!” and I’m holding a fucking $20. I had to stop at least two people from chasing them, cause they thought the person stole something, and then they tried to give me money cause they thought it was funny seeing me flail over people being Too Nice.
That was the year I got reverse-robbed at Pride. I hope everyone out there is having a good time and, in particular, that queer surfer dude is out there still causing benevolent chaos.
my blog is just a reblog of all the other blogs :))
If you're looking for some great must read mlm books, this is the list for you!
Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli
Social Skills by Sara Alva
Silent by Sara Alva
One Man Guy by Michael Barakiva
Hold My Hand by Michael Barakiva
Wonders of the Invisible World by Christopher Barzak
Alan Cole Is Not a Coward by Eric Bell
Alan Cole Doesn’t Dance by Eric Bell
Queeroes by Steven Bereznai
The Darkest Part of the Forest by Holly Black
Ziggy, Stardust and Me by James Brandon
In Other Lands by Sarah Rees Brennan
Felix Yz by Lisa Bunker
Exit Plans for Teenage Freaks by Nathan Burgoine
Last Bus to Everland by Sophie Cameron
The House of Impossible Beauties by Joseph Cassara
Peter Darling by Austin Chant
Gives Light by Rose Christo
Stranger Than Fanfiction by Chris Colfer
Carry the Ocean by Heidi Cullinan
The Love Interest by Cale Dietrich
There Goes Sunday School by Alexander C. Eberhart
Lock & West by Alexander C. Eberhart
The Screwed Up Life of Charlie the Second by Drew Ferguson
Love & Other Curses by Michael Thomas Ford
Only Mostly Devastated by Sophie Gonzales
Tales from Foster High by John Goode
How Not to Ask a Boy to Prom by S.J. Goslee
Whatever.: or how junior year became totally f$@ked by S.J. Goslee
Will Grayson, Will Grayson by John Green & David Levithan
Half Bad by Sally Green
Half Wild by Sally Green
Half Lost by Sally Green
Heartbreak Boys by Simon James Green
Geography Club by Brent Hartinger
We Contain Multitudes by Sarah Henstra
Middle School’s a Drag, You Better Werk by Greg Howard
Social Intercourse by Greg Howard
Totally Joe by James Howe
After School Activities by Dirk Hunter
At the Edge of the Universe by Shaun David Hutchinson
The Past and Other Things That Should Stay Buried by Shaun David Hutchinson
We Are the Ants by Shaun David Hutchinson
The Five Stages of Andrew Brawley by Shaun David Hutchinson
A Complicated Love Story Set in Space by Shaun David Hutchinson
The Boy Who Couldn’t Fly Straight by Jeff Jacobson
Haffling by Caleb James
The Red Sheet by Mia Kerick
The Lightning-Struck Heart by T.J. Klune
A Destiny of Dragons by T.J. Klune
The Consumption of Magic by T.J. Klune
A Wish Upon the Stars by T.J. Klune
The Extraordinaries by T.J. Klune
Flash Fire by T.J. Klune
Openly Straight by Bill Konigsberg
The Bridge by Bill Konigsberg
Autoboyography by Christina Lauren
The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue by Mackenzi Lee
Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan
Every Day by David Levithan
Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan
How to Repair a Mechanical Heart by J.C. Lillis
When Ryan Came Back by Devon McCormack
Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston
Vivaldi in the Dark by Matthew J. Metzger
Life as a Teenage Vampire by Amanda Meuwissen
The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller
The Art of Starving by Sam J. Miller
Hero by Perry Moore
Marco Impossible by Hannah Moskowitz
Like a Love Story by Abdi Nazemian
I’ll Give You the Sun by Jandy Nelson
More Than This by Patrick Ness
Earth to Charlie by Justin Olson
Play Me, I’m Yours by Madison Parker
Here’s to You, Zeb Pike by Johanna Parkhurst
Junior Hero Blues by J.K. Pendragon
When Everything Feels Like the Movies by Raziel Reid
Jack of Hearts by Lev A.C. Rosen
Camp by Lev A.C. Rosen
Carry On by Rainbow Rowell
Wayward Son by Rainbow Rowell
My Awesome/Awful Popularity Plan by Seth Rudetsky
Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz
Rainbow Boys by Alex Sanchez
Rainbow High by Alex Sanchez
Rainbow Road by Alex Sanchez
So Hard to Say by Alex Sanchez
The Darkness Outside Us by Eliot Schrefer
All Kinds of Other by James Sie
They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera
History Is All You Left Me by Adam Silvera
More Happy Than Not by Adam Silvera
Grasshopper Jungle by Andrew Smith
Freak Show by James St. James
Ray of Sunlight by Brynn Stein
Imaginary by Jamie Sullivan
(In)visible by Anyta Sunday
The Dangerous Art of Blending In by Angelo Surmelis
366 Days by Kiyoshi Tanaka
Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas
Wild and Crooked by Leah Thomas
Because You’ll Never Meet Me by Leah Thomas
Fan Art by Sarah Tregay
Suicide Watch by Kelley York
Thanks to my friend @lostintrace for the art, each are characters from books on this list. If you want help picking out a book, hit my inbox!
Header: Red, White & Royal Blue (L) and Carry On (R)
Red: Jack of Hearts (and other parts)
Orange: Alan Cole Is Not a Coward
Yellow: Heartbreak Boys
Green: The Lightning-Struck Heart
Blue: Boy Meets Boy
Purple: Cemetery Boys
Ficmas became my entire personality, here is all the things in one convenient area, in case you missed one or in case you want to re-read again
all is calm, all is bright- post-full moon christmas's arent so bad.
sweaty hands, full heart, can't lose- sirius meets the lupins.
its a wonderful life -sirius/remus watching Christmas movies. raising harry au
the best present - sirius learns to knit. wolfstar/raising harry au
a letter to you - remus gives sirius a gift. wolfstar @ hogwarts
grandmas cookies - on grief, love, and baking. wolfstar/raising harry au
traditions - lily and sirius have a christmas tradition of their own. (lilypad friendship fic)
do you not want to kiss me (pt 1) - jily, under the mistletoe
do you not want to kiss me (pt 2)- jily and a first kiss.
are we going to do this then?- jily, under the mistletoe, take two
good things take time - soft christmas moment with sirius/harry, raising harry au
ghosts - sirius drinks with ghosts...and his godson.
simply the best - lily convinces sirius to go to the slug club party with her. lily and sirius friendship fic.
a room of ones own- remus and harry surprise sirius for christmas.
sirius and remus were the true chaotic duo at hogwarts. like sure nobody could ever predict what james and sirius were up to. but we all know remus was the real chaotic force behind the marauders. plus, lets be real, when he was alone with james the worst thing you'd find sirius doing is like enchanting a toilet to sing opera.
but find sirus and remus alone together, and on top of the enchanted plumbing, you'd see a whole lot more of them that you'd bargained for. like honestly i don't know what the other prefects would have dreaded more. finding sirus and remus turning every suit of armor into a fluffy bunny suit, or them shagging behind said suits of armor.