Are Your Glasses A Result Of Unconfessed Sin, Deborah? Then Neither Is My Mood Disorder ☕

And Remember Kids

oh god it so is

this tweet has been on my mind for several days because god they’re so right

I actually love hearing about reformed people's stories. I love hearing about people who were in toxic communities or people who used to objectively be dickheads talking about how they got out of that. How they made themselves better.

I hate how most people's initial reaction to stories like that are things like:

"How could you have ever done those things?!" "Oh my god, you believed those things?!" "Well it doesn't un-do the harm you did!"

People incessantly advocate for change but then refuse to allow people who have changed the grace of being acknowledged and given opportunities and chances.

I love hearing about ex-antis talking about how they don't spend their days being angry and sending death threats anymore.

I love hearing about ex-homophobes who realized there's no magic law about what is "natural."

I love reformed bullies talking about how they made amends with their victims and spend their days being considerate of others.

You can't scream about wanting people to change but then expect them to spend the rest of their lives stuck in the past and on who they used to be. You can't expect people to spend the entire rest of their lives grovelling and apologizing and demeaning themselves.

Instead of clinging to who they were, latch onto who they are.

Ask how they got out of it. Commend them on changing. Enjoy that there's one less cause of harm in the world.

Part of my own healing process has been accepting that there's a lot of things in my past I won't be getting apologies for. Which means that in most situations, it's up to me to decide whether or not I can move on in those relationships without one.

Sometimes I can.

Sometimes I really can't.

So when someone from my evangelical past apologized for how things were between us back then, it really meant a lot. I've recently grown to appreciate how much more emotional awareness we all have about apologies these days, viewing them as something to offer another person because they deserve it—and because we care about them—rather than a transaction to assuage our own guilt. And yes, the recipient might not accept our apology. They might not forgive us. The relationship may remain broken. But acknowledging the way we've hurt someone, taking that first step back toward harmony and wholeness… it matters.

Me and my little demon <3

Listened to Ava Max’s Kings & Queens 50000x and this is what came out.

I love my husband but god sometimes I wish I was single

STUDIO GHIBLI MOVIES AS FILM GENRES: COMEDY requested by @studiobhibli

Howl’s Moving Castle (2004) Porco Rosso (1992) Spirited Away (2001) Ponyo (2008) Kiki’s Delivery Service (1989) Castle in the Sky (1986)

I am my own sovereign