An Ode To Testosterone Weight Gain

Y'know, when cis people pull the 'All trans men have to do to pass is throw on a hoodie and cut their hair.' It's like... Right. That's dumb, but you're cis, and you will never understand the lived trans experience.

It bothers me more when trans women say it. Because it's like? You know things aren't that easy, you are trans.

Trans women get shoulder dysphoria from feeling like they're too wide, hip dysphoria from feeling like they're too slim, chest dysphoria from feeling like it's too flat, voice dysphoria from feeling like it's too low, height dysphoria from feeling too tall. And no one will suggest to them that these feelings (and subsequent perceptions and hate from cis people) will be solved by growing out their hair and throwing on a dress.

What makes them think trans men don't experience the exact same things but in reverse? Shoulders that feel too narrow, hips that feel too wide, chest that feels too big, voice that feels too high, height that feels too short.

If you experience dysphoria, know dysphoria, and know how awful it can get. And you also know that cis people will use these things against you in order to misgender you. Then I do not understand why you would pretend another party in the same category would not have these issues whatsoever.

And I feel the need to clarify, because this always happens when someone makes a post about trans men's struggles. This is not a dig at trans women, this is not transmisogyny. This is about a very specific group of trans people who downplay the issues of trans men. If you are not part of that group, good! Then this is not a dig at you.

If you have a medical kink and are really into musk/smell like me, try using nitrile or latex gloves and Hibiclens antiseptic skin cleanser on you and/or your playmate. Hand sanitizer and citrus scents can also pair nicely with these two. If you're already on injectable medicine, congratulations, you've likely got dozens of alcohol cleansing wipes already in your cabinet.

Your bedroom will smell like a doctor's office. You're welcome.

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My pet peeve about the 'I suggest forcefem' and secret egg jokes

I think we've forgotten that forcefem is an actual kink and that part of kink, even CNC like forcefem, is that anyone you're exposing to it is consenting. Random bloggers are not consenting to having your kink suggested to them, even as a joke, it's really weird and uncomfortable.

Notice how there aren't gimmick blogs associated with other CNC practices? Because people generally know it's kind of rude to go around bringing your kink to people's attention especially to 'suggest' they take part.

But I guess you're just forgetting forcefem is a kink because the idea of being forced to be a girl is either hot to you or just 'kinda funny and not serious' because it's just femininity/being a girl which has never and never will cause any harm because of how soft and pure womanhood is right?

On top of that there's a fairly large population of trans men, trans masculine and trans neutral people on here who (unless they happen to have that kink or are particularly unbothered) probably don't want to have someone go 'the answer to this issue, problem or other statement is to allow someone to force you to be a girl'.

Inciting some kind of dysphoric or uncomfortable reaction in anyone even a cis person is a huge dick move even as a 'joke'. Just because it wasn't made to be taken seriously, doesn't mean it's not someone involving unconsenting people in their kink.

In the same vein people shouldn't have anyone questioning their gender and going 'haha you're probably trans!' especially when it's mostly 'you are probably trans femme'. Tell me you don't understand or appreciate gnc men, feminine trans men or men doing anything not commonly associated with being masculine without telling me. Not everything is a sign someone is actually a girl and if it is, you might push her way back into the closet by making it your business like that.

Basically it's really rude and inappropriate to play with people's emotions like that, especially involving a kink as part of it, just because you're not bothered and find it funny.

favorite ship dynamic

you don't stop getting percieved as whatever sex they assume you first had when you come out btw.

come out as a trans man to your school? youre a weird girl that is also trans. you are hated. you have 0 of the privelege of being treated as not a woman and all the horribleness of bigotry. you are whatever gender that will harm you most.

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"oh sorry u cant go on this school trip because yr not a girl and they dont wanna room with you and if you room with any men you are horribly unsafe"

"oh sorry you don't wanna be sexually harassed? well yr a man who cares? this is punching up. be a man why are you upset?"

"mm you have no say here actually cuz youre a GIRL and girls don't have a voice here. ur body my choice tehe"

and many more.

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all of these things can be directed at the same person. you are not more priveleged than other trans people cuz some losers out there have the most basic radfem ass understanding of how oppression works. you culd pass perfectly but the moment they know you are trans you will experience the harmful intersectionality between misogyny and transphobia. to deny that ever happened and that there are complex experiences out there is to deny trans people of their oppression. no matter your intention it is horrible and self harming to the community.

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