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self-made man // march 2023

I’d suggest firefighter sereshaw but I don’t want to summon a buddie shipper issue again 😭 So how about Hangman as a lifeguard and Rooster as a surfer?

and then they wrestled playfully in the sand :)

something something how phoenix got her callsign

trans people who are anti t4t make me so sad. because beyond just not knowing what being t4t means, the fact that they believe that t4t is just being a chaser is indicative of a deeper issue, being that cis people have ingrained the idea that we are unfuckable and unloveable, disgusting by nature, and that anybody who would voice attraction to us, a step further, ONLY CHOOSE TO DATE TRANS PEOPLE, would be a pervert with a disgusting fetish who wont see them as equal.

thats not what t4t is.

t4t is the rejection of the idea that we are inherently disgusting, just because we are in the eyes of a cisnormative society.

t4t is the understanding that we are safer and stronger together as a community than apart.

t4t is seeing your trans boyfriend try on clothes from your old boy wardrobe that you hated growing up but now your least favorite shirt is your favorite because its the perfect shade of red that brings out his eyes.

t4t is teaching your trans girlfriend that has been scared to do her own makeup how youve learned from other trans women, who learned from other trans women, who learned from other trans women.

t4t is doing your testosterone shots together and kissing each others sticks after you put the bandaid on.

t4t is holding the door for your trans girlfriend and showing her the chivalry she didn't get from her dad growing up, but its ok because you can show her now.

t4t is being on the phone with your partner who just came out as trans/nonbinary after seeing you, YOU, live your truth, and them asking you to help them find a new name, the perfect name for them, and you hope theyll carry that part of you forever.

you are trans and that is beautiful. your transness is beautiful. trans love is beautiful. dont let ANYBODY make you feel unworthy of sex or love. THATS what being t4t means.

Phalloplasty Information - Consultation with Dr. Crane

At the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference I had a short consultation with Dr. Crane following his workshop. I had another short consult with him last August during Gender Odyssey as well, so I had the chance to address questions I wasn’t able to prior. This post will detail my personal experience and will also explain details such as size limits in RFF (forearm) phalloplasty. Pictures will correspond to the text below them.

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I spent 3 years in the army and was stationed in Bavaria for that whole time. And I think it’s funny how military characters are portrayed in fiction 90% of the time. Half of that is unfamiliarity on the part of creators(no matter how many military consultants they bring on) and half of that is the front soldiers put on to civilians. A few things that might not have been made clear so far, in case anyone is writing characters who are or were soldiers and are looking for more insight: 

They’re not all hard-asses- mostly soldiers are just kids(the main age group the military advertises to and targets in recruitment) not unlike college kids. The difference is they have a 24 hour job and some handle it differently than others. Suicide and depression are huge issues in the military and once people leave. You spend a minimum of 3 years(unless booted or chaptered out for medical reasons) in a completely different world living by completely different rules. It’s jarring for some and sometimes 14 weeks of basic training, which is designed to basically indoctrinate you- break you down and build you back up again into what the military calls for, is not enough to get a kid suited for that kind of life. It’s not for everybody and unfortunately, some don’t find that out until it’s too late. You can’t just quit the Army obviously, so you have to spend 3 years in misery until you’re set loose(me).

Guys who have been in for 1-5 years are pretty normal, usually. A military base is pretty much a microcosm of regular society, except Monday through Friday, 0600 to 1700, we’re all doing jobs geared to one purpose. They’re not all consulate cardboard professionals. Soldiers like the same movies, they like the same video games, there’s nerds who play D&D or LARP on the weekend, there’s guys who do photography in their spare time for couples and families on base. A buddy of mine is in the process of getting his first novel(first in a fantasy series) published. I’m proud of you Davis! 

I can only say this about the Army because that’s where I was, but… The Army is filled with the gayest straight guys you’ll ever meet lmao. Seriously though, 70-80% of guys in the military, especially the younger ones who grew up in the late 90s to early 2000s, are hyper comfortable with their sexuality. Sometimes it goes overboard. I mean, we spent every day together at work, all day. We did a bunch of stupid, senseless shit together and complained about it together. On the weekends, in which we were cut loose, we all lived in the same barracks buildings and saw each other if we weren’t already hanging out anyways. I’ve seen some of the most homoerotic behavior in the military. Gay chicken was a thing. Two guys would lean in and kiss to see who would back out first. But when neither one is scared, gay chicken turns into two guys damn near making out, or taking a bite of food the other guy had in his teeth. We cuddled together in the cold during training exercises, jokingly held hands in morning formation just to get a reaction from our leadership(usually just for them to roll their eyes and ask if we were done). 

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Source: Emmett Preciado IG

He cut his hair but apparently he donated it so he's forgiven

themes commonly found in international friendships

- ‘u dont have (insert food/music/restaurant here) over there??’ - ‘wait what time is it. shouldnt u be asleep’ - alternatively: timezoned/clockblocked again - ‘do u need a hug. have a virtual hug’ - weird slang terms - ‘i will fight everyone thats mean to u. i will fight them rn’ - vague embarrassment regarding ur accent - ‘dont maKE ME COME OVER THERE’ - ‘oh yeah i have a friend who lives in (insert country here) and apparently’ - no real hugs :(( - suffering - fahrenheit vs celsius - the measuring of things in feet fucks one of u up, probably

“Do you think he hates me?”

“Hates you? No. No way,”

“…But- how do you know?”

“If he hated you he would not be asleep on you right now. He doesn’t hate you,”