Once On Facebook I Argued With 2 Different Men On 2 Different Subjects In 2 Different Groups. It Had

Once on facebook I argued with 2 different men on 2 different subjects in 2 different groups. It had nothing to do with feminism. A few hours later, both men sent me private messages saying almost the exact same thing : one said “suck my dick” the other said “you should only open your mouth if it’s to suck dicks”. Another time I was discussing the pressure women face to shave their armpit hair and this guy replied “nobody gives a fuck about your pubes lmao”.

When women debate men, men often end up making lured comments, sexual jokes or just simply throwing sexual insults. I’ve seen it countless times. It usually happens when the woman stands her ground/doesn’t change her mind/has a strong opinion about something/is a good debater. Their goal is to shut the woman up, put her in her place as the sexual object she is, humiliate her, make her uncomfortable, scare her, reduce her to her sex, remind her that she is worthless ultimately and might as well shut up. The goal is also to disqualify her in the eyes of anybody else who might be listening to her.

But it’s also very telling how men consider sex as a weapon to humiliate and control women.

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