When You're Attractive (physical, Sense Of Humor, Personality, Etc) And Autistic, It's Very Hard To Get

When you're attractive (physical, sense of humor, personality, etc) and autistic, it's very hard to get people to take your struggles seriously.

You're frequently alone because you have no idea how to initiate a conversation, read signs of interest, figure out when it's okay to approach someone, etc. You take wild guesses that cause many people to think there's something wrong with you. Sometimes your wild guesses work, but only temporarily. You're right back to being alone shortly after.

You complain about how hard it is to get people to like you.

Then, every once in a while, someone who finds you attractive approaches you and flirts with you. You play along. To anyone who witnesses that, it seems like you have no trouble getting people to like you. They may even be jealous of you. But because you don't know how to continue the interaction beyond just playing along, it doesn't last long. Or you try to continue the interaction without knowing how to do it the right way and your clinginess turns them off.

The next time you complain, they use that one time you were approached as evidence that you're just being negative. But it's not something you can duplicate. It happened out of your control. You can't just wait around for it to happen again. Sure, it probably will happen again eventually, but it could be months before it happens again, and you don't want zero social interaction for months.