#hopepunk #I Needed That #will Be My Tradition Too Now #happy New Year

I agree! Actually, the whole show kind of disproves Kant's attempt to base ethics on universal laws and reasonable choices. What actually helps Eleanor and the others become better people is:

1/ The recognition that being kind to others feels good for us as well. That we do not have to lose something by being kind, at the opposite we gain. Being kind makes us feel good, nourishes our soul, builds trust in others, and better relationships, and good relationships make us happy. I believe recognizing the connection between being kind and our own well-being is the first step.

2/ Facing the reasons why we are unkind, AKA our trauma, so therapy and personal growth basically. At the end of the show, it is what all people who die have to do to get to The Good Place. Healing, growth, and learning that being kind rules.

Not to ramble about the good place but do you ever think about that bit in season 1 where Chidi sarcastically says "do I also need to tell you not to throw sand" and Eleanor responds with "throwing sand is an excellent way to put out a vodka fire" and how that sums up Chidi's character arc so well as well as challenging moral positions like Kant's that claim that there is one exact solution to any given moment because yes, we would all immediately consider throwing sand to be bad, but sometimes it is Genuinely useful and good to throw sand and to apply the ideology of "throwing sand is bad" to Every situation will be to die in a vodka fire.

the creators of Ted Lasso really said we’re going to make a football show using every rom-com trope and beat not about an actual romantic pairing but rather to tell a story about grown ups becoming better people through love, openness, mutual support, and therapy.

SPOT THE HETERO CHALLENGE

tiktoks like these crack me up because they look so cute and the comments are full of people tagging their partners but like these fish are FIGHTING

they are PISSED at each other and the only weapons they have are their teeny tiny fishy teeth

Since I'm therapist-posting recently:

Legitimately self-compassion is the biggest mental health life hack of all time. I'm NOT talking about self-esteem. You do NOT have to like yourself one bit. You don't have to believe that you're a good person who deserves good things. You just have to believe that you're a person who deserves the things all people deserve.

You can't get from "I'm the Worst" to "I'm a worthy and lovable person" without passing through "I'm just a regular fuckup like everybody else."

Try it on. If you're really addicted to being mean to yourself, you can start by framing it as I'm Not Special. Embrace being a regular fuckup like everybody else.

the thing about the garden of eden is that while eve was partially deceived into eating the fruit of knowledge, she primarily did it of her own volition because she wanted to know. whereas adam only ate it to be with eve. she's everything he's just ken

@batshit-auspol congrats ur famous

stop playing it cool, just be passionate and intense and insane and whoever sticks around is meant for you

not sure if this will make sense to anyone besides me but: the antidote to negativity is not positivity, its warmth