I Know Calla. 

Common father experience

dad: "you forgive your mom way easier than you ever forgive me"

me: "she raised me and you were consistently hostile and absent"

dad: "wooooooooooooow"

Something I noticed when I was stripping was that the younger, “hipper,” generally white patrons I came into contact with were by far the most vested in the whole “emotionally invasive performance of enthusiastic consent” thing. They all wanted to hear how I was doing it because I was “empowered” or an “exhibitionist” or just “a slutty sexual deviant that just does this for fun.” Like, I can’t even tell you how many times I actively encouraged this or worked it into a spiel, because nothing kills a sale like a pang of conscience alerting men that maybe this smart, seemingly stable girl doesn’t want to be here. I think that thinking I was “into it” somehow made it easier for them to feel like they weren’t just giant losers paying for sex.

I am entirely convinced that men only care about women being “empowered” by things like sex work because its easier on their ego as consumers, not because they give a shit about our wellbeing. Sex positive feminism is a dream come true for these men - all the benefits of exploiting women as sexual commodities without any guilt or stigma for being a creepy ass john.

Exhibit 3106

Absolutely baffling suggested post from horsedotcom

thinking about when a very attractive young woman wearing a home depot uniform posted a completely normal selfie on her twitter and then when it blew up men were immediately asking “when’s the OF dropping??” and when she said “I would never make an OF” a bunch of OF creators were upset about it and acted like this woman not wanting to do it was a personal insult toward them

the way everyone felt so fucking comfortable trying to push and guilt this woman into joining OF is just another reminder that if even one woman has a price tag, the rest of us will just be seen as products that haven’t been put on the market yet

@cptsdfoundation

The Connection Between PTSD and the Menopausal Transition

I made a post about male suicide a while back and got a lot of shit.

I just wanted to tell you that a friend of mine works for Samaritan health service for their suicide hotline. She told me a 'funny' story.

The majority of her time is spent screening and blocking phone numbers so that the lines are free for people who need help. Why does she have to do this ? Hundreds of times a day men would call up while masturbating, of course they would only stay on the line if the operator was female, which the majority are.

Men have always taken advantage of women's kindness and they always will. It is not our job.

A cervical cancer charity (JoTrust) has the term "bonus hole" in their official glossary.

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